How To Be A Pleasant Person

"Encounter money plus money" and "meet people's age reduction" are two kinds of speech skills that are used to cater for people's general psychology in verbal communication.

Addition -- money plus money

Shopping is an everyday activity of our ordinary people.

In our minds, we can buy "beautiful things" with "cheap", which is a good character of shoppers. It is a symbol of smart people. Although we can not and can not be all good at shoppers, we still hope that our shopping ability can be recognized by others.

Therefore, when we buy an item, if we spend 50 yuan and others think it needs only 30 yuan, we will feel a sense of loss and feel that we will not buy anything.

But when we spend 30 yuan and others think it needs 50 yuan, we have a sense of excitement and are very good at shopping.

Because of the existence of such a shopping mentality, the skill of "meeting things with money" has its own way of speaking.

Meeting money plus money means deliberately overestimating the price of others when judging others' shopping items, so as to make each other happy and get better psychological compatibility.

For example, Jia bought a nice suit. B knows the market situation. The clothes can be bought at two hundred or three hundred yuan.

So, when he commented, he said, "this suit is good. I'm afraid I'll get four hundred or five hundred yuan." he laughed and said happily, "my brother said it wrong, I bought it 220 yuan!"

The statement here is very technical, and when he did not know how much money he spent on the suit, he deliberately said the price of the high clothing would make the other person feel a sense of achievement, and of course, it would make the other party happy.

The method of meeting money plus money is very good for the other party, and the operation is very simple.

Of course, we should pay attention to the overvaluation of prices. First, we must have a bottom line for the price, and two, we should not overestimate it. Otherwise, we will not get the good results.

Subtraction

All kinds of people, all kinds of people, are just passer by.

However, everyone wants to be young forever, not to go too early.

Therefore, adults are very sensitive to their age.

If a young man of thirty is regarded as a middle aged man, can he be at ease?

Because adults are generally afraid of old age, it's a pleasant speaking skill to "meet people on a reduced age".

This technique is characterized by the fact that the age of the other person is as small as possible, so that the other party feels young and well maintained, giving birth to a psychological satisfaction.

For example, a more than 30 year old person, you say he looks only more than 20 years old, a more than 60 year old person, you say he looks only forty or fifty years old, this "beautiful mistake", the other side will not think you lack eyesight, disgusted with you, on the contrary, he will feel good for you and form a psychological compatibility.

This method only applies to adults (especially in the middle and old age). On the contrary, for children and adolescents, it is better to use the method of "putting people on the age of years" (age to the larger part) because they have a desire to grow up.

Above what we call the language addition and subtraction: when things are added to money, when people are reducing their age, it is a way of letting go of their best.

But as long as our aims are fair and aboveboard, this kind of commitment will be harmless to ourselves, to the other side and to society. On the contrary, it can bring joy to the other side and bring happiness to the society. At best, we can only say that they are "beautiful mistakes" and "harmless plots". Why should we not?