How Do You Get Along With Your Peers?

After a long vacation, I went back to work for more than a week, and a short period of workplace calmness was gradually broken.

During the seven day holiday, only physical fatigue was relieved. Those stubborn psychological problems did not fade away.

Ten days later, finally, some unsolved old problems broke out.

Case 1 how do I get along with my peers?

Faye: there are peers in the office, which is a good thing.

Because my peers are easiest to get along with, in fact, I find it difficult to get along with their peers in the office.

My office and my colleague H are the same age, but somehow, H always brings out a contest with me.

Once I was in the office feeling, "how can I not understand what a movie director wants to express?"

H immediately sneered, "no?

You can't even understand this? "

Even when I had more pieces of meat in my usual lunch box, H would squeeze me and say, "I'll pick up any more meat in the bowl than you do."

I am a person who has nothing to do with things, but I think H always regards me as an eyesore.

I wanted to have a good talk with H, but she always put on an expression of "lazy you".

I also wanted to reflect the situation with the head of the Department, but I was worried that he thought I was too busy and careful.

Evade the solution of a problem by walking away from it?

I'm not resigned to what I'm going to resign for someone like H.

How can I get along with her if I can continue to stay and raise my head every day?

HR's viewpoint is to live "rough".

Wang Chunwei: cooperation between colleagues is just like marriage.

Two people from different families can come together and rely on the mutual appreciation.

After the passion, two people have to think more about how to manage their families well.

This involves the issue of cooperation.

A lot of cooperation is not a success, not a technical one, but a character problem.

There are different personalities in your life. You can't expect others to change into the same character as you.

It's easy to change the nature of rivers and mountains, but you can't change your content and confidence.

Many times, people should live "rough", do not care too much about other people's statements and practices.

I think Faye is a man who is not confident and firm.

Any wind and grass will affect her mood and affect her work.

For Faye, increasing the content and confidence level of inclusiveness is particularly important.

Duan Dong: a few days ago, some friends complained to me that a man with a superior family would love to wring others, no matter what he did.

In fact, this happens in every unit.

Sometimes, some people will see you disagreeable without any reason, just as H will target Faye in some insignificant trifles.

For me, I only focus on work related matters.

Moreover, perhaps Faye did not notice that H had such an attitude towards all colleagues.

I am not in favour of Faye seeking help from the executive, because the supervisor will think she is more involved and cautious, and with the power of superiors, it will intensify contradictions.

I suggest Faye find a time away from work and have a frank talk with H.

Don't let H give up the face of "lazy you," and you give up and give up.

Besides, people should be skilled in getting along with others.

Hearing H's sarcasm, Faye can give her some half jokes to let her feel that you are not bullied.

People like to pick soft persimmon.

If you can't stand others taking pleasure in you, express or imply the other person.

Case 2 job burnout?

Kitten: I graduated from English in July last year, but after working for a year, I began to feel bored.

Before graduation, I worked in a Hongkong company for three months' yarn merchandising.

That job is not bad, but the problem lies with my boss. He is too difficult to get along with. He never gives a clear answer to things and always shakes his head and sighs at me.

In addition, the company always work overtime, three meals and irregular time, cause my stomach trouble relapse.

The pressure of work is too great and the company's atmosphere is bad, so I quit.

Last August, I went to the government's foreign investment office.

This is a very idle job, but I am really afraid of staying in office for a long time.

Three months later, I resigned resolutely.

After that, I also went to a trading company to do sales, but I could not escape the "three months' vicious circle".

In February this year, I resigned again, because I didn't use any English in three months, and I couldn't exert my professional advantage at all.

The unsatisfactory work has also led to tension between my parents and me.

Under the persuasion of my friend, I decided to go to Shanghai to develop.

But the work is difficult to find, life is not happy, the feeling of floating in the outside is really very bad.

In June of this year, my parents persuaded me to go home.

It may be that the unstable life and work of this year have hit me too hard. I suddenly feel that I have lost my enthusiasm for work.

Life is really tiring. If only we could go to school all the time!

HR view is to cultivate professionalism.

Wang Chunwei: when I do campus recruitment, I often ask students: "in the same educational background, ability and qualifications, why do some students find better opportunities for development?"

In fact, professional skills are just the doorsill. More often than not, a person wants to win the affirmation of all parties.

What kind of people are most popular?

Steadfast people!

On the kitten, I saw something unstable.

Any enterprise does not like such people, and this instability can not be hidden, your words, emotions, eyes are likely to "leak".

On the kitten, I also saw a bad habit - complaining that she attributed many problems to the environment or other people instead of thinking about the problems of individuals.

No enterprise likes people who complain about their lips.

Some time ago, Zhang Ziyi accepted CCTV face to face interview.

In that programme, she mentioned a special feature of foreign film production teams, which is good at protecting actors' emotions.

In fact, enterprises should also protect employees' emotions, while complaining will only produce counterproductive effects.

Remember, when complaining becomes a habit, you become a bug in your eyes.

Duan: unlike the languid illness caused by work stress, Kitty's problem is caused by its own lack of professionalism.

Specifically, kittens lack clear career goals.

Nowadays, many people do not have a career plan when they graduate from university. They feel that finding a job is OK.

It doesn't matter whether the job you find is like what you like and whether you can display your expertise.

But when they really start to do something, they find it very painful to do a job without interest or superiority.

Career planning is sooner rather than later.

If students do not know the direction of career development and do not exercise their abilities according to the needs of the market and enterprises, they will regret lifelong.

Enterprises need people who have certain abilities, not just knowledge background.

Kittens should also realize that any job is challenging, but in any case, a workplace person must be dedicated and truly respectful of what he is doing.

If you always change jobs or have long job vacancies, your career development will be faced with great resistance.

Because in the eyes of outsiders, your lack of persistence and concentration is a question of your professionalism and professionalism.

Case 3: do I have to jump to a good friend's company?

Xinyi: Recently, a good friend who has known me for many years and has a similar disposition invited me to join her own company.

A friend's company is not big, but now it needs a lot of manpower.

I was really excited when I heard the news.

At that time, because there was some contradiction with the supervisor's working methods, I was looking for "next door" for myself and preparing for job hopping.

I had already decided to promise my friend's invitation, but last month's middle school reunion made me hesitate.

On that day, an old schoolmate talked about his own experience.

He went to a IT company to do the market, and one of his "hair children" was also in the company.

The two people were at peace, but for a long time, the contradiction appeared.

The "hair boy" began to worry that the coming of my classmates would steal his thunder.

Gradually, the two did not quarrel, but the relationship grew estranged.

My classmate is a man of temperament, who sticks to his righteousness and values his friends, so he chooses to use his resignation to solve problems.

Finally, the old schoolmate said with one heart and soul: "or distance produces beauty.

Or not even friends! "

I whispered in my mind, "do I have to jump to a good friend's company?"

HR's view is to set aside feelings temporarily.

Wang Chunwei: good friends are not unable to cooperate, but before making a decision, you should be clear about your friends' expectations, your responsibilities and division of labor.

At the same time, you have to turn to see if you have the ability your friend expects.

There is a popular saying that ugly words are in front.

You also have to tell your friends clearly what our solution is if there are problems.

Good work partners can be good friends, but good friends are hard to become good working partners.

A friend's "come over to help me" will leave people in the workplace ignoring a problem. You can help your friend's enterprise develop, but can a friend's business promote your career development?

When a friend opens his mouth, many people can't help themselves, but in the end they find that the platform provided by their friends is not suitable for their own development.

Half a year ago, I watched the movie Harry Porter 3 with my daughter. I still remember a line in it: "choose an important ability."

In the case of all abilities, improper selection of a platform will result in a waste of three or four years.

Especially for graduates and those who lack sense of direction, good and standard enterprises are more conducive to their development.

Duan Dong: job hopping to a good friend's company is not a good choice.

Have you ever wondered if you and your friends are complementary in character?

I remember CEO of DELL said that he and the president of the company are very tacit in their work, and the reason for their tacit understanding is that they have complementary characteristics.

Two people who are very strong can not cooperate because they all want to take the lead.

I suggest Xin Yi ask himself before making a decision: "do I know and like a friend's personality?

Have we ever worked together before?

Is our cooperation tacit? "

When you recall, think more about where there may be a crisis.

Many foreign companies do not approve of working together, because when you work with your family, you will mix too many emotional factors, and you will unconsciously use your understanding of your friends and relatives to infer the outcome of the matter.

What really drives management is related rules and processes.

Faced with the invitation of friends, many people put emotional factors in the first place.

But with the development of the company, it is always necessary to establish professional rules.

But at this time, two friends will have problems at the level of trust, and even create contradictions.