Workplace: Working With Female Bosses, Beware Of Four Pitfalls.

Case: Recently, Zhang Dayong (a pseudonym) was very depressed.

His position is human resources manager. His boss is a capable and beautiful more than 30 year old girl.

On small issues, bosses often insist strongly.

Zhang Dayong sometimes felt that she was making a mountain out of a molehill. She really had a long hair and short experience.

One day, before the class, the boss invited him to have dinner. During the dinner, the boss said that she had a trouble with her boyfriend recently and wanted to hear Zhang Dayong's opinion.

Zhang Dayong gave advice and listened to his boss nod.

Zhang Dayong has a sense of accomplishment.

On the second day, when he went to the boss's office to report the work, he always felt wrong.

Look at the boss's expression, it is also how to see how awkward.

When reporting, he hesitated, unable to compare with last night's talk.

Returning to his seat, Zhang Dayong regretted his performance just now and felt that he had not left a good impression on the boss.

In fact, when Zhang Dayong worked with his female boss, he had unwittingly fallen into the four traps hidden in the organizational structure of "female upper male".

The first trap:

In the relationship between men and women, men are always right, women have to rely on men, has become a lot of men's psychological tendencies.

However, in the organizational relationship between women and men, supervisors are always right, subordinates subordinate to superiors are the basic psychological tendencies of bosses.

The second trap: professional sex embarrassment.

Being a man, being criticized by women is more humiliating than being criticized by men.

Therefore, he used ah q's way - called women "short experience", to save a little dignity for himself.

The third pitfall: the embarrassment of professional sense.

Leaving the hotel and returning to the office, from the benefactor to the obedient, made Zhang Dayong feel "split up".

The fourth trap:

Women are heavy and men are heavy.

Zhang Dayong's boss used female help and male help style to lead male subordinates.

Zhang Dayong had unwittingly broken into the friend relationship of "hero Rescuing America".

Dealing with working relationships with friends is very confusing.

The four traps have a common character: they are to make conflicting roles change and change on different occasions, so as to confuse the parties. As a male subordinate, what we need to do is to enhance the role conversion ability. The so-called "singing what song on what mountain" is the magic weapon to seek peace of mind.