Five Tips For Talking To Strangers

Not long ago, I went to a hotel to see a live drama: a live person who lived in front of me was lying on the bed enjoying the TV program. One of them stayed in front of me, put down his travelling bag, swallowed the dust and washed a cup of strong tea.

He pointed to me reading the book.

"Do you hear accents not in Northern Jiangsu?" "Oh, Zaozhuang people in Shandong!" ah, Zaozhuang is a good place! When I was in primary school, I knew it in the guerrilla comic strip.

Three years ago, I went to Zaozhuang, and I was very interested in it.

After hearing this, the Zaozhuang visitor immediately came to the interest. The two men talked about it from Zaozhuang and the railway guerrillas.

Then the cards were sent to each other, and they ate together. Before sleeping, the two sides signed the contract that they had brought to each other: Zaozhuang guests ordered a batch of air pail for a leather factory in South of Jiangsu, and South of Jiangsu guests obtained a group of reasonably priced negotiable coal from Zaozhuang guests.

Their acquaintance, conversation and success lie in the fact that they have found common ground for "Zaozhuang" and "railway guerrilla forces".

How can we find ourselves with strangers?

1, look at colors and look for common ground.

When strangers meet, one's mental state, spiritual pursuits, life hobbies and so on are all more or less expressed in their expressions, dress, conversation, manners, etc. as long as you are good at observing, you will find your common ground.

A Veterans met the same stranger, and the position was just behind the driver.

The car broke down soon after it hit the road, and the driver's car was not repaired.

The stranger suggested that the driver check the oil way again, and the driver checked it out doubtful and found the cause.

The veteran soldier felt that he could learn from this army.

So he said, "have you been in the army?" "well, it's been six or seven years."

"Oh, we should be comrades in arms.

Where were the troops when you were in the army? "

So the strangers talked, and they were said to be friends later.

And this is the common ground after seeing each other.

Of course, it is necessary to combine this with the interest and interest of oneself, and to be interested in it, and to break the atmosphere of silence.

Otherwise, even if we find common ground, there will be nothing to say, or one or two sentences to be "stuck".

2, take the expedition and reconnaissance common ground.

Two strangers to value, in order to break this silent situation, opening speech is the most important. Some people take the opening ceremony, ask each other's place of origin, identity, and get information; some people listen to the accent, speak, reconnaissance the other side; some start with action, while the side helps others to do some urgent need to help.

The two chronicle gets on a bus from a county seat and sits on a bench.

One of them asked the other party, "where do you get off?" "what the hell do you do?" "me too. Where are you going to Nanjing?" "I went to Shanxi road in Nanjing to have a family relationship. Are you here?" "no, I am a relative from Nanjing."

After the two sides' "fire reconnaissance", the two sides are familiar with the county town and understand Nanjing. They are all familiar with their relatives.

The two men found out that they had talked very much after sharing the same points, and then invited each other to a guest after they got off the bus.

This kind of harmonious effect appears to be accidental. In fact, it also has its inevitable cause: "fire reconnaissance", finding common ground and heading into the Shenzhen Special Administrative Region.

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3, listen to the introduction, guess the common ground.

When you go to a friend's house and meet someone who is very familiar with the two party, you will immediately introduce to the two sides, explain the relationship between the two sides, their identity, work units, and even personality characteristics, hobbies and so on. Careful people will find out what they have in common with themselves from the introduction.

One is the head of the county Price Bureau and a "county middle school" teacher, who met at a friend's home. The master introduced the stranger to them, and they immediately discovered that they were the masters' classmates in common. They immediately talked about each other, and recognized and understood each other, so that they became intimate.

It is important to understand each other carefully when listening to the introductions, find common points and then extend them in conversation, and constantly discover new topics of common concern.

4, try to figure out the conversation and explore common ground.

In order to find out the similarities between strangers and themselves, we can pay attention to the analysis and conjecture when people in need communicate with others. We can also try to figure out the similarities between them when we talk with ourselves.

In a department store in Guangzhou, a man at the South China Sea Fleet said to the waiter, "show me that thing, please."

I also refer to "I" as a genuine Subei dialect in a dictionary.

Another North Jiangsu man served in an army unit in Guangzhou.

Listening to the former sentence, I also told the salesperson the same words with a finger on the goods on the shelf. The words between the lines permeated the local flavor of Northern Jiangsu, so that the two strangers looked at each other and smiled, bought what they wanted to buy, went out the shop and talked about it, asked the troops from the old home, talked about the road they had gone through for several years from the current task, and introduced the future plan.

People who are unfamiliar with a fellow townsman in a strange land will never believe the result of trying to figure out the other's home dialect.

It can be seen that careful analysis of each other's conversation can really turn the stranger into acquaintances and develop into friends by finding out the common ground between the two sides.

5, step by step and dig in common ground.

Finding common ground is not too difficult, but this is only the initial stage of conversation.

With the deepening of conversation, there will be more and more similarities.

In order to make conversation more beneficial to each other, we must dig deeper into the common ground step by step before we can get what we want.

A holiday college student and a comrade who worked in the court met at a common friend's house for dinner. After the introduction of the master, the stranger talked about it. Slowly, the two men found common views on the unhealthy trend in society. They unconsciously started the discussion. They talked about the soil and the root of the society from the appalling social phenomenon, and talked about the expectations of the party and the country from the role of democracy and the rule of law.

The more we talk about it, the more we talk about the shorter the distance between the two sides. The more we talk about the common points between the two sides.

Afterwards, both sides agreed that this talk is beneficial to college students' understanding of society, understanding of the information and demands of the masses of the court comrades, and enhancement of conscientiousness for correcting unhealthy tendencies.

There are still many ways to find common ground, such as the common living environment, common tasks, common directions, common habits and so on, so long as we find out the situation that strangers can not tell is very easy to break.

May strangers meet in the world.