How To Deal With Criticism From Superiors

How to deal with criticism from superiors

The most fearful boss is nothing more than asking for a lot of criticism.

I just told you to make a PPT, and I'll turn it over to you. If you make a pat on the table and say no, you'll have to go over and over again and ignore your reasons.

How can you treat this kind of turtle boss? You can be angry and feel that you have been hurt a lot. You can be stubborn or not; you can also feel that you are small, weak, not being understood and tear washed; you can even escape into the highest good theory, and do everything well in the 150% place, hoping to avoid the terrible roar of your boss.

Leap over the psychological "railing"

How can we follow the instructions of our superiors and not be hurt in our hearts? "If we feel wronged about criticism, it is because we not only listen to the criticism of our superiors, but immediately regard it as our command," BIBA psychologist said.

If we are criticized negatively, we will feel insulted immediately.

Each negative expression is immediately evaluated as an attack on the whole person.

Even some psychologists admit: "it took me years to understand that criticism is nothing but a kind of interpersonal relationship."

It is impossible to have no feedback in daily work, but who is right in criticizing, and who will score in his career.

Although there are numerous reasons for criticizing in daily work, in most cases, criticism is like a proposal put forward by your boss, and criticism is no longer in the mind of accepting suggestions.

It is necessary to analyze and criticize carefully.

For example, criticism like "you are always mistaken" must be calm.

But criticism can be entirely reasonable, for example, "you are always late."

Watch out for coupon accumulation.

People who pursue harmony always like to hide things that annoy themselves. This is the danger of "coupon accumulation" in the workplace.

In the boss's mind, there is a "coupon book" which records the errors of subordinates.

They accumulate things that they think their subordinates do wrong. These things can be very small, even with personal habits of their superiors.

But this boss's psychological secret coupon account is often fatal to subordinates.

For example, the new female employee likes coffee very much, but never adds to the coffee machine. She is noted for it.

Before long she did not greet her, she used her boss's small calculator.

He was also remembered for the two pen.

One day, she was late, and though it was cold, it became a day of reckoning. After lunch break, she opened the window.

The coupon book is already full.

In a loud quarrel, negative records are revealed and the atmosphere deteriorates.

Subordinates who use coupons are often criticized without mental preparation.

In response to this, BIBA psychologist suggests: "first of all, keep cool headed, and then mentally count from 1 to 5, then take a deep breath and consciously start to spirit, telling yourself that this is probably because" coupon accumulation "is playing a role.

Then try to listen to criticism.

By the way, can you ask what the boss would do in his position? As the saying goes, we should have a good attitude towards criticism.

"I support myself" is always effective.

And when the boss launched a general attack on our confidence, this sentence has always been an ideal shield for protection.

If criticism is entirely reasonable, the above sentence will also help.

After all, a mistake does not mean the end of the world.

Besides, you should have "proper expectations" for yourself.

BIBA psychologist suggests adopting this attitude: "I do my best. If I make a mistake, then I forgive myself, and always have the mental preparation for my boss to criticize."

From distaste to close distance

The reason why a person hates his boss is probably to admit that he is working hard but not sure of his boss.

So simply blamed the problem as "the boss likes to find his own trouble". As time passes, he hates his boss.

In fact, the boss is not your friend or family member, its task is to make the company run smoothly, there is no need to connect with your mind.

Please remember that you don't have to like him to work together, so long as you establish sufficient communication and do not let disgust interfere with your work, it is a qualified subordinate relationship.

Remember! Arguing with your boss is always the most stupid thing to do.

First of all, as a subordinate, you should understand that you should call the order from top to bottom and ask for advice from the bottom up.

The command means unconditional obedience. Even if there are different opinions, it is necessary to understand the intention of the boss in obedience, and the suggestion means that the boss can ignore it.

There are contradictions with superiors. The way of handling should follow three principles.

First of all, we need to think about what we can bring to the team; then we will consider whether it is worthwhile to balance the gains and losses if the debate goes on. Third, we should reflect on whether there is any deficiency in the quarrel.

The only way for employees to communicate effectively and reasonably with their superiors is to take more responsibilities rather than compete for fame and fortune.

The best way to overcome the disgust of your boss is to change the mindset and cut in perspective of your boss.

In the past, you would probably focus on communicating with your boss in his scolding and demanding, or something bad for your boss, such as temporary placement work, harm to work on time and so on.

However, if we cut the impression of establishing the boss from the perspective of negative feelings to the accumulation of positive emotions, it will be different for a long time.

In mind, we should use "we" and tie ourselves together with each other. When we have a chance to travel with our superiors, we should grasp the opportunity to sit side by side (for example), because people will feel secure and feel at ease for the people sitting next to them, and feel comfortable with their superiors, so that their superiors feel comfortable with themselves, and eliminate mutual disgust. They can make communication more smoothly and better to get along with each other. If one day, when you discover that your boss is complaining to someone or something in private with you, share his secret, do not spread the complaints that your boss tells you, then you will surely become a person trusted by your superiors, and it will not be so annoying to get along with them. When speaking with superiors, use "I" less, and put the feelings and positions of the other side in place.