What Happens When Work Invade Life?

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Recently, in the Tianhe area gathered by white-collar workers in Guangzhou, a "mobile floating cloud decompression cabin" modified by bus has appeared in the commercial centers of Guangzhou tianHebei, Huan Shi Road, sports east and Dongfeng Road, and attracted a lot of passers-by's attention.

In this decompression cabin, there are massage reading area, table football area and basketball shooting area. Many white-collar workers on the way are eager to "enter the cabin" after the end of their work.

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Only in this way can you find that no matter what form of decompression methods can be sought after by white-collar workers, this can not help but arouse people's thinking: how should we find the lost life?

Case 1: searching for a lack of identity.

Jenny is second in the family. Because she is not as good as her other brothers and sisters in her childhood, she is often neglected by her family. She has been used to being taciturn in front of her relatives and never expressing herself.

After graduation, she actively sought work, and devoted all her enthusiasm and faith to her achievements.

Ever since she discovered that her career could bring her positive feelings, she would spend more time on her work and work overtime, even at the expense of spending time with her family.

Expert interpretation

Xiong Ye, a senior consultant at brenton management consulting group, believes that the experience of early childhood has made Jenny have a strong purpose after graduation, that is, through hard work to prove that she is better than other brothers and sisters, and is recognized and endorsed by her family.

So, Jenny's work is relatively strong. Her enthusiasm and faith can support her persistence. Her persistence in work is the key to success.

However, the feeling of inferiority comes from the fact that parents do not get their parents' affirmation from their childhood, and their work is the most likely to provide such a good feeling. In order to maintain comfort and to be sure again, this kind of repetition is reinforced, and this hard work will lead to severe overwork and finally form a state of job burnout.

Professional tips

Xiong Ye said, being in a state of job burnout is very painful - mentally unstable, irritable, easy to attack, depressed, suspicious of oneself, feel unfit for a job, tired of working but still work overtime, physiologically menopause, hair loss, headache and dizziness, sleep difficulty and so on, forming a vicious circle.

Therefore, the pformation between work and life is not only helpful to mental health, but also beneficial to physical health.

Case two: using a sense of control to balance the sense of control.

A graduate from a famous university and a professional husband in a company is a "hen pecked husband". Because of his gentle and restrained temperament, his wife is the boss of the family.

He did not like to argue with his wife. Whenever he was depressed, he would go back to the company to fill himself with work.

As a middle-level company, there are tens of thousands of people who obey his instructions. He feels that he can get a sense of control as a man from his career, so he is more satisfied with his job identity and often runs away from home.

Expert interpretation

In the view of xiong Ye, Jun Cheng, by gaining a sense of control in the company, balances the sense of control of a man lost in his home. It is a typical job to escape intimacy or responsibility to his loved ones, and to avoid a responsibility that he or she does not want to face or do not want to fulfill.

Jun Cheng fills himself with work, so that he does not have to face the discordant relationship with his wife, or he can avoid arguing with his wife.

In fact, this kind of escape can not solve the problems encountered by the family in the family. Instead, it will make the problem accumulate.

Professional tips

Xiong Ye believes that for the sake of Mr. Cheng's situation, he should not take evasive attitude. Instead, he should spend more time on the premise of assigning his working time to face the family, to spend more time with his family, to enhance communication with his wife, and to improve the relationship with his wife.

To deal with good family relationships can make the family a strong backing for the cause, so that they can face the work more actively. Only in this way, can work be a smooth road to success, rather than an excuse for escaping.