Why Are Workplace Women Far Away From Elite Women?

If many girls are still complacent at graduation, they will begin to waver at the beginning of their lives.

Many women in the workplace have different attitudes towards whether they want to turn themselves into "strong women". Some even fear that they will become elite women.

Some women are afraid of success.

　　 Occupation Women's fear of success was discovered in the last century. Martina Hoerner, an American psychologist, has studied and revealed that 65% of women are generally afraid of the results after success, while men only 9%. This kind of psychological state of success still exists today. For men, it may be just a matter of working hard, but this is obviously not suitable for women. If they want to go to the top of their careers, they should not only pay more efforts than men, but also face various pressures and challenges, including the demands of the society on the role of women, and how to balance the relationship between career and family. All these make many. Workplace Women are suspicious or even shaken about their career pursuit. Some people choose to return to the traditional family pattern of "husband and son", while many people hang around in balancing different roles, and always struggle to yearn for it. Success Also afraid of the contradiction of success.

Gao Zhi "returnees" choose to return to a stable life for families.

If many girls are still complacent at graduation, they will begin to waver at the beginning of their lives. Next year, Lucy, 30, is now a teacher in a senior vocational and technical school. This steady income and two long holidays a year seems to be very enviable, but not her first choice. Lucy, who was born in the Department of psychology, went to the UK to pursue further studies after graduation. He attacked the master's degree in human resource management. After two years, he returned home and was ambitious to work hard. "I have entered several different companies, but in those days," returnees "have long been unpopular. They not only earn a lot of money, but also work hard and work overtime every day. Lucy, who was a student union president from the University, told reporters: "actually, I was not afraid of hardship and fear of fatigue. After coming back from England, I had been longing for success and worked hard every day, even at the expense of private time. It's just that I'm getting older, and I have a regular boyfriend around me. My feelings are not bad, and family matters are on the agenda. Changing jobs and returning to a relatively stable teaching team is mainly the meaning and arrangement of Lucy's father. "Considering that the end of this year is going to get married and have babies, I finally compromise. Women are not much more than men. There are too many things to consider," she said. She said.

What are the problems of workplace women?

1, women get anxious because they get it. Men are anxious because they don't get it.

Men are prone to conquer anxiety. When they have not yet got a job or achieve a purpose, anxiety has forced them to do everything possible to fight for it, but once they get it, they are careless and relaxed and relaxed. Women are the opposite. When she doesn't get it, she is handsome, and once she gets it, she starts to worry. Women are not afraid of getting lost. They are afraid of getting lost.

In terms of gender, the typical psychological manifestation is that when a girl is in love, a girl is a proud princess. Once married, a woman is worried about a man's disloyalty and can't tie her husband to his belt. The psychological reason is that women are used to guarding, and men are used to attacking. Only when women are more independent in psychology and personality can they have a stable and harmonious mood.

2, the wiser and weaker a woman is, the wiser and bolder a man is.

Smart women are usually sensitive, sensitive people react strongly to external stimuli. When a woman feels other people's bad mood, pressure and certain risks, she may be depressed and uneasy, but retreat in the workplace. Cleverness is easy to make a woman successful, and it also makes her intolerant of stress. On the contrary, men's intelligence and intelligence enable them to succeed in their careers, thus making them more confident and bolder. The weakness of women because of intelligence is actually rooted in the patriarchal culture of "women's talent and virtue". Even today, smart women are very popular in the workplace. However, in family life, intelligence is often not regarded as the advantage of women.

Women's intelligence is the result of the accumulation of knowledge and the evolution of information age. We can no longer return to the past when women do not smell the window. Only when women accept and adapt to their intelligence will they have a bright future and a bright future.

3, the younger and more valuable a woman is, the more mature and charming a man is.

This state is related to the reproductive age of men and women. The younger the woman is, the easier it is to give birth, and the male's reproductive cycle is much longer than that of women. When a young man meets a young woman, she may have an instinctive impulse, which is the impulse of life. In career, the more mature men are, the easier it is to succeed. Therefore, successful men and young women are attracted to each other.

However, older women do not need to lose. When beauty fading, wisdom grows. Wisdom and beauty are two important components of women's charm, and wisdom is longer and more reliable.

4, the more successful a woman's career is, the more dependent on her emotions. The more successful a man is, the more independent he will be.

We can see from our examples that successful women are often apologetic to men. A successful wife may feel guilty because she has no time to cook for her husband, and the term "strong woman" is usually equivalent to the unfortunate marriage. The motive of women's pursuit of career may be for their husbands and children, but once a woman's career is successful, she will lose her self-confidence in psychology. But men feel good about themselves because of their success, because many men regard success as their first pursuit of life.

Therefore, to become a happy woman, it is necessary to be persistent and natural in career, and to be independent and confident in life.

5, women often play the weak, and men tend to live in the strong.

Women's weakness is a weapon for women's self-protection.

Women often use weak points to arouse men's strong consciousness to get men's protection, which is also a strategy of weakness and strength. Seeking protection is a woman's nature. Being protected is the dignity of a woman, while men are willing to play the role of protecting God. It may be because Chinese traditional ideas believe that women are the appendages of men, and women are possessed and controlled by men. At this point, women go with the flow and restrict their strength by their weakness.

6, women care about the process, strive to do better, men pay attention to the results, not pay attention to the way.

Women do things not only for the final result, but for the enjoyment of the process. Men often go straight to the theme and do not care about the process to achieve their goals. Women live by playing. No matter how beautiful, old or young, women are almost idealists. Dreams are the sunshine and rain in women's lives. People's attention and being protected are natural psychological needs of women. Men's purpose is very strong, which is directly related to men's intense pursuit of material desires. Men are born with the responsibility of "self-cultivation, family management, and rule of the world", so they always run on the road, always full of goals, but often feel anxious.

In fact, women who have no goals may also set a lofty goal for themselves. It is a great feeling to accomplish tasks and achieve goals. It is the joy of effective realization of life energy and the free expression of individual will.

Experts believe that workplace planning is very important for women.

In fact, the above situation is not uncommon. The reason why they are shaken is mainly because it is a natural process of physiological change, that is to say, the motherhood of women is beginning to play a role, and the interest in work gradually turns to "the husband and the son". Secondly, the perennial workplace competition may make them tired, instead of wishing to be the woman behind them. The responsibilities of women in the family make it easier for them to give up their pursuit of work than men.

In order to balance the relationship between them, experts should first plan their life. A reasonable life plan will determine whether women can strike a balance between family and career from the strategic level. There is no contradiction between family and career before marriage. Once married, the conflict between family and career will become more and more prominent. Therefore, from the beginning of marriage, women will have to plan for the next several years, how to give birth to children, when to start focusing their energies on work, and where to plan their own work. Once planning is made, family and career will be focused on stage, so that the family members will be more acceptable and not be in a hurry. "Defining the key points is crucial." He said. Like men, family is the cornerstone of women's career. If the family relationship is not handled well, it will be difficult for women to concentrate on their work matters, so that they will feel "homesick when they are at home and feel homesick at work". Experts say that we must dare to choose when necessary. "If you get married and have children, you will not be good to your children and yourself if you have the best childbearing age, so you must make a decision in this matter."