How Do We Talk About Fighting And Communicating?

< p > many people's quarrel is entangled in this issue.

Just imagine, if the other person says, "I hope you have time to accompany me", and you say: "I really can not accompany you every day.

If you have three days a week to accompany you, can you accept it? "You see, is this really the beginning of communication? When you say this, the other party may realize that his request is unreasonable, and will be willing to put forward a more reasonable and feasible request.

This way of negotiation is more furious than that when she starts complaining that she is not concerned. "/p"

In addition to the above, there should be some "quarrel rules" in order to avoid any of the following things: < /p > P.

< p > strong > 1, do not talk about things that are unlikely to change: < /strong > /p >

< p > for example: the height of the other party is not high enough, the shape is not good or the money is not enough.

And so on.

If you are the one being told, I suggest you respond calmly and say, "I know I really am."

But this is me, I am just like this.

Talking about this problem will not help us.

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"P." so, do we want to talk about something that I can change? "If you are talking about that person, then I suggest you have to think clearly that the other party may be like this. If you can accept it, accept it. If you can not accept it, you must consider leaving him.

Reluctantly, the other party can make some impossible changes, only increasing their frustrations.

If his problem is mental medical treatment (such as impulse, alcoholism, pessimism, evasion of crowd), you should assist him in seeking professional advice.

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< p > < strong > two, do not < a href= "http://www.91se91.com/news/index_h.asp > > old account" /a ", quarrel toward future problems: < /strong > /p >

< p > in the process of arguing, do not always dig past old accounts.

This is only arousing the mood of both sides, and nothing helps to solve the problem.

I suggest that you often say, "OK, then if we encounter similar problems today, what shall we do?" < /p >

< p > you can tell how you will deal with similar problems in the future to see if the other person can accept and how he wants you to change.

You can also ask how the other party will handle the problem and see if you can accept it and tell your expectations.

Often say, "what do we do if we meet the same thing in the future?" such a sentence can help you shift the focus of < a href= "http://www.91se91.com/news/index_q.asp > > /a > from the vent of emotion to the solution of the problem.

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< p > strong > three, do not interrupt each other: < /strong > /p >

< p > if you interrupt each other frequently, it is easy to arouse the anger of the other side. It is very difficult to communicate effectively.

You should listen to what the other person is saying calmly and clarify the contents.

If the other side talks about a lot of content, you can ask him to talk about a core issue once.

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< p >, and after he has finished speaking, you can repeat his thoughts and ask if he is right.

Usually, the other person in the rage will calm down because you accurately understand his feelings.

Therefore, it is very important to let the other party have the opportunity to finish his thoughts smoothly.

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< p > but when you are speaking, the other person will interrupt you all the time. Then you can tell him directly: "you are interrupting me now, so I can not tell my thoughts."

When you have reminded two or three times that the other person will still interrupt you, then you can say, "I think you have been interrupting me, so that we can not" a href= "http://www.91se91.com/news/index_s.asp" > communication < /a >.

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< p > if you want to talk again, please don't interrupt me any more.

If you can't do that, then we'll talk about it tomorrow. "

Stick to your position until the other person can stop interrupting you before you continue to communicate.

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< p > < strong > four, do not quarrel during excitement: < /strong > /p >

< p > when two people are excited, the more they roar, the more loudly they think about what can stab each other.

At this time, there is no communication. The quarrel between the two men is just to vent their anger.

Therefore, smart people should avoid these emotional agitation, close their lips, do not fight, and come back when they are calm.

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< p > under these circumstances, your physiology is easily activated and flammable like gasoline.

Once quarrel, it is easy to turn into a roar without focus.

Such a quarrel is only harmful and no good.

If the other person wants to quarrel with you all the time, you can tell him: "now your emotions are too excited, we will not have any results.

I will definitely talk to you about this question tomorrow. "

This must be upheld.

There is no quarrel in intimate relationships between people.

A constructive quarrel will enable one another to understand each other, and the feelings of the two will become closer.

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