How Can We Get Rid Of The Drag And Let The Efficiency Soar?

　　 We must not delay the benefits.

In the process of working with thousands of procrastinators, I found their Procrastination There is a common reason: procrastination can give people the pleasure of temporary release of stress. In Claire's case, she has many potential reasons to seek the refuge of procrastination. The reason why she procrastinate is that the way of procrastination can effectively alleviate the fear she faces when judging.

The main reason for us to develop any habit is that it can bring some benefits immediately, even if it is a habit of dragging this kind of efficiency. Procrastination keeps us away from certain things that we feel will make us miserable and threatening, so as to relieve tension. The more you work, the more painful you are, and the more you seek relaxation by avoiding or engaging in more enjoyable work. The more you feel that endless work deprives you of your happiness in your leisure time, the more you have to avoid it.

In a sense, we have relied on the use of procrastination to temporarily alleviate the anxieties caused by certain tasks. If we think that the work done later is proved to be superfluous, then we have justified reasons, dragging it down and getting double benefits. Not only do we use dragging to deal with fear, but we also find that procrastination is also a way to preserve energy. We gradually understand that in some cases procrastination is justified, and we even benefit from procrastination.

Some procrastination will benefit people and be regarded as a way to solve problems.

At some point, a delayed boring task was completed by others.

When you buy something, if you extend your decision for a long time, you will eventually benefit from this promotion or over season.

Procrastination is often unpunished; in fact, almost everyone has a very intense experience in a child's life because he is not ready for the exam, and only when he hears the news of Blizzard or strike that closes the school, will this tension be eliminated - and teach you to expect a similar miracle to happen again in procrastination.

When you take time to calm yourself down, you can avoid having a heated argument with your parents, teachers, bosses and friends.

If you wait for further information or give up your chance in vain, difficult decisions will be resolved.

Generally speaking, we know that procrastination is a problem rather than a symptom of other problems. Such a judgment is not to guide your efforts to end the cycle of stress, fear and procrastination, but to make things worse by rebuking you for developing such bad habits. Experts, bosses and friends tell you, "raise your level." efficiency "Then, you try one plan after another, and try to urge yourself to act, but with little success. Because these methods attack the procrastination problem itself and yourself as a procrastinators, rather than the problems that cause you to drag.

If we learn the following three ways to use procrastination, we may rely on the benefits of procrastination.

? as an indirect way, pressure from the authorities.

By providing an excuse for a disappointing and imperfect performance, it can be used as a way to lessen the fear of failure.

By making no effort to use it as a way to resist fear of failure.

As we think deeply about the main reasons for procrastination, please note which reveals the real reason behind your own drag mode. {page_break}

 

Knowing how you drag is more important than knowing why you are dragging. You can redirect your energy to the positive side by observing the negative patterns. Recognizing how you do things is crucial to improving performance. Once you recognize a negative behavior, you can change it in practice and reorientate energy in the direction of achieving your goal.

　　 Building a sense of security: the first big step out of procrastination

In order to better understand how you learn to procrastinate, I ask you to imagine and accept a metaphor for the time being. In this metaphor, examination, work or other tasks in life are all planks.

Scene A: you are faced with the task of walking through a solid plank, 30 feet long, 4 inches thick and 1 feet wide. You can mobilize any physical, psychological and emotional abilities necessary to accomplish this task. You can move step by step carefully, and you can dance, jump, or jump over the entire plank. You can do it. It's no problem.

Take a few minutes to close your eyes and imagine yourself in that scene. Please note how you feel about this task. Do you feel more or less afraid or hesitant? Do you think it is necessary to drag on? If it is not for fear of failure or mistake, you may find that you have postponed the beginning because you need to show that you are unwilling to be asked to do something, even if it is as simple as walking a wooden plank.

Scene B: imagine that you are facing the same task as you mentioned before, and you can perform all your abilities through a 30 foot long, 1 foot wide wooden plank. Just now, the plank is hanging between two buildings, 100 feet above the ground. Look at the opposite side and think about how you should start implementing this directive.

How do you feel? What do you think? What do you think about yourself? What time do you say to yourself? Take some time to think about what your reaction in this scene is different from that in scene A. Please note that when the height of the board changes and the consequences of falling are even more serious, how you feel about this task may change quickly.

If your reaction is the same as that of most of the participants in my seminar, you may find that your reaction is: "I am thinking highly of it. What if we fall down? The consequences of falling or making mistakes are likely to lead to death. "

Of course, when you focus on the risk of falling, you will not see the simple side of the task, and you will also forget that you were fully capable of completing the task just now. The danger of making a mistake is serious. You have to stop and consider the threat it poses to your life. At a critical juncture, it is no longer just a job, a test or a project, but your life and your future. You have no way to be calm. When you look at the other side of the plank and imagine falling down from 100 feet, you feel the surge of adrenalin in the pressure response mechanism. The reason for fear is very sufficient: "if something goes wrong, I shall die." No matter how simple the task is or how brilliant and talented you are, this fear - a mistake means the end of life - it is almost impossible to take the first step without worry.

Contradictions are concentrated on the psychological level, and you are often the ones who lift the boards up from the ground. You turn the completion of a simple task into a test of self worth, a test of satisfaction, or a test of success and happiness or failure and pain. In most cases, you are the one who confuses work with test value. In the process of testing value, a possible mistake makes you feel like the end of the world. If early education makes you believe your self-worth is your own. achievement What you decide is that you will focus on protecting yourself from failure and falling, not just doing things.