The Way Of Workplace: Giving People No Benefit

In our career, there are always some people who help others, give others some benefits, and publicize them everywhere, lest people in the world do not know.

Such people always feel that they are well disposed towards others and feel very noble and great, so they are filled with a sense of superiority in their hearts.

The person who gives publicity to everyone is just trying to make everyone know that he is "a good man and a virtuous person". He just wants everyone around him to know that he is capable and capable.

As a matter of fact, the more he thinks and does this, the less he can achieve his little purpose. Instead, he will make the person who gets the benefit of him lose face and be unhappy.

There are two colleagues, one is Zhao Qiong, the other is Cheng Jin. They are all very enthusiastic and helpful.

What's different is that Zhao Qiongai has always been there to help others. He always intentionally or unintentionally lets everyone know, so that people feel that she is very capable, and those who get help feel that they are very incompetent or hurt their self-esteem, but not her feelings.

Cheng Jin usually cares about others and is eager to help others. He never gives publicity to his benefits and always helps his colleagues solve problems.

On one occasion, my colleague Xiaoqin was stumped by a difficult problem in his work. He could see for two days that his supervisor was going to check the results of his work. Xiao Qin was so upset that he had no choice but to ask Zhao Qiong for help.

Zhao Qiong, an experienced working veteran, quickly solved the urgent need for Xiaoqin.

Xiaoqin finished the work on time and excellently, so he was praised by his superiors.

I heard that Xiaoqin got the praise from her superiors, and Zhao Qiong was not happy. I thought, without my help, how could she solve such a big problem? The boss should praise most of me.

Based on this idea.

Zhao Qiong privately told several colleagues about her work to help Xiaoqin finish, and stated that Xiaoqin had no ability to solve that problem.

Xiaoqin knew this, not only did not appreciate Zhao Qiong, but some resentment, because she worried that her colleagues and superiors would doubt her ability to work.

No matter how many colleagues you help, no matter how busy you are to help others, you will not mention it to anyone.

Nevertheless, everyone can see in her mind that she is a good person and that all the people who get the benefits are grateful to her.

Therefore, we all feel that Jin is good at forming ties with others, and is good at understanding and understanding others.

Everyone is willing to help her whenever she meets with difficulties.

Although Zhao Qiong is very enthusiastic, people are not willing to get her benefits.

We can see from the above small examples that everyone is happy to get help from Jin brocade because she knows how to give face to others after giving benefits to others.

And Zhao Qiong is just the opposite. After giving her benefits, she loves to publicize and makes people feel embarrassed, so they do not want to ask her for help.

In fact, people always try their best to save their faces. For the sake of face, they can do things outside the common sense.

So, after giving people benefits, we should know how to take care of each other's faces, try to avoid embarrassing people you've helped in public places, remind yourself constantly, and don't do anything that hurts others.

So, what should we do after giving people some benefits? I believe this story will give us great inspiration.

Once upon a time, there was a poor old man who often starved because he had no food to eat.

One year, a heavy snow day, he went to borrow money from the richest man in the village.

The rich man readily agreed to lend the poor old man two pieces of ocean. When he left, he said generously, "take it, do not pay it back."

The poor old man received the money carefully, wrapped it up carefully, and then hurried to his home after thanking him.

At that moment, the richest man shouted back at him and said, "no need to pay back."

On the morning of the second day, the richest man opened the door of the courtyard and found that the snow in his own home had been swept away, and even the roof tiles had been swept clean.

He asked the villagers to find out that this was done by poor old man.

At that time, the richest man realized that giving alms to others can only turn others into beggars.

So he went to the poor old man to write a loan contract, and the poor old man came out with tears of gratitude.

In the above cases, the poor old man used his sweeping action to defend his dignity, and the richest man achieved his dignity in the way he hoped.

The practice of the richest man is worth every one.

Learning! Therefore, in the workplace, you must always bear in mind such a physical reaction: a behavior will inevitably cause relative.

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As long as you have the heart, as long as you give people benefits and pay attention to each other's face, you will gain a greater face.

Then, how can we preserve others?

Do you want to pay attention to the following matters?

First, consider and start from other people's point of view.

Helping others should start from the perspective of "him" rather than "I".

The important thing is that helping others must be based on the premise that they do not endanger others' self-esteem. Otherwise, they may get the opposite effect.

If you put yourself in the position of "he", you can help him properly and not do anything bad.

Second, think more about the other person, maintain the face of the other person, do not spread your kindness in public places, publicize your unusual abilities, do not let others feel embarrassed or lose self-esteem by getting help.

Third, help others to be spontaneous.

The other person may not be able to feel your strong feelings at that time, but the longer you feel that you can care about him, the better you can achieve this step.

Fourth, silently help others.

Don't let the other person feel that accepting your help is a burden.

Otherwise, the other person will not accept your help due to discomfort or loss of self-esteem.