The Four Step Of Workplace Self EQ Management

Many people are facing.

When coming, they often deal with improper and light influences on daily work. Heavy ones can even damage their interpersonal relationships and make themselves physically and mentally tired.

We are all slaves of emotion.

Whether men or women, business CEO or ordinary

Office white-collar workers or construction workers are inevitably escaping from a kind of thing surrounded by emotion.

Joy, anger, grief and fear are the four basic emotions of human beings, which constitute rich emotional elements and vigorous vitality.

It can be said that we are all slaves of emotion.

Our cognition and handling of emotions come from schools, parents and people around us.

These traditional emotional management methods do not achieve the effect of promoting growth in reality verification, but often result in hurtful results.

So emotion can make us headache, not because of the emotional problems, but our understanding and lack of understanding of the emotions, the use of the wrong mode of emotional processing and methods, so that we bring a variety of results we do not want to see.

The famous American psychologist Daniel Goldmann's book "EQ" put forward that only one 20%% relies on IQ, while 80%% relies on EQ.

Nowadays, many famous international companies adopt EQ test when they recruit some key positions.

The correct idea of EQ management is to manage people's emotions with scientific, humane attitudes and skills, and to make good use of the positive value and significance of emotions to help people succeed.

Exchange type

A child was sad because he lost his beloved pencil sharpener. His mother said, "baby, mom will buy you a toy, but if you promise not to cry, I will buy it for you."

Around us, we often see this situation. When a person is sad and sad because of something, his friends always say, "please don't feel sad anymore. Let's go for a walk and go for a drive."

In the face of other people's grief, we always let him do something else to replace the emotion that he is in. This is an exchange EQ management.

Penalty type

Many people in the face of other people's grief, fear, anger and anger and other emotions, in the case of persuasion invalid, often criticized, accusation or reprimand attitude towards him, especially parents for children, leadership is the most easy to take this method to subordinates, which belongs to punishable punishment EQ management law.

Indifferent type

When a person has some unbearable emotions, his relatives or friends often take the attitude of escape or neglect.

Many parents when their children have emotions, they either go away or ignore them and let their children suffer emotional distress.

This is the EQ management method of indifference.

Didactic type

This is the most common traditional EQ management method.

The parents will tell him a lot of truth, the employees have emotions, and the boss will tell him a lot of great truth.

Such as how to cry a little thing, you should be a responsible person and so on.

Many people are accustomed to using the principle of "should" and "should not" to try to prevent other people's emotions from happening.

The elderly, family members or good friends around us often use this way to "comfort" and "care" us.

These four ways of dealing with emotions are not good for people, especially for the parties.

First of all, the so-called negative emotions such as sadness, sadness, anger, fear and so on will be formed.

Secondly, it will make them more and more incapable of facing and handling emotions, which is not conducive to learning and enhancing positive values from emotional experience.

Those who do not receive proper treatment and treatment for a long time will be more closed. They tend to suppress their true emotions and gradually lose their vitality.