The Success Of Family Education Depends On Three Factors.

1, the main factor affecting children's performance is not school, but

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Family education is the root and foundation of human growth. It is "Bacon education".

2, if there is a problem in family education, children may have a hard time at school, and children are likely to become "problem children" in schools.

3, the responsibility of parents is to provide two "inheritance" for children: one is Congenital heredity.

One is acquired genetics.

Educators can be optimistic about education, but don't be optimistic about the degree of inheritance.

The ugly duckling became a white swan. It was not the result of the ugly duckling's hard work, but the ugly duckling's mother gave birth to a goose egg instead of a duck egg.

4, after the birth of a child, the responsibility of parents is to let children receive good "acquired genetic" as much as possible.

Emphasis on "acquired genetics" is to provide children with a suitable family environment for growth, and to mention the importance of family environment to a "genetic" height.

5, for children, family environment is similar to that of a mother's womb.

The mother's uterus is the first palace of children, and the family environment is the second palaces of children.

6, the first mission of parents is to provide children with a good family environment.

Parents do not do much, just provide and maintain a good job for their children.

All right.

To be a good parent is to become a family environmentalist.

The family environment is good, the child is good; the family environment has the problem, the child becomes the question child.

Sometimes, when a child falls ill, he needs to take medicine instead of a child, but a parent.

7, do not let the child premature delivery, and do not allow children to enter school too early.

The child cannot be prematurely born, because the child needs enough protection in the womb's womb to allow the fetus to have enough resistance and then go out to interact with others outside.

Children can't go to school early because children need enough protection from their families to have enough self-care ability and self-learning ability to go out with others.

The saying of TCM is: "strive for memory, and evil must not be done".

8, school education always attaches importance to students' knowledge learning, stands on the "knowledge base"; family education must stand on the "character body standard" side, paying more attention to children's character and body.

Families belong to families and schools belong to schools.

God's return to God, Caesar's return to Caesar.

9, the standard of good character is "the spirit of civilization". The standard of good health is "barbarous body". The standard of learning is "learning by oneself".

10, effective learning is marginal learning, and invalid learning is focus learning.

Children's learning problems, but the cause of the child's emotional or physical.

Parents direct their children to learn, like gardeners sprinkling water and nourishment directly to "withered leaves".

11, academic achievement is the tip of the iceberg of human growth. Under the iceberg is human character and body.

Character and body are the two fulcrum of academic achievement.

12, 3 years old before and after strict management, to be a child's parents; 13 years old and gradually let go, do children's friends.

Effective education is strictly rigid and effective.

The effective incentive is five to nine in the evening.

13, the growth of children needs companions, only children can understand children, and only children's companions can accompany their children to grow.

Children never expect adults to understand themselves, and children never regard their descended adults as their friends.

Parents can be single, but not their children.

If not

Without a partner, the only child falls into double loneliness: not only single but also single.

14, Meng Zi's mother moved three times, while Rousseau took Emile to the countryside.

Do not let children have too many partners to guard against bad habits of their children before their children form mature rationality and judgment.

15, no matter how successful the parents are, the failure of their children's education will lead to failure in their whole life.

16, good parents watch their children, let their children grow up on their own initiative; bad parents do things instead of children, so that children grow up passively.

17. A good mother regards her son as a friend, but a bad mother regards her son as a lover.

18, human beings have the hardest part of two things: one is how to rule others; the other is how to educate others.

(Kant)

19, "want to be healthy, three points hungry and cold".

Snacks are forbidden before meals, giving children enough hunger.

It is unfortunate that those who can not drink from the rough wooden barrels to manna.

Let children eat sweets, chocolate and other sweets as little as possible.

Children who eat sweets and are not temperate will have bad health and no good character.

Children do not wear too heavy clothes, and children are not as cold as adults.

20, the mouth calls for peace, but there must be a stick in it.

Successful family education always lets children have one or more of the most favorite and most awesome people around them.

22, tube sleeping is suitable for domestication of pets, not suitable for educating children.

23, we should respect the work of the nanny, the labor is sacred, but we should not shirk the responsibility of educating children to the nanny.

24, poverty is an important educational resource, and children of poor families are masters of the family.

25, a living parent must let children experience the hardships and bitterness of their parents' labor.

26, a living parent can not feel guilty about going out for a job, but can not indulge in children's nonsense because of guilt.

27, working parents must let children develop self-care ability and self-learning ability as early as possible by their parents' watching.

The most Watchable parents are Sun Wukong's parents.

A well bred parent is like Sun Wukong's parents: let the child get rid of the obstacle himself, let the child go through the ordeal, let the child experience his own difficulties, and only reach the side of the child when the child is hard to solve the problem.

28, career parents must have a person to accompany their children at home, or to hire tutors for their children.

29, if both career parents are unable to accompany their children, they must find suitable and professional tutors for their children instead of simply pferring them to their grandparents or nanny.

30, children's grandparents may have only limited educational experience, and these limited educational experiences are useless because of the indulgence and indulgence of grandparents.

31, poverty is the resource of education, and affluence is another kind of higher education resources.

More advanced educational resources require more advanced educational skills.

Without advanced education skills, rich families will bring disaster to their children's growth.

32, the poor children are early masters, but we must be vigilant against poverty.

33, all the dandy boys are rich children, though not all rich families are dandy.

Since ancient times, heroes have suffered many hardships.

34, who can let a child "move like a rabbit, quiet as a virgin", who will master the secret of education.

35, who can let children have their own opinions and compromise, be courageous and obedient, and who will hold back the key to education.

36, let children play "self support" game, let the child leave their parents, to the bitter place: if he does not work, he starved to death.

The only way to change the bad habits of children is to leave their children temporarily away from their parents.

37, let the child experience hardships in others' hardships, so that he can help others in his capacity, and thus achieve a sense of accomplishment and self identity.

The only way to change the bad habits of children's self abandonment is to let him face the suffering of others and provide him with the help he can do for his sufferer.

38, let children experience the embarrassment and pain of helpless when helping others.

Let children want to help others, unable and unable to do anything, thereby stimulating his "self strengthening desire" to make himself stronger and grow responsibly so that he can help others in the future.

39, children's growth has two critical periods, the first critical period before and after the age of 3.

Before and after the age of 3 is the critical period for children's intelligence and personality development; the second critical period is around 13 years old, and the age of 13 is the critical period for children's puberty and independent life.

If parents take advantage of their children's "critical period of growth", their education will be smooth all the way.

If you miss the critical period of growth, you will have endless consequences.

40, the insect dates are red, and the sick children are precocious.

Intellectual prodigy is often at the expense of deprivation of character and physical growth.

41, human growth follows the law of diminishing potential.

Born with 100 degrees of potential children, if 0 years of age, the ideal education for him, then he may grow to have 100 degrees of ability; if starting from 5 years old, even if education is very good, it can only have 80 degrees of ability; if starting from 10 years old education, at best can only have 60 degree ability.

That is to say, the later the education starts, the less the child's ability is achieved.

(wooden village for a long time)

42, well bred parents always start to solicit their children's advice when they are very young.

A good parent is a "Voltaire doctrine": "I disagree with you, but I will defend to the death your right to speak."

43, the successful education is "tiger father without dog", and failure education is "mother strong son weak".

Parents with self-cultivation always regard cultivating self-care ability and self-learning ability as the top priority in educating children.

44, the secret of letting children "live on their own" is to provide children with freedom of choice.

Free choice leads to responsibility.

If a child loses the right to freedom of choice, if he does things entirely out of other people's compulsion and instructions, the child learns to deal with and perfunctory.

45, understand and appreciate the children's special skills, so that children can feel a sense of accomplishment because of their special skills.

Let the children feel the sense of achievement and strive for lofty aspirations, lofty sentiments and lofty sentiments.

46, "long good to save and lose" is meaningful, but "long good" is more important than "saving and losing".

It is meaningful to "make up for weaknesses", but "growth" is more important than "complementarity".

Don't let children give up their strengths and redress their weaknesses for a long time.

47, expertise is more important than overall.

Let children give full play to their "strengths" and "advantages", and develop their own all-round development with their own expertise.

48, the most serious problem in family education is the two "zero": managing snacks for children; managing children's pocket money.

The child's pocket money is controlled by the child himself. The large amount of "pocket money" is managed by the parents as a fund for future long-distance travel or other large activities.

49, we should separate the book "mountain road with diligence" and "learning endless sea and bitter boat".

It is diligence to work hard at places of interest. It is hard work where you are not interested.

"Never pursue success in areas you are not interested in, because you have to compete with people who are really interested.

No interest, how did you win the family? "(Economist Lance and Berg)

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