What Is The Most Important Ability Of Human Beings? Not Making Money, Nor Learning.

What is the most important ability of human beings?

I have seen many people capable and successful, but not happy. What is the most important ability of human beings?

What is the most important ability in life? My answer is to keep calm at all times.

What I began to think of was "persistence". Later I thought it was wrong. "Persistence" is only the necessary ability for success. It is not the most important ability in life, nor is it our most lacking ability. The purpose of persistence is to succeed, and the aim of success is to be happy. However, I have seen many people succeed, but not happy.

To discuss the most important ability of life, we must look at the whole life: what does man really pursue?

Many people will say, "to have a successful career", "to make a lot of money" and "to find a person who loves each other for life", we look at these desires and pursue a common pursuit: happiness.

I have said before that it is difficult for a man to achieve the ideal state of happiness, because most of us understand happiness: what I want to do is what I do. But think about it. If a person really can do whatever he wants, he can get what he wants. All he had left was boredom. At this time, he would look for things everywhere and look for new desires.

I have seen millions of rich men who bought bags after another, playing with women after another. However, they did not show happiness, but an anxiety that never satisfied. A bag was bought and put on the shelf for a few days, because he saw another beautiful bag.

I have seen retired veteran cadres, with two old people earning tens of thousands of wages a month. However, they often worry about their son's failure to find a civil servant, his son's wife's troubles, and his grandson's education troubles. When their son was away, they were upset. "How to manage the lights in the hall?" "is the door locked?" "how long can I live when my hypertension is cured?" They are anxious and uneasy all the time. In other words, they are not happy enough to imagine themselves.

Looking back on myself, when I was little, I expected to go to university quickly, so I wouldn't have to go to school every day to listen to parents' nagging scores. Later I went to college, and I looked forward to coming out early, because there was work. wages If you have money, you have freedom. Now that I have worked for so many years, I want to retire again. I want to retire people to water flowers and take a walk all day long, that will be very happy.

After looking at other people's lives and reading some books, I began to understand that if a person does not deliberately cultivate himself, it will never be peaceful to stir in the dye bowl of the society. He always feels that this is the most painful moment at the moment, and my pain is for tomorrow's light, and tomorrow will be better than today.

In fact, this is an illusion. Tomorrow is not necessarily better. It may also be worse. A man who is not calm, no matter what conditions he gives, he will not be tranquil, because he does not have the ability to be happy.

We are born to be human. We can neither live in the past nor live in the future. What we have is only a minute and a half in the present. So holding on to the present moment, this minute of peace is the most important thing.

When I look at my answer, someone will say, "I think your so-called calmness is not enough. What I want to pursue is to be happy every day."

Most of the time we call happiness, that is, the pleasure of sensual pleasure. It is also pleasure, love and reading. Sensory organs The feeling of happiness makes people feel lost and overwhelmed. The latter is long, long and memorable, because he is calm.

If a person is easy to be happy, he will cry easily as well. perceptual Mood swings. But the same thing often brings much more pain than happiness. Think about it, the same is ten thousand yuan, is the happiness you get when you get it, or is it more painful when you lose it?

When you are young, be cautious about all the things that make people happy: stay up late to play games, such as sex, such as smoking, such as drinking. Finally, we will find that every thing that makes you happy will pay a heavy price behind it.

A person who knows how to assess the situation should learn to avoid unnecessary pain, instead of blindly pursuing happiness.

The topic of this topic is too large to be related to the topic we are discussing, so in a word, "a moment of happiness is not as peaceful as a moment".

I remember taking the subway once, and all the people in the carriage looked very anxious. Like countless morning, people were very busy. They kept on pressing their cell phones, calling, chatting, brushing WeChat, shaking their legs and looking around. Only one girl sat there quietly, her hands resting quietly on her knees, motionless, like a tree, without dispute, impartiality and quiet growth.

Staring at her, I remembered a poem:

The grass is forming its seeds.

The wind is shaking its leaves.

We stood without speaking.

It's wonderful.

Some people are doomed to be distinguished in the crowd because of her self-cultivation, because of her temperament.

I didn't know what kind of girl I wanted to pursue, filial piety, gold, beauty, intelligence?

At this moment, I understand that this is the life I want to pursue and the life I want to pursue.