You Shouldn'T Describe Your Ten Words.

Think about the word "charm".

If anyone says I am attractive, I will be very honored (and quite surprised).

But if I say I am charming, you will think I am an asshole - and you are right.

There are ten words here. If someone else describes you, it will be great, but you should never use them to describe yourself.

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Adam Grant mentioned it in his book "giving and taking".

Generosity is in the eyes of onlookers.

"Generosity is earned, not spoken," he wrote.

"Let others describe you with the giver -- this is the highest form of praise."

The most generous people I know are never big, nor do they ask for praise from others.

Their dedication is very low-key, often unknown.

And they never consider themselves generous, because they always feel that they can do more.

All of us can be more generous than we are now.

Though you may be more generous than most people, compared with what others give you, if so, let others use this word to describe you.

After all, true generosity often comes to those who also have the following characteristics.

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I like to feel humble.

Maybe I am, at least compared with this guy.

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But I am not really a modest person.

Let me give you an example.

Last week, I looked at two completely different people and took photos of me and Mark Cuban in GrowCo. This is entirely initiative.

I took a photo of Mark with another person. This is really worth mentioning.

Of course, meeting Mark is cool, but the act of showing off photos is not necessarily modest.

(in this regard, I still have a long way to go.

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True modesty never speaks of humility because they are too modest to say so.

3., self discipline.

Every very focused person I know admits that it is difficult for them to maintain discipline.

Why? Because it's hard to keep.

The difficulty here is not short-term sprint.

It's about not giving up, and in terms of rugby, it's going to win several times.

So you worked hard today and completed the task.

Excellent.

So you resisted the temptation today.

Excellent.

Do it in a few days, weeks, weeks, and then talk to us again.

Self disciplined people constantly strive to be self disciplined because they have made incredible efforts to keep discipline.

This is why they are least likely to claim to be a self disciplined person. They know that self-discipline is a challenge that every day is bound to meet.

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I once wrote this topic before, and it is still true.

Passion is never spoken.

Passion is expressed.

And it can easily sound overdone; if you say you love, oh, design function area, your voice will sound exaggerated.

Here's a better choice.

Keep your passion for your loved ones.

This man is well deserved.

5. tact.

I have never met a person who calls himself tactful, who is not regarded as intolerable at last.

In fact, you may be very witty.

Some people do.

This guy is.

But you will never hear him say he is smart.

He was busy developing more great things and had no time to do so.

And if he doesn't claim to be witty (or funny, or entertaining or interesting), you shouldn't do that.

6. empathy.

Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others.

This is great, but it is also of no value unless you do something with these shared feelings: support, help, guidance, deep love, etc.

It's good to be considerate, but what you do with this feeling is quite different for other people.

Tell others that you are an empathy. That is to say that all feelings about another person become a description of yourself - of course, it is not.

7. no fear.

Everyone is afraid.

If my friend, the former seals Jeff Boss, can admit that he was scared.

Hey, we all felt scared.

Moreover, courage is not without fear.

Courage is when you feel scared, but still do what you should do.

So don't say you are fearless.

You are not fearless.

Brave? In some cases, maybe.

Valiant? Maybe.

But fearless?

Forget it.

8., Frank.

Maybe it's just me, but I think "straightforward" sounds like "forgive me for being blunt."

The first sentence.

Straightforward is often synonymous with rudeness, boredom, irregularity or impoliteness.

You can be as straightforward as you wish.

We will judge your openness according to what you say, not what you describe to yourself.

The 9. is strong adaptability.

I hate to mention commonplace, but the only thing that remains is change.

Nothing - no industry, no market, no job, no, nothing.

We all have to be able to adapt.

As Chris Rock puts it, never take credit for what you should do.

10. independence.

Self reliance is a good thing.

It is very good to be able to take care of yourself and do not need much help or assistance.

But now most people use the word like this.

Most people describe themselves as independent, just trying to cover up the fact that they are a bad team member, or cover up an excuse that they do not know how to follow and how to lead, or even an excuse for not performing well in sandbox.

After all, "it's not because I can't get along with other people.

I'm just very independent! "

Of course, you are very independent.