In The Workplace, You Have To Learn To Say "No" Beautifully.

Resonance can always bring people closer to each other and restore their negative emotions.

Before expressing the evasions, we must first take into account the situation at that time, such as whether there are important people present, and the strongest emotions of the other party at this moment.

No matter whether she was sad or angry at the time, she should first show her understanding, and comfort her with the impression of "understanding difficulties".

At this point, we should have a good idea of whether we should take over, but we need not rush to make a stand.

On the one hand, do not act so as to avoid hurting the self-esteem of the "helpers", especially by the request from the third party, but also as much as possible. After all, the parties themselves do not feel that they need help.

On the other hand, it focuses on alleviating the emotions of the callers, giving her a cool time to regained reason, avoiding direct conflicts or emotional outbursts.

Even if you finally help, don't let the caller feel that you are "too easy to fix" and find that you can use your "good words" later.

1, say something encouraging, such as "don't worry, drink a glass of water first". "Look at your tired face."

2 say something admired: "it's not easy for you to do that."

"I sympathize with your situation. You are really capable, if I fell down early."

When you can't say "sorry", you must look at each other's eyes, express your thoughts sincerely, and use 32 sentences to clarify the reasons for your shirking in a concise and clear way. It makes people feel that you are not making excuses.

At the same time, remember to sincerely thank the other person for his trust at the right time.

1 slow down, slightly slower than usual.

More than 2 add some modal words, for example, "I'm really sorry," and "I want to help you, too. But I'm really busy. If anything goes wrong, I will add more confusion to you."

3 positive and positive, do not complain at this point in turn.

Let the other person feel that you are actively paying attention to him / her, and at the same time, try to convey your negative feelings to the other side as little as possible, because the other person is also in an anxious or helpless state.

No matter whether you are straight or the other side is an acute person, please express your regrets and regrets in a mild and mild way when expressing.

Rejection is not pleasant. If you speak too hard and too rational, not only will the other person feel uncomfortable, but the onlooker will also feel that you are "unhuman."

If you love a handsome guy to see this scene, it is estimated that you will not have the chance to turn over salted fish.

Teach you a 100% test lark lazy, take advantage of the evasive words: "my dear, I am not as smart and competent as you, and you should not be difficult for me."

Some of you are busy, but the reasons are rather complicated.

Therefore, we must remember to take the initiative with the other party after the withdrawal.

If it is common

It's OK to greet each other with a smile. Even if the other person doesn't pay attention to himself, don't give up.

If it's a good friend, you can invite her to have a meal or buy a little gift to make up for it.

After a long time, the other person will be sure that you do not hate her. You just have your own.

。

Tips can I help you? Can I help you? Do I have time and strength? Do I have more important things to do? The less you know how to refuse, the more things you will find, and your physical and mental exhaustion.

And the mental imbalance that has long been out of control will one day break out in some way, and learn to shirk properly, and it is also a skill to preserve our energy and maintain a good psychological balance.

There is a saying, called "stealing peach in the middle of the night - picking soft kneading".

The same is true between people. There are always some people who have the "weak" atmosphere, and suffer from anger and involvement as a common occurrence. They are often the most vulnerable groups.

A good old man who does not want to offend: every circle has such a good old man who has a very good temper and never offends anyone.

She often said that everything was okay, and then everyone felt that she was "trouble free".

The "pparent person" who lacks self-confidence is to work hard to be a good person. This is the basic concept of "pparent people".

They know that they are not as good as others in terms of business and ability, and they never argue with anyone.

In front of good things, "pparency" is always pparent.

Newly arrived "

"People who are new to the environment, more or less, should be deliberately shown. But if you are the least qualified person in the office, the period of deliberate performance is not merely" 35 months from trial to correction ".

If you are unfortunate enough to be in the place where the "royal family" is gathered together, I am afraid that it is hard to have the day of "turning the serfs to sing".

The "confused man" with excellent ability is not necessarily a poor person, but some people with strong ability and low EQ are still the main force.

In particular, after being flattered, "you can't do it" and "you are so nice," you immediately become enthusiastic and unaware that you have overdrawn your physical strength, energy and valuable time.

Compassion is overflowing with "pseudo strong men": some people are too good, always sad, and love heroes.

To see who is a little bit difficult, he can't bear it. He even takes the initiative to rush to help. At last, he is tired like a noodle overcooked.

Idleness of "idle people": once the need for "fire fighting", "idle people" naturally bear the brunt.

In fact, those who say "something" may not be really "busy". They are just grasping a good yardstick. If they want to come, they will not come or not, and to some extent, they will ensure their "social status" will not fall.