How To Break Rumors In The Office Is Also A Learning.

In the Xinhua Dictionary, the word "gossip" is interpreted in this way: there is no basis for it.

Generally speaking, gossip is often offensive and injurious.

Victims such as Ruan Lingyu, a film star of the Republic of China, took the sleeping pills to commit suicide because of falling into rumor disputes, which also led to Lu Xun's article on "fear of words".

A less serious person is someone who has become a "chewing tongue" object in a certain period of time. He is put on the back of his speech. "It's uncomfortable to get up in the office and play a hot water. I think there are countless eyes staring at you, and countless mouths are whispering."

Juan described herself as an object of office romance.

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It's hard to put an end to it and avoid it in the organization.

Psychological counselor Dong Rufeng said that it is about organizational psychology and personal psychology, but these two parts are nothing more than a key word: balance.

Gossip is a means and method of organizing psychological or organizational atmosphere to achieve some kind of balance, but this method and method are relatively secretive, and have the ability of being false and exaggerated.

Moreover, bad gossip has great influence on the organizational climate. "

In regard to the director's stay, Yu Hung has not been able to speculate on how long he has been discussing with his colleagues.

At first, there was news that the director would be seconded to another year. Later, some people said that the director would take him to the side as a secretary, and later...

No matter what it is said, it is closely captured by Hongdu, because this directly relates to her future as deputy director. It is said that the director once said at an informal gathering that he had taken the place of the director.

"As a result, a lot of people talk about half a year, people do not go, only with the other sections of the office of the exchange of the position."

This makes Yu Hung very depressed. Several good colleagues have already celebrated her "promotion" in advance, and she has even attracted a lot of attention.

The white eye, a group of heart power consumption, the result is bamboo basket water.

In Dong Rufeng's view, all kinds of gossip about organizational business and work content are, to a great extent, a way to deal with information asymmetry.

"For example, there are many dead ends in the organization. Employees do not know what the various dimensions of the organization are like, and their understanding of the organization is not equal. Then it is very likely that he will define the organization in the way of conjecture and heard from others, and fill the gap with gossip."

If you dig deeper into the office, the rumour of the office, which makes countless people fall into a big hole, it will be discovered that the real "behind the scenes black hand" is called "the same crisis". It is "the confusion of identity on the same sex" in the famous eight stage theory put forward by new Freud doctrine Erickson: in adolescence, everyone will face the challenge of "who am I" - Horizontal is about different sides of oneself, and longitudinal is about different infants and young children themselves. If this stage can spend healthily and their personality is perfect, they will have little inferiority complex than others, say little three, four, and even alleviate their anxiety by attacking and slander others. In addition, Dong Rufeng analysis said

But in real life, it is because too many people fail to achieve "identity gain" in adolescence, so when adults face the competition, friction, imbalance and pressure in the workplace, "curse, laugh or insult, you can meet with this language."

The pleasure has been greatly relieved. "

"In fact, the most important influence of office gossip on an organization is the pfer of organizational members' attention from work to relationship, which leads to a lack of trust in the simple work relationship and the destruction of the productivity of the organization."

Yu Lingyan said, in addition, for the disseminators, gossip may make them less confident and more nervous, resulting in more evasions, which will further deteriorate their work performance and further destroy the organizational atmosphere and productivity.

Juan is such a victim.

After she completed a project with a male colleague who worked in a family, she was heard out of office gossip, and it became more and more popular. It also affected the family relationship of the other side.

With resignation and resignation, she has been afraid to go all the way after entering the new company. She is more careful to cooperate with her male colleagues.

"The director talked to me and criticized me for being afraid of doing things.

But I can't say it, but I really don't want to repeat that scene again.

Said by Juan.

From a normal person rather than a psychological counselor, Dong Rufeng said he understood the feeling of Juan very well.

"Facing the plaguing rumors requires strong inner strength and integrity.

Gossip is the first thing that makes you feel lonely. Secondly, in a sense, you lose the stage, and it is futile to be true again.

But Dong Rufeng also reminds us that, even though it is not easy, there is nothing to do with gossip.

"You can stick to yourself and tell yourself that you need time to make everything clear, but this requires a strong mental ability.

In addition, the more this time, the more we need to increase our contact with everyone.

Because the formation of gossip is a lack of understanding and communication on the face, so if you want to break the gossip, you will have to get closer to everyone and let others know you.

The more you know, the more you feel, the rumors may be broken.

Moreover, if we accidentally become the "scapegoat" in gossip, we must distinguish clearly what are our own problems, which are imposed by others, undertake only the part that we should bear, and firmly push back what we should not bear.

Yu Lingyan stressed, "don't appear as a victim. You can't show" don't bully me. "

If you say that others are bullying you, you are actually willing to be bullied at some level.

Stand up to express themselves, even to talk with rumors makers about their own ideas. Some of them are trying to achieve their goals through a shortcut. They may underestimate the harm done to others and make them clear about the injury. Maybe they will feel guilty.

In addition, part of the problem that can not be solved can be sought from superiors or leaders.