How To Grasp The Distance In The Office Is Very Simple.

Who is the longest time with you every day? Not your relatives, nor your friends, your colleagues.

He and you in the office face to face, shoulder to shoulder, work, eat, drink and entertain.

But when we have the concept of "private space", we can not ignore the reasonable social space and public space. How to grasp the distance in the office is not so simple. We should grasp the psychological distance between colleagues reasonably and accurately.

The secret is, of course, with some hidden or unwanted secret, based on the trust of a friend, or in order to show his trust in his friends, so that he will reveal all his secrets.

If you hear your own secret exposure in others' mouth, do not ask, there is only one traitor.

The betrayed man must be annoyed with the friendship and trust he has paid.

If the secret involves third parties, it will make things more difficult.

Therefore, no matter whether it is a good intention or malicious disclosure of secrets, it is a taboo of friendship in the office.

If you are ahead of your friends

I am afraid that this friendship will soon change tone, because the two people's status is unequal, coupled with psychological subtlety competition and comparison, the sour taste will soon permeate, and the inferiority due to insecurity will also cause trouble.

Of course, no one will give up the promotion opportunity because of the mood of their friends. But if it happens, remember to understand the feelings of the other person, make appropriate responses, and try to relieve them as much as possible.

A man who is in good condition is the most severe test among his friends. If a handsome guy likes to feel good about one of his friends, it is hard not to cause harm.

In case two people like the same man, they simply declare their friendship.

It's best to deal with emotional life independently. Even before the love foundation is stable, even the closest friends should not drag on to the man who has no definite relationship.

Do not test love, nor desire to win.

If you are extremely keen on spreading some low-level gossip, at least you should not expect others to be equally keen on listening.

Sooner or later, those colleagues who are different from others will be afraid of you.

Even if you use all kinds of gossip to become a red man in the tea room, there will never be anyone who will be sincere to a mouthing talker.

Grumbling and anger are the most striking characteristics of the "seeding".

Despite the fact that occasionally some "complaining" can create an illusion of "office friendships", the chattering complaints will make people around them miserable.

Perhaps you regard complaints as a way of being honest, but the end of complaints can be sublimated into anger.

People will wonder if you are so dissatisfied with the status quo, why don't you just change your environment and go away.

If one of my friends likes to curry favor with him

To win favor with the boss usually causes the other party to dislike and affect their feelings.

If you really need to suck up, the two will agree to bow.

Do not make small moves in private, let the other side doubt your loyalty to the friendship or even doubt your personality. At the same time, you also worry that the usual complaints about the boss will be betrayed by you and climb up the high order by offering information.

One of the most wholesome activities in the office is to criticize the boss behind the scenes. Many colleagues are revolutionaries derived from the "common enemy". If you find yourself secretly heard, your friendship will end.

Open your mouth to your friends.

It can only cause conflicts among friends.

Open mouth, but can not borrow money, will complain that the other side is not enough meaning, feel normal so good, it was all superficial work; borrowed money will feel friends and friends appear impurities, but also worry about whether there is no return.

If you fail to repay the money on time, you may be disgusted with the money you owe. If you are all so familiar with me, you will go too far with me. You will also be dissatisfied with your money. This situation is just like what I want. Friends are the ones who are really in trouble. If one day you are just as bad as me, don't you want me to help you? If you add family blame, friendship will not survive under pressure.

"Business is business" is also one of the killer of friendship.

Perhaps one side thinks that we are so good, why should I be so strict? Even if something happens, it should cover me.

But the other side thinks: knowing that we are better, we should not embarrass me, do things well, let me explain to them, and I should not get old enough to kill me. Such a failure to reach a consensus will cause much inconvenience and harm, especially in official business, and the situation of mutual reproach will lead to injury, especially when one side is punished by the company.

It is suggested that the friends of the office first draw a line at a time to distinguish between the public and private sectors, rather than just whispering in mind: "how can you do this?"