Workplace Psychology: Anxious People Are Not Urgent, Pause For 6 Seconds.

Emotion is a chemical substance produced by the Limbic Brain in our brain. Emotions are stimulated by the outside world and work all the time in the brain.

And our logical thinking center is controlled by the Cortical Brain. Although the production of emotion is uncontrollable, the information and value of emotion is an assistant for thinking and action.

However, the difference between the limbic system and the cortex is that the response rate of the limbic system is very amazing, which is 8 times faster than that of the cerebral cortex. Therefore, we can realize that at the moment of conflict, "dazzling" is the response of the rapid emotional arrival.

At this point, emotion is not affected by "reason". Action is purely human instinct, that is, pure.

Reaction.

Professor O William Juris, an American business psychologist, has put forward the three rule of calmness: "first, lower the voice, then slow down, and at the end, straighten the chest."

There are a group of people in the company like "little bombs". They are straightforward and have a big mood. They are not calm enough when they are in trouble.

Aries is the best nominee for bomb workers. They do things too quickly.

The most frequently causing conflicts between both sides is the language, and the language in the work is mixed with encouragement, judgement, exhortation and order to the other side, so we should use more mind to digest.

But Aries is not a constellation with language masters. They often find it difficult to understand the rich information behind the language.

At the same time, a strong sense of self esteem allows Aries to regard language as winning status and winning.

And the tools of attention do not pay much attention to the communication effect of language.

For white sheep, winning everything, speaking well, winning and making speechless speechless speechless wins.

In the language does not give up, let the white sheep increase and colleagues turn small things into war probability, die face and let the white sheep often put themselves into a difficult situation.

Therefore, Aries is easy to leave angry impression and hard to blame.

Blame the white sheep, even if it is the boss, the white sheep will probably not give face, ask back.

I believe most people are there.

All of them have experienced the possibility of a sudden conflict, or the "Bomb emotion" that the body wants to break out.

Is it the expression of high EQ that completely suppresses these emotions and makes matters worse? There is no lack of self-cultivation in the book of self-improvement. The key is whether the deep thinking can be passed through your brain at the moment when the conflict breaks out. Can you control it?

Wu Daini, general manager of China's EQ Management Research and top international consulting company, said: "the outbreak of conflicts is often not related to what actions should be taken, but at the time of emotional control."

In Wu Daini's co authored "6 seconds and seconds changing your EQ", she introduced the different forms of emotional and intellectual responses in the brain.

After 6 seconds, the signals of the cortex begin to occupy the body. At this point, our emotions and thinking can communicate with each other and we can complete the information and decision making of high EQ.

So when you feel that you are going to make a wrong decision, say hard words and resentment, you can count from 1 to 6 in silence, and then see if your body will still let you do this.