You Come To Me: A Sticky Boss, A Desperate Subordinate.

A sticky boss, a desperate subordinate, I can no longer put up with my boss.

Two years ago, I thought that strengthening ties with my superiors would be good for my career development.

So, after working, I increased the time to get along with her, such as shopping together, eating, watching movies, etc.

As I wish, I almost became the "lady friend" of my female boss.

In the initial period of time, this relationship really made me proud. After all, I was most valued in the Department, often entrusted with heavy responsibilities, and I could get some "top news" from time to time, just like a red man.

But as time went on, things went to the other extreme: first, I didn't get a quick promotion as expected; secondly, because she didn't trust to hand over her work to others, my workload increased. Finally, my female boss occupied more and more of my private time. She even asked me to accompany her at the end of the week.

I really can't bear it. I once thought about changing my job, but this is something that needs her approval.

I can't say to her naked, "I can't bear it any longer."

What should I do?

I even thought about avoiding her maternity leave.

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It is true that if you increase communication with your direct leader, it will be very helpful for your communication and work, but everything has a yardstick. Once you pass the normal communication relationship between the upper and lower levels, the result may be what you stated, or it may cause gangs inside the company (many companies' phenomenon), or even your boss will be punished by the company because of this special care for the employees (if his boss is honest and the company has a reasonable management system).

As a leader, it is better not to create such a "small circle" by itself, which can not mobilize the enthusiasm of other employees in the company (Department), nor create a good working atmosphere, resulting in low work efficiency. It is a failure to understand management, which is also a failure of leadership.

So far, you need to communicate with your leader in a reasonable way.

You can first find a suitable position within the company (not just to escape), and then directly tell your boss: "for career development and personal interest (you should be able to find 10 reasons), you want to switch to other departments.

Even if I leave here, you will always be my superior (and also should be done, this is a basic quality of being a human being). We are still good friends and I am still your good assistant.

If you don't have the right position or you don't want to change jobs, you can only take a gradual way out of this relationship. At the very beginning, you can bring your husband to your activities (you can find many excuses to explain why husbands need to be with you). I think that's when she starts to alienate you.

Of course, maintaining a certain communication with your boss is still very important. Especially when you have past abnormal relationships, it is easy to go to the other extreme, so you need to "maintain" such a relationship. Even if she is actively alienating, you have to invite her individually and communicate with her, so that she feels that you are helpless, not that you do not want to.

It is true that the company is respected by the staff in the enterprise, the love of leadership, the trust of the company, and ultimately the success of the business must be those who are diligent, dedicated, capable and able to communicate.

You are her "satchel" and you can tell from the story you tell that you are a good employee and congratulate you on your intimate relationship with your female boss.

It is necessary to know the real friendship between women and women, not how hard it is to be hypocritical.

Not to mention a picky female boss.

She has put you in a position of great importance, giving you a great deal of attention, making you strong and outstanding in your organization, and developing a good personal relationship. This fully proves your value not only in ability, intelligence, but also in Eq.

But you obviously made a serious mistake. You let your female boss feel that you are a part of her life or a necessary tool for life, just like a woman's satchel.

Your life is beginning to be encroaches on a large scale, and you are dissatisfied, because you really don't want to become the content of her life.

But just like coins have different sides, you are highly valued by the development of the advantages of your personal space suffocating the devil.

In my experience, if a woman feels comfortable, she will usually hold fast and place objects permanently in a fixed position.

That is to say, you don't have to think about promotion when you are under the leadership of a female boss. If you get away from the place where she is familiar with that object (you), she will be upset. You are a woman. You have to understand that women do not like to mess things up.

If you want to be practical, you should not expect to be promoted for the time being. You should lock your goal in your personal time integrity.

You can do this: you first imply that your husband is a suspicious and jealous person.

Then, at a suitable time, ask your husband to make a rude phone call to your female boss, and ask if you two have any relationship.

Yes, it is really rude and disgusting, but it is the least to get rid of a woman's endless entanglement and arouse her necessary shame.

Then you can reprimand your husband in front of your female boss.

However, I believe that the female boss will definitely let you go because you have been suspected of having an abnormal relationship.

And when she thinks of this relationship, she will feel sick (if she is normal, pray for her to be normal), and nausea will keep her self restrained.

I wish you the independence of your private life.