Declare War On Gloating Friends

Today, I feel very happy!

Speaking of reasons, you can't believe her friend Mimi, yes, our network expert Mimi today, the company is declared bankrupt, and the prospect of the crash is dim.

Early in the morning, Mimi called and wept and told her bitter experience.

"What I thought was to tell her that I was sorry to hear the bad news, and asked me what I could do for her, but I didn't say anything about it.

In the bottom of my heart, I had a terrible pleasure. "

Xiao Wei said, "why can't we know why we are so unkind, and where are compassion and compassion?

Am I a little psychopathic?

The source of "gloating", as a friend of all ages, feels like this. It should not be a thousand things that should not be, even with a guilty conscience.

There is a special term in psychology for the abnormal reaction of the small and micro - Schadenfreude.

From a psychological point of view, this is due to the emotional negative experience of others, which is superior to themselves. It is a narrow mind and a common psychological feeling. It is the antipathy of mediocre sentiment to excellence.

Jealousy, but envy is the main factor. Then, involuntarily evolved to fear others' threats.

In fact, all normal people may not be able to help themselves with this kind of joy. It does not mean that you are a devil, but it is definitely a lagging medicine and corrosive agent, and the future will not be wonderful.

When people around you earn more than you earn, climb faster than you, fame and honor get faster than you, and boys who pursue more than you do, the psychological setting of gloating is beginning to sprout, and you can't wait to see others throw stones at their feet.

Finally, one day, I heard that she / he suddenly had bad luck, and you were very happy.

When a friend meets a misfortune, his normal response should be sad, sad, sorry and sympathetic.

This abnormal mentality is a kind of blasphemy and infidelity to friendship, although no action has been taken, but the idea of "derailment" is no longer benevolent to friends.

The seeds of "gloating" may be planted at school. After entering the society, "evil flowers" grow more and more.

The guy who was the tallest in the past campus was too fat to walk.

In the school, everyone lives in the same bad bedroom, wearing the same ugly school uniform, eating the same candied cafeteria, passing the same hard exam pass, and being trained equally, can not distinguish each other.

After graduation, every person has his own way of looking at the mountains and rivers, looking for his own punctuation mark in the world.

"Gloat" is ready to move.

Class gathering 5th anniversary, the basic position of their social strata: some people rush to come, some people crowded the bus; some people wear Chanel, CD wear Tttifany, some people face up to the sky; some live in townhouse, some people live in 40 square meters of public housing; some have small secrets, some people give people small secrets.

First, envy, then hate to grind teeth, anxious to see the side of the crazy guys have big mold.

If you are a "successful person" who is easily jealous and cursed by others, you may be because you are careless, sowing the seeds of hatred, causing other people's abhorrence to rise.

After all, no one wants to be the object of others' gloating. Although they are stronger than others, emotionally, you still have to stay with everyone. If you can dilute your strengths as much as possible, others will not only be hostile to you, but also agree that your success is due to your own efforts.

Several suggestions: 1: low key, a little arrogant and regretful. It is disgusting. The regrets for people's full faces are hatred, and the exaggerated regret is shallow.

If you are lucky enough to succeed, don't be too happy to find the north, keep a low profile, avoid wild words and boast yourself.

And give others a chance to make a difference.

2 suggestions: "love face", do not overdo it. Many girls love face and seek vanity, do not want to be overtaken by others, or even raise others by belittling others. This is a manifestation of emptiness.

You know, most of the hostility between women is due to their looks.

Some people obviously put their noses on their chest, and put up a natural beauty, which makes people around them itch.

Recommendation 3: highlighting one's own weaknesses and skillfully using neutralization reactions, a person's inferiority often can dilute the advantages, give people a sense of fairness, and reduce the psychological pressure and hostility of the other side.

Xiao Hui, a friend of the "little witch" who has a sense of anger, once told me about her experience: "after graduation, I entered a foreign company, worked very hard, and got the recognition of my superiors in a short time. After I became a manager, my income was higher than that of my peers."

At a friend's party, I accidentally knocked over the coffee pot and burned my hand, thinking that they would help me find medicine and comfort me.

I didn't expect them to gloat and say "deserved" such sarcastic remarks.

I had to creep into the bathroom and found the band aid on my own. I almost cried out.

This is the way to dramatize "gloating over". This is always on the stage -- giggling, secretly laughing.

As you like, it only lasts a second.

Even the compassionate people occasionally feel a bit gloating.

People may sometimes need to find a way out for their negative feelings.

But to take it as a small episode, pleasure comes, a short stay, soon let it pass, life is still beautiful.

Everything is quantitative change causing qualitative change. If you set your happiness on the pain of others, and look for "abnormal pleasure" everywhere, "lucky disaster and disaster" will surpass the pure scope, which will distort your psychology and personality.

To avoid the escalation of "gloating over" and to declare war on this abnormal mentality, we should consider the first step.

You will find that many reasons are close to your own.

We tend to overlook our own weaknesses and weaknesses. Whenever possible, we tend to turn our weaknesses into other people's fortunate mistakes, which are interpreted as indescribable resentment.

In the end, they were hurt more, and pushed a good person to the edge of madness.

The second step is to forget it and open the door of love with tolerance.

Most of the gloating people are self centred.

You might as well jump out of your own circle, change your perspective, and think more about your partner's psychological feelings.

In this world, goodwill is always greater than malice. Love is born with love, hatred for life and hatred.

The third step is not to look at others and ignore their advantages.

Consciously adjust their attention center, so that a new balance of psychological imbalance, to bring gloating over to legitimate competition, to catch up with others in practical action.