If You Are Isolated By Your Colleagues

A recent sample survey by an authoritative consultancy in the city showed that nearly 70% of the professionals had suffered from interpersonal problems at work. Indeed, who is the longest time to spend time with us after work? Who is not a lover, not a parent, but a colleague. As soon as I opened my eyes in the morning, I hurried to meet them. Until the night fell, my face was weary of saying goodbye. On the first day of their work, their parents had to urge thousands of exhortation: "on the outside, they should be happy and happy." But people are not as good as God. Although you are careful to maintain your relationship with your colleagues, one day you may still be surprised to find out why you were isolated by your colleagues.

because salary Too high

Shirley has been isolated from two female colleagues in the same department since she entered the company. Every day, Shirley will smile and greet them to them, but they are always expressionless, pretending not to see them. At this time, Shirley's smile stuck to his face. At ordinary times, they did not talk to Shirley. Sometimes Shirley tried to chat with them, and they ended up closing their mouths and doing everything as well as they had discussed, leaving Shirley aside.

In such an environment, Shirley's depression can be imagined. Later, she heard twists and turns from other colleagues who heard a hint that although Shirley first came to the company, the salary was higher than the two female colleagues.

Shirley is very satisfied with the present work. It is not only easy, but also a good salary. She did not want to sacrifice her job because of the discord between her colleagues.

The way to solve this problem is that the fortress is broken through from within. If we want to be isolated, the key is to defeat the United Front. Shirley can find the chance to get closer to the 2 people who are more likely to speak. They often praise and admire her dress, complexion, and talk about family affairs. For a long time, their camp Nature is divided. However, we must have full patience to use this plan.

Because of the wrong character.

Oling works in a state-owned enterprise, and only 3 directors, cashiers and her treasurer are in the finance department. Regardless of the business, the cashier came into the relationship only last year, so almost all the work in the door was on Oling. The cashier only works in cash, not even the most basic reimbursement, but the director never says half a word, because she has a backing. Under the leadership's connivance, the cashier's work is extremely careless. On the contrary, Oling works hard, but at the end of the day, it is always thankless. The director sometimes hints at Oling that she is too earnest about work and silently does everything. Does that mean that he is not built up?

Oling was right in the bottom of his heart. The director didn't even know the computer. He shook hands and threw all the work onto her. She almost tired herself down. In the end, she complained that she was too capable, and Oling felt that he was simply not good at all.

Now, the director and the cashier obviously dislike Oling. Usually two people are always talking and laughing, having business and quantity. Excluding Oling alone, Oling is very depressed.

The solution: when colleagues are isolated, we should also look for reasons for ourselves. If a person does not like you, it may be he is not right; if everyone does not like you, maybe the problem is on you. Oling is conscientious and conscientious in her work. Why not be affirmed by the director? She said she wanted to do a good job in the finance department, but only 3 of them had this consciousness. It can be seen that she has mistaken her role. Doing a good job of the Department is a matter of the director. As subordinates, they should cooperate with their superiors to accomplish this goal instead of simply thinking instead of their superiors. In her speech, she despised the director. How could the director not be aware of it? It seems that Oling should set her own position first.

Because it's too popular.

Jenny is a smart woman who is reused by her boss at a very young age. Every time a meeting is held, the boss will ask Jenny how to look at this problem. Jenny is so popular that employees in the company are older than her, and the employees with higher rank are more or less unable to see it.

Jenny is an avant-garde concept. Although he has been married for several years, he has made up his mind not to have children. It was originally a private matter, but there were good people who went to the boss to blow the wind, saying that Jenny was too eager to climb up, so that even the children were not born. This argument spread all over the company for a time, and Jenny became an "office maniac" overnight. After that, Jenny found that her colleagues looked at her in a strange way, and tried to speak as fast as she could. An invisible barrier was separated between her and her colleagues. Jenny is very aggrieved. She is not so utilitarian as everyone thinks. Why do you think she is so disdain?

Solution: in Workplace It is not surprising that the centre forward is too exposed to pay attention to balancing the mentality of the people around him. Jenny is not a sexist person, but a man who works with high profile and is not good at hiding his own edge in time. As long as Jenny can treat her colleagues honestly, after a long time, they will understand that this is her true feelings.

The feeling of being isolated from colleagues is not good enough, and the reasons for isolation are various. But everyone who feels isolated can think about why they are isolated themselves rather than others. In addition to meeting some natural jealous villains, most of their shortcomings are the main factors leading to isolation. In the unit, the domineering people, the gossips, the small snitch and the limelight are often isolated objects. If you are isolated, have a quick check to see if you are such a person. (reporter Yang Ke)

Source: "talent market"