How To Speak Without Hurting Human Feelings?

And people

Gossip can also beat people.

Society is complex.

We will always encounter some injustice, unjust people, and we can not help expressing our dissatisfaction. Sometimes we need to accuse others of their closeness and let the other side understand.

But how to express this dissatisfaction has certain knowledge, especially for some non principled questions. It is not easy to express dissatisfaction with each other and not destroy harmonious interpersonal relationships.

Hiding words and beating around the Bush is an ideal weapon.

(1) side dial, that is, not to tell the truth, but from the side of the euphemistic location of the other side, so that it can understand their dissatisfaction, the idea of disappearing.

This technique is usually expressed in the form of questions.

For example, A and B are good friends, who regard each other as their confidant.

On one occasion, the youth C of the unit said to A, "A.

I always feel that B is a little too serious, and it is almost stubborn. Is it right? "A disliked her when he listened to C. He thought," you little boy belittling my good friend in a bad way, but he is not good at it. "He pretended to be serious and said," C, let me ask you first. If I know my good friend behind my back, if he knows, will she turn against me? "When C heard this, her face was" red "and silent.

Here, A uses euphemistic techniques.

In the face of C's question, he did not directly answer "yes" or "no". Instead, it turned the topic round and gave the other party a difficult question. This problem just played a role in pointing out the other's role. It implied that "B is my good friend, and I will not discuss with you in partnership". He also implied dissatisfaction with C's remarks and disparaging B.

At the same time, because this kind of request is more tactful and implicit, it does not embarrass the other party.

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(2) analogical warnings, that is, comparing the similarities between two things, suggesting that they should be warned about their misconduct, so that they can understand their dissatisfaction.

For example, the manager of A company was hit by the staff of B company in a business negotiation.

He called the manager of B company angrily and said, "if you don't promise me to cancel the position of the last rude and rude worker, then obviously there is no sincerity to reach an agreement with our company."

The manager of the B company listened with a slight smile and said, "Mr. manager, the question of the attitude of the staff is to criticize education or to dismiss from office. It is entirely our company's internal affairs and does not need to give any guarantee to your company.

This is the same as we do not ask your board of directors to change the position of a manager who has been in conflict with our company staff. That is the sincerity you have reached with us. "

The manager of A suddenly became speechless.

Here, the manager of B used the skills of analogical advice very well.

Although there are many differences between AB two companies, one thing is similar, that is, AB two's disposition of staff or managers is entirely internal affairs of the company, and has nothing to do with the sincerity of the other party.

The manager of the B company grasped the similarity ratio, so as to warn the other side of the request that it was too excessive and unreasonable to express its dissatisfaction with the rude manager of A company.

What needs to be explained is that although this technique has a more obvious tone of dissatisfaction, it is not, after all, a warning element with a "straight talk" technique, so it is called "analogical notice" rather than "analogical warning".

3. Soft knocking. Some girls like to be angry with their boyfriends to show their individuality.

If the girl is the apple of her parents' eyes or brother's sister, she will not tolerate anyone's dissatisfaction with her.

Some infatuated boys cause their girlfriends to be unhappy because of their own words, for fear of offending their "princesses", they will make haste to apologize. Even worse, they will depreciate their requests for forgiveness to show their loyalty to their lovers.

In fact, there is no need to do so.

Xiao Jin, a director of a bureau, and Li Xiaoli of this unit always show some superiority when they fall in love.

Because Xiao Li is a farmer's son. He graduated from college and worked as a clerk in the Bureau.

Once, Xiao Xu came to Xiao Li's home to show some unpleasant feelings to his family's habits and customs.

After dinner, he called the sister-in-law round and round, and it was called "water heating".

Xiao Li looks very bad in his eyes.

He took the opportunity to laugh at his sister and said, "to be a master teacher first, you should step up your training now. When you marry someone else's home, you can put up your master's shelf."

Xiao Li said so, Xiao Xu seemed to have heard something at that time. Later, he had to express himself too much in front of Xiao Li.

Xiao Li took the opportunity to remind Xiao Xu to avoid direct confrontation by using the proverb "to be an apprentice first."

Even if the other party was slightly dissatisfied at that time, it would be appreciated later.

Humor is a reminder that humor is the lubricant of human relationships. Sometimes it is a good way to express humor to others by humor.

There is such a small humour: in a restaurant, a picky woman ordered an omelette.

She said to the waitress, "the protein must be well done, but the egg yolk must be whole, and it must still flow."

Don't use too much oil to fry, add less salt and pepper.

Also, it must be a fresh hen's egg. "

"Excuse me," said the waitress softly. "That hen's name is A Zhen, which is to your liking?"

In this little humor, the waitress is using the skill of humor reminding.

In the face of a fussy female customer, the waitress did not directly express his dissatisfaction with the harsh demands of the other side. Instead, he put forward a more ridiculous question according to the other side's thoughts, reminding the other person that your request was too excessive for us to satisfy and humorously expressed the dissatisfaction with the female customer.

In addition, for those who have evil intentions, they can not defend themselves by breaking the ice and moving the grass, and the snake can defend themselves. Those rude guys who offend you just need to ring the rocks and frighten the tiger away, and then they can stop in time.

The best thing to do is to do nothing but to die.