Workplace: How To Spend Time With Male Colleagues

Arrogance does not mean no communication.

Story: Tao Xinxin, who is 24 years old, is not only beautiful and dignified, but also a top student in a famous college English department.

From school to company, there were no fewer than two dozen men after her.

Xin Xin is a girl with a strong career ambition. She is too busy to take care of love in her busy work, and she will never marry a mediocre person.

The rich work experience makes the young Tao Xinxin look particularly mature and calm, and has a kind of indifferent apathy to all men.

Because she was not willing to be a "vase" character, she jumped to a IT manufacturing company and was mainly responsible for purchasing.

Xinxin's professional ability and creativity are excellent. He is also good at organizing the use of resources and external forces, sometimes even more thoughtful than his boss.

Not long after, the company had an important negotiation with a supplier in Shenyang. The boss assured her to go to another business backbone, Hao. The boss's calculation was that Yu Hao's eloquence and aggressiveness would first win the other side in the momentum, so that their starting price would not be too high. Tao Xinxin remained calm, but was able to take the lead at the unexpected moment and finally win the battle.

It turned out to be a surprise to the boss that the price of the deal was only a little lower than the maximum price he had set.

After questioning for a long time, he came to understand: "cold beauty" Tao Xinxin usually lacked communication with his male colleagues, and even refused to travel thousands of miles away on his way of business. On the way, two people chatted with limited sentences except boarding, baggage and accommodation. At other times, Tao Xinxin didn't look thoughtfully outside the window, but he was watching his eyes closed or turning over a pictorial.

Until entering the negotiation hall, when Hao asked Tao Xinxin to discuss the countermeasures, she was still faint, so that Yu Hao mistakenly thought she had a ready mind.

At the beginning of the negotiations, the smart side did not ask for the offer, but they made a detour to find out what price they could accept.

Sensitive Xinxin, of course, was aware that she was silent about the strategy of mediation. The hasty Yu Hao thought that she was stumped by the other party's problem and was busy preempting the explanation.

As a result, Tao Xinxin was calm, calm, resourceful and unable to return to the sky, so he had to accept the apparently high price.

Comment: implicit and reserved is a kind of female beauty, but too introverted, lack of communication and cooperation with colleagues, will hinder the development of career women.

Because of their relatively independent division of labor and the supervision and coordination of their leaders at ordinary times, this problem is not very obvious. Once they are away from business, there is no "team spirit" and they are unable to complete their work satisfactorily.

It seems that Xinxin needs to change his habits and be more enthusiastic about his male colleagues.

Of course, it doesn't have to be a forced smile. After all, her duty is to do a good job in public affairs.

A little bit of light to male colleagues.

Story: Qi Yue is marketing in a trading company.

Last year, when the Autumn Trade Fair opened in Guangzhou, the marketing manager was unable to get away from work because of her busy work. The company decided to send everyone to the Yue Yue, who had many ideas and strong communication skills. She also had two male colleagues, Xiao Jin and Luo Youming, who were two years younger than Qi Yue.

Along the way, she behaved enthusiastically, generously and generously, without losing the meticulous and considerate of women. She took care of Xiao Jin, Luo and Ming, and booked tickets, booked hotels and contacted booths.

But during the whole exhibition time, Qi Yue almost never received the chair used for the booth. She changed her fluent Chinese and fluent English to welcome every guest who entered the booth, accompanied by guests to eat, chat, play billiards and play bowling.

At the end of the fair, they had 3 people, not only getting back millions of orders, but also meeting a large number of powerful customers.

Two months later, Qi Yue was promoted to be the head of marketing planning.

After a while, Qi Yue was going on a business trip again. She wanted to invite two male colleagues who had a good cooperation last time, but they had to excuse it.

Qi Yue only realized that Xiao Jinhe had met Luo Youming's face when she was on a business trip.

She was very puzzled: I have always been very strict with myself, and I like to be good to others. When did I offend these two colleagues?

Comment: sociologist Homans's "social exchange theory" holds that any interpersonal relationship is essentially an exchange relationship.

Only when this kind of spiritual and material exchange process reaches a reciprocal balance, can the interpersonal relationship be harmonious, and only when the balance of reciprocity is balanced can the interpersonal relationship be maintained.

Qi Yue's subconscious may think, "I am generous and helpful, and they should thank me and accept me more."

In fact, your enthusiasm will bring mental stress to the other party, because friendship is inevitable only when the two sides work together and pay mutually.

Also, it is right to be smart at work, but she should be careful not to let her own light overwhelm her colleagues, especially her self respecting male colleagues.

Talk less about private life with male colleagues

Story: after reading MBA, Xu Rui was employed in a market research and consulting company in Beijing.

The work was very tired and challenging, so she had to rush forward without stopping.

Thanks to Fu Jingting, a friend and elder brother, he always talks about humorous and relaxed topics in her working space, which dispelled her fatigue and depression.

Over the past few years, Xu Rui and Fu Jingting have made outstanding achievements, and are very popular with their superiors.

Later, they were sent to the United States for 10 weeks of manager training, and they worked for two weeks in a prestigious consulting firm in New York.

It includes telephone interviews, research on computer networks, and understanding of customer managers.

During this stressful day, Xu Rui and Fu Jingting met together, ate together, stayed up all night to catch up with the reports, and got along very intimately.

The day before they left the United States, they finally had a moment's leisure. Xu Rui suggested that they should buy the most prosperous shopping center in New York and get the response from Fu Jingting.

They shopped around the department store, and Xu Rui was fascinated by all kinds of dazzling decorations, cosmetics, clothes and leather goods.

Wandering down a few streets, she did not buy much of the real thing, but she collected several big bags of strange things, which were all carried by Fu Jingting.

Fu Jingting said he liked shopping too much: he didn't necessarily have to buy anything. Just looking at the showy windows and the leisurely crowd in the street cafe was an absolute enjoyment, and it was meaningful to work hard again.

Listen to this considerate and pleasant words, think of your husband who would rather sleep than watch TV or go shopping. There is a complex feeling in Xu Rui's heart: she has a kind of worship and attachment to this man. She thinks, if he married him, he would be very happy.

Commented: when traveling with a male colleague on a business trip, it is easy to breed affection. Xu Rui takes her husband to Fu Jingting. He must be more disappointed than ever, and the more he feels that his marriage is boring.