How To Regulate Interpersonal Relationships In The Office

　　 If your Boss He's an idiot. Can you say that to him face to face?

　　 I'm afraid you never will. The study found that the biggest factor that causes office tension is not the ups and downs of corporate stocks, the impact of the American subprime crisis or the strategic correctness of enterprises, but rather the seemingly subtle but disorderly interpersonal relationships.

Interpersonal relationships in offices are commonly referred to as "office politics", and almost none of the classic works on business management has been elaborated. Recently, a new British book, the office question you never asked, fills this gap. Author Lucy. Kayla wee needle gives an intelligent answer to all kinds of awkward interpersonal problems commonly found in offices.

　　 Lunch problem

　　 For example, do you dare to go out for a decent lunch at noon? The problem seems simple, but it often bothers the bank staff. We often hear such complaints: "none of my colleagues has a good lunch." They either snack a couple of fast food on their seats or chew some biscuits or chocolates while working. I'm sure I can finish all my work after half an hour's leisurely eating a decent lunch. But since no colleague went out for lunch, I wouldn't dare do that.

Kellaway gave her solution. In her view, the essence of the problem is to see if she is a submissive. "Some people break rules and go out to eat. Most of them are brilliant and have an inherent character. Arrogance 。 A small number of them will be expelled for being unruly, but more people will go up at an amazing speed.

Kellaway not only gives his own views in the book, but also lists some readers' comments on the same question in his Financial Times column. A Wall Street bank clerk said, "if you want to continue mixing in Wall Street, you must never go out for lunch. Get used to this habit, otherwise you can change it early. "

A 46 year old financier suggested: "lunch is for smart people, who use lunch to build customer relationships. If anyone disdain it, tell him it's a commercial activity. "

Other office questions listed in the book are: how do I mix my wife with my colleagues? How should I tell employees that you smell bad? My colleagues are fired. What should I write on his leave card? All of the questions, Kayla Wei, took all the trouble and answered them one by one.

Rules of the game

Kellaway's new book has been sold well, reflecting the importance of office politics in people's lives. Many novels, films and TV shows show this theme. Experts believe that the main reason for this phenomenon is the change of social culture, such as the collapse of the old rank system, the spread of flattery, the change of employing standard, etc.

Taking the employment standard as an example, the present promotion is increasingly focusing on ability rather than seniority. Your boss is likely to be younger than your children, making traditional office politics more complicated. Kayla and Wei Shuzhong listed the question: how to deal with a self righteous young boss? He may not be smart or academic, but he has much more money than you.

The director of company affairs of the concession Committee. Corson pointed out that 31% of people believe that office politics is to protect their sites. She said: "this has great positive significance, indicating that people understand that to achieve their goals, we must cooperate with others."

But at the same time, the game rules of office politics are becoming more and more complicated. Chief executive officer development center. A research report by Parke last year showed that "institutional politics" has become the biggest pressure in people's work. Claire, principal investigator of the center. Mccartney believes that this is mainly due to "intense competition for limited opportunities and potential promotions".

However, the new trend brings new problems, because sometimes a person's happiness is built on the pain of another person. Sue, 46 years old. Fox has tasted such a bitter pill. She applied for a manager in an American company, and the boss asked her to play bowling with her colleagues. She explained that her hand was disabled and she could not play bowling. But the boss said, as a new manager, she should appear at bowling alley. As a result, she received a gift and a certificate, which read: "I hereby certify that you have been awarded the title of" king of the ball ". She felt insulted.

Egoism

The most difficult problem in office politics is how to face the boss. Many employees think that their boss is a fool. They want their bosses to realize this and make sure they are not fired. What will they say?

Kellaway gave an example in his book. In a survey, a female bank employee should evaluate his boss in all directions. She complained: "he created an empire and spoke highly of himself, never listening to others' opinions." But she did not dare to tell the truth. Even though the investigation was conducted anonymously, she was worried about being recognized.

Kellaway said that faced with this situation, people always choose to avoid it, because "the organizational structure of most companies makes employees almost impossible to speak ill of their boss".

A bank employee agrees: "our thinking is purely self serving. Telling the truth can't change the boss, but it may hurt himself."

Others disagree. A retired CEO believes that honesty and candor can help improve the image of managers. "I once received such an appraisal. My two direct subordinates said that I was indifferent and lacking in human touch. I thought and felt that they were right."

　　 On the same question, there are opposite views. So what is the significance of writing such a guidebook? For this reason, he explained, "tit for tat advice helps people to understand their true thoughts: trying to understand what you do not agree with may be more useful than understanding what you agree with."