How To Avoid Making Enemies In Life

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Human nature is such that no matter how wrong he is, he prefers to blame himself rather than others to accuse them.

We are all like that.

When you want to accuse others, you have to remember that accusation is like a homing pigeon. It always comes back.

Remember, accusation not only makes you offend the other side, but also has to criticize you at a certain time.

If you're just trying to vent your dissatisfaction, even if you want to dismiss your subordinates, you have to think that this dissatisfaction is not only not accepted by the other person, but it's an enemy. If you are trying to correct the other's mistakes, why don't you honestly help him analyze the reason?

The means should serve the purpose. Only bad motives will adopt bad means and then make enemies.

The secret of many successful people is that they never blame others and never say bad things about others. D D looks smart.

In the face of things that can be blamed, you can say: "this is a pity, but you certainly didn't mean to do it, did you? In order to prevent this from happening again, we can analyze the reason."

"This kind of sincere help is far more effective than the finger pointing.

Secondly, for the obvious fallacy of others, you'd better not rectify it directly, otherwise it will appear to be deliberately wise and therefore hurt others' self-esteem.

In life, we must bear in mind that any dispute between non principles should give the other party the chance to win, so that we can not only avoid making enemies, but also have satisfied some kind of "revenge" of the other party and can "hate hate with love".

What is the importance of oral sacrifice? Why should we hurt it? For the wrong of principle, you should try to imply.

Since you are willing to accept your opinion, why do you want to hurt your actions to be "able to act"?

Smile, eye color, intonation, gesture can express your opinion, but do not directly say "you are not right", "in fact is such" and so on, because this is tantamount to telling and asking the other party to admit: "I am superior to you, I said you can change your point of view", and this is actually a provocation.

The tone of discussion, the sincerity of asking for advice, the humorous humor and the understanding look will make the other person change their mistakes, and at the same time, you will not make enemies.

You know, only a small number of people are logical in their thinking. Most people are born with prejudice, jealousy, greed and arrogance. People generally do not want to change their minds.

If they are wrong, they often prefer to change themselves.

If others point out strategically, they will readily accept and be proud of their candor and truth-seeking spirit. The problem is, you have to make them feel and experience.

If you hurt others due to your fault, you must apologize to others in time. Such a move can turn enemies into friends and completely eliminate the hostility of the other party.

Maybe you will get along better in the future.

"Not to fight or not to know" this folk proverb is rich in this philosophy, and since you have offended others, you must have gotten some kind of "vent" at that time. Instead of waiting for others to "come back" and "do not know when to fly a secret arrow", it is better to take the initiative to greet them so as to let the past go all over.

The historical drama of Lian Po and Lin Xiangru's general meeting has been playing.

Lian H relies on the accumulation of merits, and many times deliberately insults Lin Xiang, who is coming from behind. The latter are patient and unwilling to fight, until later, Lian Po paid his respects.

The interpretation of the past and the past

In order to avoid making enemies, there is another point to note.

In fact, there are winners in the quarrel.

Even if you win orally, at the same time, you have built an enemy who harbours resentment against you.

There are always reasons for quarrels, which are always for certain purposes.

If you really want to solve the problem, you must never adopt a quarrel.

In addition to causing people to hate their enemies and to destroy their gentle and gentle images before the public, they play a role.

If it is only the argument caused by different views in everyday life, it is more important to avoid contention.

If you openly put forward your ideas and criticized all the different opinions, it would be too unwise to force you to isolate yourself and stop it.

If you always do this, your opinions will never attract attention.

When you are away, others will be happier than you are.

You know so much that no one can contradict you, and people will no longer disprove you. From then on, someone will argue with you, and what you know is nothing more than that, and it will be difficult to get the slightest supplement from human interaction.

It is not enough to hurt others' self-esteem and blame people because of their debates.