10 Years Job Hopping 20 Times &Nbsp; Why Can'T I Stop The Car?

Pour out the hero: Ali (a pseudonym), 31 years old, unemployed

Alice wrote the help mail containing "80 after", "frequent job hopping", "confused" and other words.

Reading this, there seemed to be a disturbed and overwhelmed mind.

On the appointed day, two o'clock in the afternoon did not arrive, and Ali, a white shirt, arrived early.

He said he had just participated in a reexamination at noon, and the odds were great.

Work is long, but one year is short.

"I have changed a lot of jobs: hotel waiter, salesperson, bartender, express, taxi driver, wedding company salesman, marshal, 3D animation designer, later editor, public relations planner, magazine editor, Marketing Commissioner, marketing director.

He also started his own business... "

Not long after sitting in the teahouse, Alice, who was not very old, reported to me a series of frightening occupational lists, and there was no lack of cross industry jumps.

I graduated from the age of 17 and graduated from a hotel.

So I had a plan in my head: before I was 30 years old, I allowed myself to change more jobs and try different industries.

On the one hand, look at what I best do, which industry has opportunities for development, and on the other hand, I can accumulate contacts in various industries.

Therefore, I must choose the unit and position that I am interested in to interview. I feel confident when I enter the office, and I am also very crisp when I leave.

Ali told me that in the process, the parents did not give him any pressure.

"I was very independent since my childhood, and my parents are letting me go. I am very confident in my personal ability.

For example, let's do housework. Apart from knitting wool, everything else will be difficult for me.

This is absolutely no exaggeration!

So I went to Beijing to study what, mom and dad are very supportive.

With my ability, finding a job is not so difficult.

So I frequently job hopping, long work done for nearly a year, short only for a month.

I have statistics. From the age of 17, I did not study in Beijing for 4 years, and I worked for 10 years. During the period, I actually had 20 job hopping in addition to the company that had held for more than 3 years.

I have many interests and fast learning, so I still do some good work though cross industry.

Resigning from those jobs is by no means incompetent, but rather "unable to sit".

"Only the bartender's job was because the boss wanted to leave the job to others, so I had to go.

Other resignations are my own initiative. "

Ali added.

However, faced with the fact that he was over 30 years old and still could not settle down in a post, Ali was somewhat unsettled: "4 years ago, I got married, my wife worked steadily, and we had good feelings.

She said frankly that I would be "more practical".

But I don't know what's going on.

In order to help him sort out his thoughts, I asked him to talk about the longest job he ever had to see what caused him to "sit still".

I least like being tied up.

So far, I feel that the year that the clothing company has done is an infinitely rich and enjoyable year.

The company was opened by a foreign boss. At the beginning of its establishment, he recruited me to join. The position is the market regional manager, who is responsible for the market business in Shanghai.

The boss is "flying trapeze". He trusts me very much. He gives me an office and a car in Shanghai. He only needs to submit a report to him every week or half a month.

Including local recruiters, and I'm going to do it all by myself.

I love design, and it is easy to get inspiration in the clothing industry. At that time, many of my creative ideas were approved by my boss.

"At that time, I did very well and worked very hard."

In memory of the past, Alex was in high spirits, but the topic still had to come back.

"As a senior member of the company, the work is so satisfactory. Why do we want to go in a year?"

Ali says that's because the company has changed.

At that time, a sales director who worked well with me was forced to quit.

As soon as he left, I felt that the work could not be carried out at once.

What is more fatal is that the head office of the company has an air force assistant, and the authority is very large. The direct communication between my boss and my boss suddenly became him.

After nearly a year's work, my request for pay raise has not been answered. I can't help feeling that my boss's trust in me is much worse than before.

Several factors added, and I decided to leave.

The company didn't have many employees when I first came, and by the time I left, there were already two hundred people.

Leave, a little regret.

"I hate to be tied up."

Ah Li concluded, "I am not afraid of hard work in finding a job. There is one thing: I hope the boss is a bole, can value me and trust me, let me let go of something to carry out my own idea.

Usually, my ideas will always succeed. "

In retrospect, there are similar feelings when giving up other jobs.

What I do is not to follow others' thoughts but to accept my thoughts.

When subordinates can't fulfill their tasks according to my requirements, I prefer to play in person, get tired and make the effect I want.

When I find that my boss's ideas are inappropriate, I will make suggestions. If I am not accepted, I will be very angry.

Sometimes I can't bear to see some colleagues who do not agree with the boss's opinions but refuse to say anything.

And I always say something.

Am I too high-profile and not good enough?

We can see that Ali is seriously combing his experience and trying to reflect on it.

I also frankly told him his own thought: "if there is a word, it should not be a problem, but when it comes to how to deal with it in the future, it is necessary to test endurance and adaptability.

Is the boss not accepting your ideas, and you feel that you have been rejected?

Ali said, "yes, I will shut up in my office and think for a long time. Why do they think so to me?

Do I think too much? "

Ali and I laughed at the same time.

I think he laughed and took out a book from his bag and wrote down the two words: "Endurance" and "adaptability".

I want to start business after 40 years old.

Arguably, Ali hopes that a highly autonomous person should be willing to start a business. Why did he start a company and give up?

When I asked questions, ah Li's eyes lit up and told me that his ideal was actually to start his own business.

That year, I just resigned from a wedding salesman's work, with the understanding of the industry, I borrowed a sum of money from my parents to open a wedding company, and raised my own "Facade".

The wedding industry is creative. With my own mind, I quickly put the company on the right track with an annual turnover of 250 thousand yuan.

But after more than 3 years, I felt that money was too good to make money and relaxed management.

As a result, the company went downhill and finally gave it to others. I returned to the job market to find a job.

For the failure of this venture, Ali did not want to talk more details.

Just when I asked if it was a pity, I remained silent for a few seconds and nodded, "unfortunately."

At the moment, my biggest goal is to stabilize.

Frequent job hopping brings me plenty of experience and friends from all walks of life, but I have suffered a lot from professional coherence and wealth accumulation.

Always supporting my parents, I will remind me that it is time to settle down in order to secure social security.

Thinking of my wife and future children, I, as a man, should really make my family feel at ease.

I want to control the number of job hopping before I am 40 years old.

In fact, I have been looking for a job this time, and I have already relied on the goal of "stability".

I did a good job in the last job, and the boss tried to save me.

But there are only 10 people in that company. I think small companies are not always stable.

Today I went to the interview for a big company. In my eyes, the rules and regulations of big companies are relatively stable. I should be able to stay longer.

Ali said that if he goes well, he still wants to start his own business after he is 40 years old.

"So many industries, most of the three areas of catering, wedding and clothing feel, want to do some distinctive brand in these areas.

I believe I will be more and more successful.

A dream will have a stage. "

In Ali's view, "doing what you like" is still the most important dream in life.