How Can We Communicate Effectively?

In P's daily life, we can see that some people can freely and freely "a href=" http://www.91se91.com/business/ "> /a", while some people are just the opposite.

All of these are related to the correct way of communication.

Now, let me give you some examples to talk about the wrong ways of communication in our daily life and how to adjust them.

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< p > first, do not preset the hypothetical question, let each other conflict less.

When you talk with others, you might say, "what's wrong with you?" in the face of such a language, the euphemism of the other person may say, "who says I have a problem?" fiercely, he will say, "you only have problems!" or you will ask the other person, "please tell me the truth!" the other side will retort, "which ear do you hear me lying?"

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< p >, how do we overcome such a vicious cycle? This requires that you should not rush to make any judgments in any case, think more about other possibilities, and use "yes" or "interrogative questions" instead of the preset assumptions.

For example, in the above question, we assume that others have "problems" or "lie" in advance.

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< p > secondly, use "a href=" http://www.91se91.com/business/ "> /a >" and use "Hope" more.

People often use the word "should", but many times people do not realize what he expresses in his heart when he says this word.

"Should" means an ideal state. I should be popular. Children's performance should be good. My husband should love me.

Many times it is not a question that should not be, but a question of "yes or no".

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Too much P should indicate that you have many idealized ideas, so that you are more likely to be disappointed, and you will always find something that should not happen.

It will also make you complain more about life and everything around you and begin to distrust people around you.

If you always say "what you should do" to others, you will only let others complain about you like this.

There are not so many things in life. You can't ask others what they will do. This kind of "ought" mentality will seriously affect your communication with others.

You can only hope for others. Next time you want to say something, remember to change it to "Hope".

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< p > again, try to avoid saying "why".

The word "why" is a very useful but very subtle word. It can help you understand a person's motivation to do things, but whether you realize it or not, the word "why" often sounds certain criticism.

For example, you say to others, "why do you do that?" the other person will probably reply to you: "why, can't I do that?"

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< p >, if you want to know the motive of the other person's work, and if you want to avoid the accusation, what should you do? The answer is to change the word "how" to replace "why" and "how" sounds more objective than "why".

For example, you can ask the other person, "how did you decide to do that?" although it is the same as "why", it is the motive for asking the other person to do something, but the difference lies in why "why" has accusations and "how" is merely curiosity.

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< p > then, do not let others think you are unreasonable because of excessive inference.

There is a halo effect in interpersonal relationships, that is, a few prominent features of the other side will affect your overall judgement of this person.

This actually reflects a common mistake in people's minds, that is, people tend to overly deduce.

The halo effect manifests itself in many ways and, of course, involves communication with others.

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< p > for example, maybe you heard others say, or you said so yourself, "you always don't answer my phone", in fact, people always do not pick up your phone is not possible, otherwise you will not be able to communicate.

Think about how many times you haven't answered the phone since you've been busy recently. Do you think it's unfair that others say this? It can reflect the urgency of the other person's desire to contact you, but sometimes it will give others the feeling of making trouble. It's better to say, "this is the third time you didn't answer my phone this week."

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< p > in addition, break the connection and start again.

Sometimes, if the two sides are arguing over a problem, perhaps the better way is not to discuss the matter first and divert attention.

For example, a customer is constantly complaining about the company's service.

"Have you ever been to Tiananmen?" Xiao Ling, a salesperson, was so cold that he stopped chattering.

Xiaoling went on to say, "the square is the largest in the world, with a wide view and..."

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< p > by interrupting the connection, customers can stop "a href=" http://www.91se91.com/business/ "complain" /a in astonishment.

At the same time, by interrupting the original coherent thinking of your customers, you can put your message into his subconscious and let him understand what you are saying.

Of course, when using interruption connection, we should pay attention to choosing the time and object, so as not to cause the other party to not care about his feelings, thereby affecting the communication and cooperation between them.

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< p > finally, it is not easy to conflict in soft environment.

Those who are easily conflicting with others are more "tough" than others, and those who are not easily conflicting with others are more "soft".

Psychological research has found that touching soft things will make people's temper soft.

Therefore, if you are afraid to conflict with each other, you can choose some soft objects or soft objects.

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< p > for example, when sitting, you can choose sofa or sit on soft bedside. When standing, you can choose to stand on soft carpet or choose to communicate in soft and comfortable casual clothes.

At this point of communication with each other, the possibility of conflict between you will be smaller.

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< p > of course, there are still many problems to be noticed in practical communication.

More social skills need more observation, more thinking and more conclusion in your practical interaction. I wish you a pleasant interpersonal relationship! < /p >