Silence Is Golden, Effective Communication Is The Kingly Way.

< p > Hemingway said, it took us two years to learn to speak, but it took sixty years to learn to shut up.

Opening can be impulsive, shut up but requires willpower to control.

What principles should be grasps so that the efficiency of silence can be achieved? Silence is golden, and sometimes silence can not only win the war, but also bring about a gradual change.

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< p > < strong > tactics 1: calm down, a href= "http://www.91se91.com/news/index_c.asp" > listen to < /a >, control the impulse to speak for others, /strong < /p >

< p > shut up is a blank blank. The most important purpose is to listen quietly.

Ke Shulin, a clinical psychologist, listens to various cases of patients every day. He can be regarded as an expert in listening, but even he thinks he needs to practise to shut up.

"Because it's so easy," he always reminded himself to drink a cup of tea before he could slow down his impulse.

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< p > the most common thing is that we only hear one or two sentences, and we have our opinions in mind.

When a counselor talks too much, he becomes a caring person. When a teacher or a parent is talking about it, he becomes a obedient child who is satisfied with your need to speak.

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< p > < strong > tactics two: first of all, share the realities of life with each other, and draw closer to each other. < a href= "http://www.91se91.com/news/index_c.asp" > distance > /a > /strong > /p >

< p > why is it sometimes useless to talk more? Because people who speak often blurt out that they did not put themselves in the same position.

Author Li Weiwen quotes Macarthur, the two World War Douglas MacArthur: "communication is not to increase understanding but to avoid misunderstanding."

With a few words, it is difficult for people to understand each other.

Preaching to children is like trying to teach a pig to sing. It's not only a waste of effort but also a pig's displeasure.

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< p > in his new book "film and life dialogue", take the real movie "the girl of the mulberry flower" as an example. You should know how to shut up when you are right, and first of all, you have to agree with each other, so that you can have a chance to narrow the gap between them.

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< p > < strong > Tactics Three: < a href= > http://www.91se91.com/news/index_c.asp > nonverbal communication < /a > a caring eye is better than a thousand words < /strong > /p >

P, is it communication? Some people insist on saying everything clearly and clearly, or they do not think that they are communicating. This is especially evident in the relationship between men and women.

But we forget that the establishment of relationships and feelings is not entirely "talk".

Each other's inner relationships include willingness to think for each other and willingness to change for the other.

As long as we get along, there will be friction, but instead of being locked up for the sake of who is right and who is wrong, it is better than a caring eye and a change of behavior to resolve disputes and repair relations.

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< p > < strong > tactics four: think about how to say, in the way the other side can accept, the effect is better than < /strong > /p >

< p >, then how can we judge what is the time to shut up? In the eyes of parenting experts, Taiwan's education is always too much.

But to shut up is not to say nothing but to say something.

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< p > the fastest way is often the slowest effect!

A lot of people are eager to communicate.

In fact, if the same sentence can be laughed out, the other party naturally has no reason to refuse.

Instead of speaking directly, it is better to think about the way the other person can accept, though slow, the effect can last for a long time.

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< p > to suppress the impulse to blurt out, to shut up can not only reveal a person's self cultivation, but also choose to shut up at a critical moment, consolidate his personal dominance and even become a winning strategy for reversing his inferior position.

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< p > < strong > tactics five: silent negotiation, no sound at the critical moment, helps to build an advantage < /strong > /p >

< p > in 1962, the Kennedy administration of the United States, in the background of the Cuban crisis, was shocked by thirteen days. In the early stage of the crisis, Robert F. Kennedy, acting as attorney general, constituted a crisis committee under the presidency of the president. But at the very beginning, he closed his mouth and did not preside over the meeting. He did not preside over the meeting and avoided the presence of those with decision-making power. The public might cater for or conjecture on, and dare not challenge the leaders.

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< p > let the missile crisis be resolved smoothly. It is a key negotiation between Rob Kennedy and the Soviet Union ambassador to the United States. Finally, when the talks between the two sides did not overlap, he grabbed the carry on bag and walked away. The same shut up action brought great psychological pressure to the other side, which led to the announcement of the withdrawal of the Cuban missile in less than twenty-four hours by Nikita Khrushchev.

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Rob Kennedy's move clearly conveys the message that the United States does not hesitate to implement the solution of force. Zhang Rongfeng pointed out that the silent force of silence has worked in this negotiation. In addition to the fact that the US Army has demonstrated the blockade of Cuba's strong forces, the Kennedy administration has also established a number of deeds in the pig Bay incident and many other actions, which is the key to fighting against the enemy without fighting.

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P > < strong > tactics six: a blank attack and defense, silence for a favorable position, and a retaliation of < /strong > < /p >.

< p > the closed door knowledge, whether it is the most basic listening, or advanced negotiation, attack and defense, is not a passive silence, but a practice of actively creating gaps and controlling the control of communication in one's own hands.

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The highest level of "P" and shut up is probably the Buddha's latent wisdom.

Chen Ruxiu, an associate professor of radio and TV Department at the Political University, mentioned Ang Lee's "Banquet". Eventually, the father discovered the fact that his son was gay. However, the couple who faced the false marriage did not expose their old father, but gave him a silent hug before leaving, which was more than a thousand words.

Shut up at the right time, perhaps more than we thought.

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< p > silence is not to teach people to keep silent but rather to think deeply before thinking.

Let's talk more about quality in our lives, and less idle words.

Let the sparks of thought shine in silence, so that the art of language can be sublimated in thinking! < /p >