Workplace Psychological Warfare: Is The Other Side Intentional?

< p > suppose that the boss really harbors malice? What if there is something inside? What should I do if the boss really wants to force himself to resign? And how to solve it? The more jealous of the other side and the other side, the boss will become a frightening barrier.

And because she is too great, she will feel unable to face it. She is full of sense of powerlessness and despair.

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< p >, but these are all the fears caused by her "unauthorized speculation".

It is almost impossible to speculate or suspect the other's inner thoughts.

Think about it, you want to find out the answer to "why", but we can not even fully understand our hearts, let alone understand what the other person is thinking.

When the problem goes further into the realm of potential consciousness, the clues that are perceived from the significant consciousness are totally useless.

There is no doubt about that.

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< p > because the gap between "significant consciousness" and "latent consciousness" is so great.

The more people thinking about others, the less aware of their true feelings, the gap will naturally widen.

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< p > < strong > compliance, or a href= "http:// http://fz.sjfzxm.com/" > decision < /a > /strong > /p >

< p > if you set the instructions in your life that you must obey, whatever you say, everything will be "orders and instructions" in your ears.

For example, your boss asks you, "do you have time to do this?" you should answer "yes" involuntarily.

In fact, the boss may just want to ask you if there is a way to do it, but it sounds like you can't finish it in your ear.

At this point, "I do not want to do, I am not sure that I can not finish it" and so on their feelings, completely ignored by you.

Therefore, you will feel the "fear of accepting this task" after you have accepted the task.

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< p > in another scenario, the boss said to you loudly, "why? Why is this thing here?" at this point, you should feel that you are being held accountable and reprimanded.

If that thing is forgotten, you may feel like you are "bad guys who have been caught in bad deeds" and blame yourself.

Maybe the boss didn't mean it at all, just careless.

But from your ear, it may be like saying, "why is it so useless to do such a trifle?"

If you keep listening to your boss with such ears, your boss will become more and more horrible.

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< p > if you have the idea of "do not want to do, but must do it", although the surface of the fear of silent compliance with each other's instructions, the heart may still refute, will resist, will be angry.

For example, your boss tells you, "if you don't know how to do it, you can read this book."

He gave you a professional book.

However, what he said in your ears is: "not studying professional books is not enough."

Or, "why do you still do not understand? It's a slow learner!" < /p >

< p > you may think that your boss looks down on himself and makes sarcastic remarks.

Maybe it will still shed tears for this matter.

To get rid of this fear is to abandon the idea of "not obeying" and retrieve "inner freedom".

In this way, you should be able to get "freedom".

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< p > < strong > do you agree that you have freedom? < /strong > < /p >

< p > what the other person says is always an opinion or a feeling.

Whether it comes from the boss's orders or the voice of his parents, it's the same.

You don't have to comply, because you have the freedom of your choice.

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< p > if you have been liberated from the consciousness of "non compliance", your reaction will not be so sensitive to what the other person says.

At the same time, fear will also decrease.

Even so, it is like "how do I think my boss is my freedom". Even if he really takes a malicious attitude, it is his freedom to think about what his boss wants.

Now, the most important thing is to improve your own "freedom".

As long as you can identify your own freedom from your heart, you will be able to identify with your partner's freedom.

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< p > of course, everyone in the workplace has "due" responsibilities.

The business or work that you accept on your post is obligated to complete.

However, this is not the same as "non compliance", but your "sense of responsibility" for your duties.

What I advocate is not to teach people to give up their duties, to act with all their heart, but not to order you not to comply with it, or to prohibit you from following it.

If we do not make clear the difference, even if it is supposed to be "our own responsibility", we will feel "forced to do", which may lead to grievances and even blame or attack each other.

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< p > responsibility and "taking your own feelings as the benchmark" are not contradictory.

On the contrary, a responsible person truly understands the person who "ignores his feelings and complies with the other side, will be" involuntarily to do "and generate anger and fear from it, doesn't he?" /p

< p > < strong > the other side is deliberate? Do not answer the phone's psychological warfare < /strong > < /p >.

"P" often sees such a scene in the workplace, even if it is not connected to the telephone, it will also play a psychological battle.

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< p > the phone rings.

Today, you decide to take heart and say goodbye.

Because colleagues usually do not answer the phone no matter how loud it is, it makes you feel very unhappy.

You are always in a position to answer the phone.

Every time you pick up the phone, you have a feeling that the other party is deliberately unconnected.

I didn't expect that one day, the colleague would pick up the phone as soon as the phone rang.

The next day, the next day, the colleague rushed to pick up the phone as soon as the phone rang, and even grabbed the phone next to you.

In the end, you hardly need to answer the phone.

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< p > if you are comparing yourself with your colleagues in the mind of "taking others as the center", no matter what he does, you will surely have the feeling of "the other side is deliberate".

So what do you see from your colleagues' eyes? < /p >

< p > If a colleague thinks other people as a center and pays attention to your face or reaction, he will feel that his colleagues are watching all the time and even feel very stressed.

If you are the predecessor of the company, this situation must be more serious.

From your point of view, his colleague did not answer the phone. His attitude was so arrogant. When his colleagues rushed to pick up the phone, his colleagues could not help but feel your gaze.

Colleagues think that "it's not enough to do so", and based on your fear, let him start answering all the calls.

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< p > < strong > each other is breathless. < /strong > /p >

< p > How can you now understand that everyone has different opinions and feelings because of different positions? We don't know the truth.

Maybe colleagues are really deliberate.

It may also be because of your negative attitude towards your colleagues that he has deliberately done so.

More probably, your subconscious monitoring of your colleagues has long been overwhelming, but you have not found it yourself.

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< p > no matter what the situation is, if the relationship is not improved, the two of you will not feel that you have won the other party.

Even if you think you win in some cases, you will lose yourself in another situation.

Even in the case of "winning" obviously, because your victim is strong enough to win, he will feel "unwilling to win".

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< p > not only you.

The same idea occurred in the other side, and the same situation occurred.

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< p > < strong > don't look at the other side, do < a href= "http:// http://sjfzxm.com/news/index_f.asp" > oneself < /a > good < /strong > /p >

< p > in self centred psychology, what one wants to think about the other person is his own "freedom".

Even if I hate my colleagues again, how unhappy and even hate each other in my "heart" to my colleagues, it is "my freedom".

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< p > do not deny any negative feelings in your heart.

You can think this way: "so, I would have this mood! Although I do not know why, I really hate that colleague.

Since hate is annoying, it doesn't matter. "

So, how can you accept your feelings frankly? So you shouldn't care so much about your colleagues.

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< p > because fear is always placed on the other side.

If you put your eyes on the other person, you will want to explore what the other person thinks.

If you put your eyes on the other person, you will feel hurt yourself, and you can't help yourself.

It's because you push yourself to fight like this that you fear.

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< p > in that case, it is better to set your sights on yourself from the beginning.

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< p > "(nothing to do with anyone). I answer the phone only at my own convenience."

If you make up your mind, you can focus on your own mood.

For you, the important thing is "do you want to answer the phone?"

There is no co-worker between you and telephone.

If you can do this, gradually, in any case, you will no longer pay attention to what your colleagues are doing, and the situation of "watching each other" will also be reduced.

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< p > the stronger the person looks, the more scared /p is.

< p > some people just shut their lips with a high pressure attitude, but they feel that they are self satisfied by "having the ability, quick thinking and eloquence".

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< p > "such a silly question should not be asked at all! Before you ask other people's reasons, you should do more investigation yourself first!"

Not only that, but also no chance to speak to others.

"Where did you hear such a thing? It's boring! What's the basis for saying this? It's best to say that until I accept it.

Look! You can't say it! Shut up if you can't do it! "Or" see, from your answer, you know you don't understand it at all. "

Don't you find what you're talking about? Don't even know it. "There must be a lot of people like this to dismiss each other to satisfy themselves.

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"P > see this person who insists on his own opinion, or is" good at persuading others ", maybe someone may think," if I can be as excused as he is, I'm good at persuading others with words, so it's very addictive. "

There must be many people who worship this kind of people.

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< p > but what is it actually? Is such a person really satisfied as a worshiped person? If you have such a person around you, please try to think back.

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< p > because of fear of failure, you have to be tough. < /p >

< p > Why do they have to speak in such a strong and uninhibited way and insist on not listening to others' opinions? It is because they are afraid to listen to others, because these people are used to fighting against others in their hearts.

So how do we deal with such people? Simply speaking, such people are hard to deal with.

"Why...

Why is that so? Do we have to listen to what he says silently? "No, No.

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< p > first, to know that the more such a person is, the more he fears in his heart.

Just knowing this, your fear of him will be reduced.

It's pretty good to do that.

Besides, fighting with this kind of person is the only thing that hurts you.

"Then, in the final analysis, do I have to listen to what he says?" yes, if the other party insists on his opinion, you should not disobey the other party first, "help him achieve what he wants."

It's also a way to protect yourself from injury.

But even if you do what the other person says, there will be problems.

The important thing is whether you have the ability to understand each other in a coherent way.

This is very important in protecting yourself.

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< p > for example, in the workplace, say to the boss, "I see, then do as you say."

As long as we say so, the other party will return to a pleasant face.

After that, you make it clear: "but if you do it without the consent of the other party, D company may not accept it, and there may be a gap between our E departments and F departments.

Is that okay? "At the moment, the boss might be angry and say," don't control so much! You just do what I say. "Then you just have to answer honestly," well, then I see. "

It is safe to say that no intervention is safe.

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< p > Why do you say so? Because the purpose of your talk is not to stir up disputes with your boss.

Your goal should be to clarify who is responsible in advance.

Even if you disagree, there will still be work to do.

Because of this, it is necessary to clarify "responsibility" and "responsibility of the other party".

In order not to be pferred when a problem arises, it is an important way to ensure its own safety before putting forward its own countermeasures.

Rather than adore people who seem strong at first glance, don't you think it's better to be a person who is not affected by such a person? And there is no need to fight against the object of fear.

Suppose you do it according to your boss's orders.

At this point, the responsibility is likely to fall on you. In order to prevent such a situation, if you left behind enough to protect yourself, you could reply: "at that time, I reminded you that D company may not accept it."

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< p > workplace is a place where "responsibility is distinct".

Clarifying responsibilities ahead of time is a way to protect themselves from strong and high pressure.

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