Seeking Common Ground While Reserving Differences And Crossing The "Workplace Gap"

Can not afford to hurt the "old generation"

In some traditional enterprises or institutions, there will be more or less "eligibility". When they enter the office early, they will have a "responsibility for their duties".

At the age of more than 30, Sara is an editor of a publishing house. There are many elder editors in the unit. From time to time, they need to point out the Sara. In Sara, it seems that the way of writing is very normal. When they get to their eldest sisters, they are all "irregular", which makes Sara feel very stressed.

She felt that although she was young, she was not equal to the others. The times were developing, the eyes should be updated, but she would be dragged back by her eldest sisters.

Sara often jokes with friends about this: "selling old people" can not afford to hurt!

Zhao Lijun, a senior psychological consultant, believes that whether it is good or bad to work with older colleagues depends more on the new person's inner attitude and the initial definition of the new employee.

Like Sara, it is reflected in the heart that the opposite party is defined as "the old generation".

The meaning is disapproval or even.

With such an initial mindset, every move of the eldest sister will be considered negative.

Different feelings show different behaviors, and the feelings of the other are different. As a result, it becomes more and more hostile or tends to merge gradually, and the result of the interaction between the two sides is different.

In fact, senior colleagues can set some obstacles for the newcomers in their work, but they can also help new people.

It is not bad or useless to choose respectful and understanding old people, listen to each other's advice, and listen politely. Even if you have your own understanding, you may as well listen to your ears. You can familiarise yourself with different practices and ease the relationship with older colleagues.

The "post-90s"

70 think overtime.

After 80, I think overtime means inefficiency. After 90, overtime is not allowed.

Zhang Ran's new sales team came to Xiao Yang, a newly graduated college student. Xiaoxiao was a 90 year old man with advanced thinking and personality.

In his view, work is to do its best, to do what we want, otherwise we would rather not do it.

Zhang Ran felt that teamwork is the most important thing to do with the company's interests.

Therefore, in many proposals, Zhang Ran denied Xiao Jian's creativity.

Unexpectedly, Xiao Yu even reflected directly on the micro-blog and the head of the company. He said Zhang Ran was a stubborn and thinking old department leader.

Miss Zhao Lijun believes that the reason why "generation gap" has become a difficult problem is due to the unfavorable communication. To overcome the obstacles of generation gap, we must first choose the right way to do well in communication.

Zhang Ran's views and ideas were not told to Xiao Yang. He seemed to think that Xiao Yang should have known that "teamwork, company interests" and so on.

One of the difficulties that bother communication and communication is that I often think my reason should be understood and my starting point should be understood.

I don't know if you don't know how the other side will know and how to understand it. Secondly, in communication, we should not only achieve the purpose of showing our thoughts and opinions, but also achieve the purpose of understanding and even accepting the other party.

Listening to understanding and listening is the key to communication between different ages.

"Ditch" to fill deep

Before entering the office, Lin Chen took various precautionary measures, especially focusing on eliminating the generation gap between his colleagues, and doing corresponding homework for different sex and age groups.

When he arrived at the unit, he compared his senior colleagues with their own opinions, even though they thought their views were incorrect.

Over time, colleagues felt that Lin Chen was a small attendant.

Lin Chen's direct leadership has just become a mother. In order to get close to her, Xiao Lin often talks about the topic and leadership of childcare. The leader thinks that Xiao Lin is married or has a girlfriend. That's why she is so experienced. When she knows that Xiao Lin is still single, he looks at Xiao Lin's eyes differently. He feels that a big man knows something about women and children.

The opinions of leaders and colleagues caused a lot of psychological pressure on Kobayashi. He never thought of himself filling the gap, but he was plunged into the ditch.

Miss Zhao Lijun believes that the difference between two sides is attributable to an external factor, such as age and age differences, forming intergenerational stereotypes. It is too lazy to understand and understand others. Psychology is known as "cognitive miserly", which is definitely not conducive to eliminating the generation gap in the workplace.

However, Xiaolin, like this, does not mean to be "stingy" to eliminate differences. It will make the other person feel abnormal.

Whether communication, cooperation or ordinary friendship, the greatest capital of everyone in interpersonal relationships is not from the other side's identity, but from maintaining their own unique uniqueness. Only when the other party does not have the right, the other party can get along with you.

If we blindly comply, we will only lose our interpersonal capital and reduce the value of interpersonal communication.

In Confucius's words, it is the ideal state of interpersonal relationship to have a gentleman in harmony and dissimilarity. In the natural run in, the generation gap is eliminated in the invisible way.