The Least Distasteful Distance From My Boss.

As the saying goes, "accompany a gentleman like a tiger", as the saying goes, "if you don't get into a tiger, you can't get a tiger." nowadays, people in the workplace seem to live in the dilemma of the saying.

Apart from your superiors, you may be alienated from your salary increase or promotion.

But with the boss too close, the advantages and disadvantages are exposed, the result may still backfire.

Not far away, not close to each other, but the distance between relatives is really a workplace University.

The left side of the company feels left: it will make the leaders feel safe. The logistics and trading company of Xiaofei is very fond of reading. When I was in University, I liked to read some books on psychological research.

This point is now being used in my office to run subordinates.

I know that a sensible leader will not reduce his style to his subordinates, so leadership is leadership, and leadership should be kept at a certain distance and strategically convey some of his wishes.

The message I want to convey is simple, that is, let the leader know that I will faithfully obey him at work.

So whether I was talking or meeting regularly, I consciously stood on his left or chose his seat on the left.

Whether he knows this delicate psychological game, at least it is in line with scientific principles.

Similarly, in order to highlight my willingness to cooperate, I will moderately keep pace with leaders in words and deeds.

Especially when facing a client's business, the boss's forward posture is worth imitating me, so that he can feel my feeling of "fighting side by side with him".

In short, only when leaders feel that I am "safe", will my position be more "safe".

The boss feels the distance: it is the sense of security of the leader. When I just go to the leadership position, I will suffer from the sense of distance.

At that time, I was promoted by the leadership of the company as a department head because of outstanding performance. I was the youngest in the leadership of the same level. I also secretly decided to bring my department to success.

Because the Department led by them is the place where they have been working hard, and they are quite familiar with their subordinates. Many of them are brothers who used to work together, and I have no intention of maintaining the so-called safe distance.

The only change in the leadership is that I and my colleagues are in a different place of office.

At first, I didn't care. I always hate to lead the leadership of the leadership. I swear that I will never be a leader. I have a long problem. I have a hard time to lay down my work.

It is not so simple to recognize the mistakes of oneself and change them.

I studied several books about leadership and began to change my behavior step by step.

At the beginning of the office, of course, there was a great stir. Even though the colleagues did not say anything in their mouths, they could see their dissatisfaction with the details, and their attitude towards me was not as good as before.

I had to grind my teeth to bear it. Who allowed myself to indulge them first?

It's hard to keep close distance from subordinates.

Mr. J, the manager of the import and export company of parts and components, I can give you two examples to illustrate how the subordinates keep their safe distance with me.

On one occasion, the company organized meals in a small area and ordered two tables in a restaurant in a restaurant.

Several of our managers and advisors arrived a few minutes later, but they saw that their subordinates had spontaneously filled one of them, as if they had deliberately set aside another table for our senior.

I used to have done other people's subordinates, and I can understand this situation deeply.

This kind of leisure time for dining is still a little better than sharing the table with the leaders. To eat, we need to pay attention to etiquette and etiquette and not to eat enough.

It might be better to relax at the most normal table with colleagues who are very good friends.

It also shows a characteristic of the safety distance between employees and their leaders.

Another example is that once the whole company took part in collective training outside the community, it was asked to divide itself into three groups: two managers and one consultant.

At that time, a spectacular scene appeared: almost all the employees rushed to my side, gathering nearly three or four people at a time, while the other two leaders were few and few.

Finally, the training staff made adjustments to maintain the balance of the three groups, and the former employees' faces were distributed with a helpless expression.

This sharp contrast makes our leaders very embarrassed, but my heart feels relieved and moved. Because of the trust and support of their subordinates, the distance between them seems to be very close.

Under suitable circumstances, employees will choose their own safe distance from their leaders.

So the safety distance does not necessarily mean "how far" it is, sometimes it can see how close it is.

I don't like Amy who is in charge of state-owned enterprises. I think it's better for leaders to have nothing to do with their subordinates.

I have 6 subordinates. Usually they have good relationship with me. They are basically talking about everything, like friends.

Last summer, I bought a new house, decorated the house and used all my savings.

Unfortunately, my father was ill again in hospital.

When I received an urgent call from the hospital, I was all in a hurry.

At that time, one of my subordinates accompanied me to the hospital, but when I learned that I had to pay a deposit of 3000 yuan before I was hospitalized, I was very embarrassed because I couldn't get so much cash on hand.

At that time, my colleagues immediately paid for me, saying that when I had enough money, I could do it again.

I was very hesitant at that time, how to say that I am also his boss, always have a little bit of credit on his subordinates.

But at that time, I really had no choice but to pay the deposit first.

The boss asked his subordinates to lend money, which always damaged his dignity, so I was uncomfortable to see him later.

Since then, I have come to the conclusion that it is best not to owe a subordinate.

MS.XU, the head of the Department of charge of the establishment of a trusted circle, once committed a mistake in establishing a trusted circle when I first went to the leadership post. I think wishful thinking that a leader must have several "confidant ministers". So after the official command, he quickly established his own trusted circle in the office, and wanted to take this as the core of the Department.

At the beginning, many things were done with a lot of enthusiasm, but gradually the problems appeared.

Employees outside the core think that they are not valued, lack enthusiasm in their work, and do not regard work as a career. While employees in the core are proud of themselves, they regard themselves as too high.

A good secretarial department is bureaucratic and I am self accusation.

Resolutely reflecting on oneself, or turning the boat on the question of "distance".

The leaders of the army are aware of the fact that the "distance" is closely related to one's leadership.

Now, facing the present department, I can do my best to make "one pot of water level".

Only by "one pot of water leveling", as a staff member, can the achievements be quickly accepted and trusted by colleagues and leaders. As a boss, their leadership prestige can be better played in the office.

In the heart of our company, we often have to accompany our leaders to dinner with our customers after work.

Leaders like to let female employees "accompany guests", of course, it is proved that this is indeed easier to close business relationship.

I am the nearest one among our female colleagues, so we often follow the leader to do this errand.

After the end of each social gathering, I usually go home with the leader's car, and naturally get along with the leaders for more non working hours.

I think I should have more say in the so-called "safe distance" between leaders.

My principle is not to involve leaders in private topics, nor to accept contact with leaders.

This applies especially to married male leaders.

After all, lonely men and widow spend a lot of time together in the middle of the night. Even if the time is not long, it is not impossible to go back and forth for a few times.

Therefore, you must have a good balance in your mind. What should be said, what should not be said, what should be done and what should not be done must be clear.

Sometimes leaders ask me to do something private, and accept or decline as circumstances permit.

More attention should be paid to the eyes and gossip of colleagues. It is useless to be clean and self conscious. In case of being too close to the leader and causing others' guidance and exclusion, they will not be able to jump into the Yellow River.

One of the survival rules of the Zoey office is how to stabilize the basin of water between colleagues and superiors.

Some things tend to please the boss, but they are excluded from colleagues.

Please your colleagues, and your boss is unhappy.

When I first entered the company, I was younger and more energetic. I didn't know how to communicate with the boss.

Inadvertently, I told my boss all the complaints about overtime pay, office computer speed, coffee flavors such as cough syrup, and so on. The boss was not very happy, so at a regular meeting, the boss talked about this problem, and he also hints at people who often complain, hoping that they can put more thoughts into their work.

They know I almost reported to my boss.

The result was directed at me.

It is internally complaining and self venting.

Unexpectedly, I was rushed into the boss's ears by my quick mouth and stepped on the safety line of colleague relationship.

How to locate "safe distance"?

Lisaliu is the safest distance and is not easy to cause misunderstandings and jealousy from other colleagues.

In fact, just like love, you can get twice the result with half the effort.

Arielling is limited to working hours. After work, there is no boundary.

Helenchow007 can be less exposed to the best. If you really want to face it and be very calm, but you must keep your distance, you must not take the leader's free play (especially the decision on the table) as an important indication.

Remember, leaders are always leaders, and they will not be your bosom friends, even if he or she sometimes puts their heart on them.

Onlypeng is very close to public affairs, tracking and reporting without losing the ability to operate independently.

George1976, depending on the attitude of other colleagues, generally maintains a moderate degree of intimacy, can not be the closest leader or the most distant leader.

Yuyujust, people and people get along with each other very much.

I was very much in touch with the leadership of the former company. Sometimes I would go out to play together as friends.

But you still have to learn how to adjust. If you are still like friends at work, not only your colleagues are annoying, but even the leaders will feel that you are not carrying them.

In fact, as long as leaders are not very incompatible, there is no difference between the safety distance and the job.

Kanemay is also a teacher and friend.

Py100518: our young people and leaders should not be too close to each other. Even if they were brothers and sisters who had been brothers before, once they became leaders, the relationship would gradually change.

Work and personal relations are easily confused.

Arile729 should still take the age and gender of the leader as the benchmark.

The age is similar, the topic will be relatively more.

You can find some topics appropriately, and the distance may not be so far away; otherwise, you should pay more attention.

The reason why sunlouie leader has become a leader is that he (she) will never mix with employees, even if they may be brothers on the surface, otherwise they will not be able to give orders with authority.

Personally, I feel that there is no need to narrow this distance too far, and to fulfill the task of leadership deliveries in good faith.

Celinda_dove. Appropriate communication with leaders, whether in work or in life.

But it should not be too flattering. In short, it should be a "seemingly no" relationship.