39% Of White-Collar Workers Had Office Romance.

Office romance?

If you hear these words, maybe you will turn your back on your lips and be disapproving.

After all, this society advocates privacy and freedom, while office romance is both a matter of privacy and freedom.

But have you ever experienced office romance?

When office romance really falls on your head, will you disagree?

Recently, the Chinese elite network has conducted a survey of "do you have office romance"? 3901 people participated in the survey.

The proportion of men who participated in the survey was 48.5%, and the proportion of women was 51.15%.

This shows that there is little difference between male and female in office romance, and women are slightly more interested in this topic than men.

Leadership involvement

For everyone's concern, "if a company employee has an office romance with his boss or company boss, do you think the boss or boss will treat his subordinates fairly?"

There are four options to choose from: 1. meetings will always be fair; 2., no, the clerk will soon be promoted; 3. can only be said to be fair to a certain extent, because there will be bias before; 4. will vary from person to person, some will do, some will not.

The selection ratios of these options are 5%, 18.1%, 41.6% and 35.3% respectively.

Even if the client does not intend to make a date with the boss, how many people will be able to lend themselves the right to support themselves.

It is no wonder that most people believe that supervisors will take care of their subordinates in their work because of the existence of romantic relationships.

However, after all, office romance is not a matter that can be proud of the parties and loudly spread to the whole world. Therefore, even if the boss is involved in it, it will be too bold to take care of his subordinates if he is involved in it. If he fails, he will lose his wife and will not be able to keep it.

In addition to considering this level, the company's strict rules and regulations also make people who have little power in the company dare not to take the initiative.

For a simple example, if you are a middle manager, your hands in the company can't escape the eyes of your subordinates.

And peach news has always been a pastime after entertainment. Therefore, once such a situation occurs, it will not only reduce the image of its subordinates in mind, but also make it difficult to deal with public affairs in the future.

In case of any mistake, the loss will also make the boss think you are not working hard and bring yourself a commercial loss.

At this point, how many bosses can tolerate you staying in this company again?

In other words, if the boss is involved in the peach affair, he will not talk about it to his employees. Even if he had been aggressive all the time, he would have been deliberately trying to make other people difficult.

In addition to causing all the staff's resentment, can we expect employees to work as hard as before?

In fact, in foreign countries, as long as executives in the above level enter the company, the company will sign an agreement that will never involve itself in office romance, so long as it violates, the company will be mercilessly underground.

Although many enterprises in China do not expressly stipulate, as long as the office romance is widely advertised, one of them is only willing to leave.

So, since most people believe that office romances are purely private, then it is wise to let this weathered flower blossom quietly in private areas.

How to keep fresh love

Love always makes people feel sweet.

But after sweet, there are many things that need to be true.

At work, you can appreciate each other and establish emotions in your work. It's hard to ensure that after that, work will not invade your life any more than 8 hours of work.

It's not sensational to talk about work while you eat, to talk about work before sleep, or even to think of work when you see the other person.

At this point, the original sweetness is likely to be unbearable because of work.

At this point, timely adjustment of the crisis is particularly important.

More communication, more coordination, when to talk about work and when to do personal matters must be clearly identified.

As the saying goes, marriage also has a seven year itch. Then, in such a room where offices do not look down and see relatively narrow space, their behaviors, attitudes and means of interpersonal communication are clear and clear.

I have been working for 8 hours at work. Will there be any fresh feeling after work?

Therefore, how to keep fresh love is a problem that people who fall into office romance need to think big about.

Because it is a love generated in a specific space, involving colleagues and bosses in the company, so it faces the greatest challenges.

Colleagues' gossip and opposition from their bosses are two of them. They must think of how to deal with them.

How to deal with an enterprise

When employees are in love in the office, is the enterprise indifferent or is it a scourge?

Ms. Wang, senior human resource manager, believes that companies should give support if they are not married or married.

According to her years of consulting experience, when a company has an office romance, the supervisor can check whether his love has a bad effect on his employees' work by listening to his words and observing his behavior.

1. do people who fall in love form their own small circle and exclude others, thus affecting the interpersonal interaction of the whole group?

2. do people who are in love have too much intimacy in the office, thus affecting the overall working atmosphere?

3. when the two people who fall in love are involved in supervisors and subordinates, are there any injustices in performance appraisal, promotion and work arrangement?

4. are there any regressive phenomena in the work efficiency and achievements of two people who fall in love with each other?

5. are two people who are in love with each other suspected of divulging corporate secrets or giving each other their interests?

In the event of the above situation, Ms. Wang believes that it is necessary for the company to find the parties to solve the problem through talking. If it is easy to dismiss employees, it is premature to do so.

Another marketing manager, who once had a personal experience, said, "the office is a very serious place. Emotional matters are private and should not be mixed up with them."

He has experienced this kind of "down to earth situation", but both sides are very careful not to let emotional matters affect their work.

Because of this, many colleagues had made every effort to "confession", but he did not admit it.

"A successful company should focus on the professional competence of its employees, rather than catch the shadows."

He stressed.

Of course, he also believes that if a company prohibits office romance, it is a good idea to pfer one of them to another department.

Ms. Wang often inquired about the emotional and psychological problems of some employees in her work. She found that many young employees lack enthusiasm in their work, but they are also accompanied by impulses. Many times, when dealing with bad interpersonal relationships, they will be vented by various means. A large number of young people have been involved in office romances under such circumstances.

She believes that in such circumstances, enterprises should actively intervene, through internal chat or external advisory services, help employees untie their hearts and get out of emotional distress.

Modern people are more tolerant of office romance.

When investigating "what attitude do you have toward office romances", 61.4% of the respondents said that this is personal freedom and needs no attention.

Only 13.3% of the respondents expressed their opposition.

This phenomenon is very interesting.

Just more than 10 years ago, office romances were often subjected to numerous bland and slanders, but nowadays most people have been "weird and self defeating" about office romances.

From this, the openness and development of society make people's acceptance and tolerance of emotion change slowly.

After all, emotional matters are purely personal feelings, just like "honest officials can hardly break household chores", and feelings are blocked.

In further investigation of the reasons for endorsing office romances, 2128 people, 60.6% of whom belong to private affairs and no one has the right to interfere, and the reason why they choose to object to office romance is that "the working conditions of both sides of the relationship are affected, which is bound to bring the whole department down" and "both partners or one of them will take advantage of the opportunity to work for each other. Unfair" accounts for 48.1% and 37.8%. These figures indicate that although everyone is willing to "do not listen to the window outside the window and do nothing but work at the same time," it is still strongly opposed to the fact that if the love affair affects the work and brings unfavorable factors to the work of the whole department or other personnel.

When asked, "if you are involved in office romance, how will you deal with this sensitive problem", we are surprised by your calm attitude.

Choosing to "turn love into the underground, pay close attention to the secret" and "let it develop", even if the company colleagues know it doesn't matter, there are 1496 people and 1493 people. The sum of the two accounts for 80.5%, while the choice of "leaving the company" accounts for only 17.6%, and the choice of "the other party leaves the company" is less, only 2%.

These figures are worth pondering.

It is well known that work is hard to find now, so most people will not easily abandon their jobs and leave the company.

Paying attention to secrecy is the first choice.

But there is always a day of paper fire, especially the sensitive topic of office romance, which is a topic that everyone likes to talk about after dinner. For a long time, it will reveal the secret.

At this time, the participants' "magnanimous attitude of letting people know and why" is really a must.

The everlasting topic

The participants were all white collar workers, 46.3% of them were college degree, 43.3% were undergraduates, and 10.4% were masters or above.

Interestingly, in addition to 14.4% of the people who took part in the survey, the participation rate of 1-3 years of work was 30.6%, the participation rate of 3-5 years was 30.6%, the participation rate of 5-10 years was 18.9%, and the participation rate of working time 10 years or more was 14.5%.

This also shows that office romance is an everlasting topic. Although the number of people concerned is becoming less and less with the extension of working hours, however, whether it is a young person who has just entered the workplace at the age of 25 or six, or has worked for more than 10 years, he has been paying more attention to this topic.