5 Criteria For Bosses To Be Intimate Friends

Have you ever thought that in the company, the loneliest is actually the boss.

In big organizations, the higher you go up, the less you can speak.

When we climb to the top, everything we hear is all flavored and added material.

But it's our nature to need friends.

No one can talk to anyone for a long time and stick to his work.

Therefore, "boss" no matter big or small, it is necessary to find one or two "close friends" whom they believe in, not only intimately, but more importantly, he can freely express his thoughts and even fear.

Magic mirror friend

Feature Description: they are the "magic mirror" of the boss's self-esteem, always telling the boss, "you've done a good job."

There is another set.

For a long time, he is like a mirror of the boss and the real world.

Subordinates either stand on the side of the magic mirror, or they have another leader to defend the "real world".

Disagreeable "double faced"

Emily Administrative Assistant

Our company, from the boss to the subordinate 10 people, are basically women.

The Jane of the sales department, who was not married at the age of 40, was a veteran member of the company. There were some business channels that he talked with the boss.

The boss doesn't always work in the company, and big things are handled by her. This also provides her with many conveniences.

For example, to give her attendance, she always asks the receptionist to give her full attendance, and if other colleagues are late, she will not be soft.

When a colleague makes a personal phone call, she can be trained to talk with her. She can speak with people on the phone. She has a few words of defense. "What do you know? I call it a liaison with customers!"

In her office, she is always dead, working and working.

If the boss is there, she will probably run to "secret chat".

Strange to say, for some time, the environment is not good, the boss does not matter, but every time she talks with her, she seems to be in a good mood.

During the meeting, she was more active in giving speeches, giving out all kinds of "good news" and encouraging people's hearts.

In the past, she was also accused of "spear gun", but she was quickly reported to the boss and dismissed on the grounds of "not suitable for this position".

Don't mess with her unless you don't want to.

Talking about the emotional life with the boss

Miss Kim Marketing Commissioner

In the eyes of my colleagues, I often have lunch with the Department boss. I am probably also classified as a "close friend".

No way, it's so strange between people.

As soon as you enter the company, you will probably see this person for the first time, and you will probably know if she likes you.

My boss and I were very close to each other, and then I made two bad friends and became friends.

There is still much to gain from making friends with my boss. I mean, of course, it is not the promotion training inside the company. The key is that she is a senior and can give me a lot of career planning advice, and I can ask her if I do not understand the problem.

Sometimes there are personnel changes inside the company, and the delicate relationship between them is also analyzed by me.

Of course, some things are more sensitive, and she can only focus on them.

But who can still see the trick in such a way?

What did she talk to me about?

Her career development plan, her views on people and things in the company, and even her emotional life.

Especially when it comes to work, they tell other friends that they do not understand, and that it is impossible for other managers to tell them to prevent them from being caught.

Only my subordinates can listen carefully and never show any hint.

Sometimes, when she is not sure about a subordinate, she will come to my advice. We are all working underneath. It is not easy to hide from her.

I also spoke honestly and directly about my impression of this person, attached to the facts.

Tree hole type intimate friend

Feature Description: because of the like-minded relationship with the boss, it becomes a good personal relationship.

So that the boss can not tell the outsiders anything, and all to talk to them, as Tony Leung said the secret "tree hole".

In the company, such "tree holes" are often regarded as well-informed people and are considered to have considerable influence on the boss.

"Tree holes" are usually low-key, so there are not too many.

The boss must first find the "voice box".

Mr. Zhu Software Engineer

Former director of the company has heard that he has recently been promoted to GroupManager. in charge of two major departments.

To be honest, although he was in the IT business, he was halfway through the house and was able to pick up two children from his family.

But there is no way. The boss trusts him.

On the one hand, it is also because of the "follow up" for many years, and the boss has been through the wind and rain, so that layer of trust is no one can take away, the whole company, at a critical moment, he alone dare to play the boss's home phone at midnight.

On the other hand, it is because he is too conscious of his boss's intentions.

In many cases, the boss may not speak clearly when he talks to you. He simply asks, "what do you think of your recent job?"

It is very easy for a "Duan" to be low.

Only he, listening to one word, the brain immediately run at high speed, judging the boss is not satisfied with the status quo, feel that there is room for improvement, or simply feel that the general direction of problems, the need for a comprehensive adjustment - this Kung Fu can rely on diligence, rely on experience to learn it.

For a long time, the boss naturally feels that the man is "clear" and "quick to respond" and has a common language with him, so he should rely more heavily.

As a result, our company is not big, but it is almost impossible to face up to the boss. His ideas are all at ease and conveyed by the supervisor. What do we have in mind, and we all know the boss's "voice box".

As a matter of fact, this is the middle part, right.

But his problem is too slippery.

No matter what to do, no matter what to do.

We have some ideas and opinions, even if they are good for the company, they will be crushed down to him.

The boss's decision, even if there are any obvious problems, he will pretend to be ignorant and dumb. He will not know any big mistakes in principle. He will naturally react to himself when his boss meets a small wall. He will discuss with him again, and he can "react quickly" to help his boss to mend.

Working in such a company, many people find it boring, so they quit their jobs one after another.

Only he was more loyal and loyal.

Buffering friend

Feature Description: they usually understand the boss's mind very much, like the buffer between the boss and his subordinates.

A lot of information needs to be filtered by them to pmit to the bottom, and some of them are filtered out.

For example, if the boss starts a storm, he will come out and say, "in fact, he should mean..."

The information of his subordinates must also be passed on to his boss.

When the boss gets used to this "spokesperson", he may gradually alienate himself from the real situation at the grassroots level.

Is it a close friend or a bad friend?

Every boss has a "close friend", but how to judge whether the "close friend" is a good friend or a bad friend?

The following are 5 criteria for measuring "bad friends".

1. everyone complained that he could not contact the boss and could not communicate with him directly.

2. the boss seemed to feel that no one knew him except his close friends.

3. the boss's close friend advised him not to ask anyone else for advice.

4. the bosses' confidant began to take orders from the chicken feather and give orders to him.

5. the boss's close friend put him up to heaven.