Those Words That Must Never Be Said In The Workplace

　　 sympathy You can't coexist with your work. In my dictionary, sympathy means "a feeling of regret or sadness for other people's misfortunes; it means compassion or compassion." This may be an asset for nurses, but for Office colleagues In fact, it is a kind of debt.

As long as you get up and work in the morning, you are claiming that you are working hard, and that any way to destroy this state is useless. Work is a competitive field. Sympathy for all kinds of "you poor" situation will keep you in. Disadvantage 。

To say that compassion is not good is not to deny that managers must have a traditional view of emotional cultivation. In fact, emotional self-cultivation means thinking before you say anything sympathetic.

In order to let you know what I am against, I list the seven most fatal and most effective counterpart "love words". In every case, the more the voice of sympathizers reveals, the stronger the lethality.

1. "you look tired." People always say this to me, and I hate it very much. I think it means that I look old and haggard and ugly.

2. "you look stressed or annoyed." This sentence is even worse because it not only implies that you look old and ugly, but also the work is not efficient.

3. "you look so much better!" implying that yesterday you looked like something caught by a cat, but at that time they did not speak straight out of politeness.

4. "I feel sorry for you at the meeting." Even if this sentence is very well meaning, it is unforgivable. It shows that your performance is so bad that it makes your colleagues feel sorry for you.

5., "is everything OK at home?" this may lead to the rebuttal of the other side: mind your own business. {page_break}

6. "do not care too much about it." When people say this, you admit that you have messed up something, so the last thing you need is that they hint: Yes, you have made a big mistake, and nothing can be done to remedy it.

7. "are you okay?" this is the most fatal problem of all. When things didn't go very well, I was very afraid of being asked this question. Someone once asked me if I was all right on a very bad day, and what was terrible was that I cried at once.

Indeed, compassion may shed tears, which is the greatest reason to avoid expressing sympathy in the office. Crying at the office is completely a disgrace, and it's even more sad than what you really cry about. This is my experience.

One day, when I met a colleague in the bathroom, I remembered this problem. At that time, her eyes were swollen and swollen, and she was powerless to splash her face with her hands to avoid dropping the mascara.

If she were a friend of mine, I would give her a hug and ask her what had happened. Instead, I quickly washed my hands and said hello to her happily, and then slipped away. I think she will think that I do this very unreasonably, and let me witness her grief, and it will not make her feel better.

I have a friend who became a general manager a few years ago. She once told me that what surprised her most in her new job was that she added paper towels at a very fast rate. The staff would go into her office and they would cry before she could speak. I don't think she realized it was her fault. Her natural sympathy will not bring any benefits to her subordinates. On the contrary, if she behaves more brighter, it will help employees to maintain their dignity.

In work, true sensitivity can be found in people with strong will. A colleague who worked in a commercial bank once lost her chance to get promoted. When a famous manager told her the bad news, she found her eyes full of tears. He looked at her anxiously and asked, "are you going to cry?" when she heard this, she immediately recovered herself.

Rejection of sympathy does not mean refusing to think for others. In the workplace, genuinely thinking about others means putting your sympathy in your heart. Standing on others' standpoint is realizing that others may not need your sympathy: they may prefer that you can maintain a safe emotional distance with them at any time.

Finally, I should tell you the last thing about the red spots on my body. According to the nurse's advice, I went to see the doctor. He said he did not know what these red spots were, but he said they would disappear and gave me some ointments. I asked him if it was related to stress. He replied, No. Two minutes later, I left the clinic lightly. I do have some red spots, but they will soon disappear. Life will be beautiful again.