Four Golden Principles Of Interpersonal Communication

Sociologists point out that in many families, the main reason for the quarrel between husband and wife is that no one knows who he is.

No idol, no appreciation of others, less cooperation, more calculations, and no one is happy.

The famous "prisoner's dilemma" inference in game theory tells us that in most cases, cooperation between both sides is better than both betrayal. The key to doing well is not to conquer each other but to lie in it.

Tell others who you are.

Between people, ambiguity is conducive to aesthetics, while clarity is conducive to cooperation.

Objectively speaking, there are some reasons for the interaction between people, and the purpose of these reasons is cooperation. Business dealings are a kind of cooperation. Getting rid of loneliness is also a kind of cooperation. Even if revenge is to be achieved under your cooperation,

The foundation of cooperation is resources.

If you don't have the resources you need, such as resources, power, beauty, talent, personality, kindness, etc., do not expect the other side to treat you positively and persistently. In fact, we are also like this. What you care about will attract you.

The principle of being a man, the so-called "ugly talk" is to make everyone know your principles. What you can't accept, what you can't lose, the more clearly your principles are expressed, the more people will know how to treat you. Just like leaders must be awed by all people, showing the strong side of personality is not a bad thing. Facts prove that this helps to lead to long-term cooperation and is also more equitable. Just like before the mobilization game, we must let him know the rules of the game. In this sense, fire is safer than water, because people know that the fire is so fierce that they are more cautious, and water is very difficult to make people feel awesome, which makes it easier for people to make mistakes in water. In order to cooperate well with others, and at the same time, we also give ourselves more opportunities, we must express our resources clearly and clearly.

Learn to appreciate

Anthony, a successful scientist, points out that the first step to success is to save a grateful heart, always be grateful for your status quo, and show respect and gratitude for what others have done for you.

If you accept someone else's favor, whether it's a gift, advice or help, and you are smart enough, you should take the time to express your thanks to the other person.

"One of the leaders' responsibilities is to thank you.

"Those elected leaders always have to give some time to acknowledge the people or organizations that have supported and helped them. Otherwise, he will not be able to get further or even more support.

Countless facts have proved that timely return of kindness to others and no envy of others will not only win necessary and powerful support, but also avoid unnecessary trouble.

Jealousy is not only difficult to make oneself look good and wise, but also affect the mood and external image, and more importantly, it will lose allies and potential opportunities, and even build a strong enemy. Because, generally speaking, people who are jealous of others should not be weak, and he will not be too polite to you in the spirit of "one return to one".

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How you treat others, how others will treat you.

A passer-by asked the way at the gas station and asked how the people in front of the town were. How did the gas station staff oppose his former town? The passerby replied, "awful."

The staff then said, "the same is true of our town.

"Then second people came here and asked the same questions. When the driver answered that they were friendly, the clerk said," the people in our town are exactly the same.

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Interpersonal relationship is a kind relationship.

Man is an animal of three senses and seven emotions.

A man dies for a friend, and a practitioner can do his best to recognize a boss who has value.

"Giving will be given, deprived will be denied, trust will be trusted, doubt will be suspected."

Love will be loved, hate will be hated.

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You are friendly to me, and I am friendly to you. If you are not friendly to me, I can not treat you kindly. This is the law of reciprocity in psychology.

If you have information useful to others instead of communicating with others, you will find some interesting things that others have useful information for you.

Helping others is also helping yourself.

Emerson said that one of the most beautiful compensations of life is that after helping others sincerely, people also help themselves.

Extend your hand to help others, instead of stretching your feet to trip them.

A person who is good at others and who works hard may get some blood, but victory will eventually belong to him.

A slave is like a child.

In China, there is an old saying called "an idiomatic son is like killing a son".

This sentence is used for interpersonal relationship and international relations.

In the traditional Chinese ethics education, we should be tolerant and not familiar with villains.

But the problem is that if you are a gentleman, he may not be a gentleman. If you are tolerant, he may not be tolerant. If you do not see him, you may not find your bad luck.

One cannot be too wishful thinking. Wishful thinking is a subjective practice, a humility in modesty.

Indulge in provocative and offenders are often the result of small gains, and gentlemen suffer.

Just like in a room, you are panting, but someone is sitting next to you without any thoughtful smoke. If you don't tell him how you feel, you have to go away; if you can't walk away, you have to put up with it, and the smoked man will never appreciate your "tolerance".

You are helping him develop habits and character that disregard others' feelings.

You hurt yourself and hurt him, because sooner or later, one person will pay for the defects of his character.

Tolerance is the result, not the premise.

To tolerate the enemy is to kill and be cruel to them. Compassion may be helpful to some people, but it may be harmful to some people.

Compassion must vary from person to person, and we must not treat everyone equally mercifully.

One hundred people have one hundred looks, so they must be treated with one hundred different degrees of mercy.

We advocate cooperation, but we are not afraid of conflict, and often we have further improvement in conflict. In the age of change, conflict is inevitable and we must learn to mature and grow in conflict.

No matter what the contradiction is.

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Everything focuses on the future.

Just as a girl needs to be sincere (honest means to spend time and patience) to pursue, the relationship between people needs some endurance.

In this sense, tolerance is patience, giving second opportunities.

Even if there has been a betrayal and offense, but as long as it is not death, it is necessary to focus on the future mentality to give each other a chance to correct (but only give one chance), thus helping to recooperate.

In fact, this kind of opportunity is often given to oneself, just like oneself will be absurd, will shortsighted, do not intend to offend others, others can also be forgiven, but the same mistake can only be committed once, it can be unwittingly once, but it can not be unintentionally two times. If it is not for the side mentally retarded, at least he does not care what you say, and does not care about what you said, in fact, it does not care about you.

The spiritual path and the fate of mankind must pass through all people.

All people do not have the chance to survive.

"Tolerance has a kind of shallow shift of the power of silence, which makes people unconsciously absorb each other's nutrition and become strong together.

"The weak are cruel, but the strong are gentle.

It is an art of thinking to be considerate to change others and to get along with others who do not agree with each other.

Only the strong will tolerate, the foundation of tolerance is strong, self-confidence is not easy to hurt.

Learn to be wrong with people. Before you give them second chances, you must warn yourself that they are wrong, not people.

"So you can give him a full chance.

Never conflict with others, never hurt people, never say anything, and leave room for both sides.

Playing chess is a good aftertaste, so do you. Don't forget, you leave others room for yourself.

The future is more important than the present, and it is also conducive to promoting cooperation. The old saying goes: no hope, no effort, no dreams, no people's livelihood.

Most successful leaders are good at attracting followers with brilliant prospects. They instilled a belief in their followers, believing them to believe in their own opinions, personality and ideas about the future.

In the same way, in order to make people willing to cooperate with you, you also need to encourage each other with the prospect of cooperation and swim together to the brightest.

"The future is the expectation of the present".

Now tell your lover, your family, your friends, tell them who you are, tell them what you want, tell them that you need their help, tell them that your dreams will also light up their night sky, and then hope together, wait together, climb mountains together, and watch the sunrise.