Workplace: Pay Attention To Objects And Give People Good Feelings.

　　 (1) not to be intimate with the villain.

In reality, "good for people" is important. However, we should not ignore the "evil" aspect of human nature, especially in this aspect. In many cases, if we treat the villain as good as we can, we tend to "cut the heart and liver to the little ones and eat them."

First of all, we must start with "bad" and then go to the "good" level. The so-called "bad" is not unreasonable, but to give him a mental pressure, let him know that you are not "good gentleman", then for convenience will not have "anyway he will not be kind to me" luck. After a period of time, he will be "nice" to him, so that the other side will be thankful for your "sigh of relief" and will not think you are a "bad person". Then we can interact with "good" and "bad". It can be said that it is better to be strict and lenient, and then to be lenient and strict. If you are lenient and strict, it will definitely cause the opposite party's feelings of resentment, blame you and hate you. It's like giving candy to children, giving it much less first, and he will be very happy and say hello. If you give more first, give less, he will be angry and crying. So do adults.

Secondly, you can make the other party pay for the "good" of you, and never let him have the feeling of "easy to get", otherwise he will not cherish your "good" to him.

　　 (2) send Favor Be flexible.

　　 leader In actual work, whether or not to give gifts at the same level is not the most important. The important thing is how to give gifts, who to send and what to send.

"How to give gifts" is difficult to handle in human etiquette. Giving gifts to the same class is the most effective material bridge for building relationships and promoting relationships eight hours away. Therefore, such as the same class to help you, the same family has wedding wedding, the same grade illness and other private gifts, as a necessary emotional contact, it is impossible. However, it is necessary to pay attention to the importance of light and weight. Generally, it is not appropriate to buy gifts that are too heavy, so as not to let the other person feel that you have ulterior motives. In addition, the time to give gifts should be appropriate, and the gift of no reason is not much better.

If there is Same level To give gifts to yourself, you should also pay attention to yourself. Sometimes it is necessary to refuse gifts from the same class. If we accept some gifts that may affect the overall situation of the work and make some party benefit, it will be a crime of bribery. This is absolutely undesirable. Therefore, it is estimated that people who send gifts have ulterior motives and should generally refuse to accept them. It is hard to shirk and to send back valuable gifts as soon as possible.

　　 (3) human feelings must be delivered to the end.

"Send the human feelings to the end and send the Buddha to the West." In fact, people often help others, but they do not increase their personal income. This is because the human relationship is not thorough enough to offset the human feelings in front of them.

In ancient times, there was such a story: someone in Luoyang was upset by the grudges with others, and repeatedly asked the famous people in the district to come out to mediate. Later, he found a hero at that time and asked him to resolve this grievances. Guo Jie accepted the request and personally visited his client's opponent, and did a lot of persuasion, which made it easy for the man to agree to reconciliation.

To such a degree, clever Guo did not finish the calculation. He also had a superior game. After everything was clear, he said to the man, "I heard that many famous people in the past had mediating, but they could not reach an agreement because they could not get mutual recognition from both sides. This time I was very lucky. You also gave me a lot of face. I finished it. While I thank you, I am also worried about myself. After all, I am a foreigner. When the locals fail to solve the problem, I will be reconciled by my outsider to make the local famous people feel dishonored. Guo said, "is this going to work? Can you help me again? It's apparent that people can't think I can solve the problem. When I leave here tomorrow, some of the local gentlemen and chivalrous gentlemen will come to you. You can give them face to face and count them as such a beauty.

So, in real life, if someone first comes to thank you for your help, because you are most helpful to him. At this time, you must never forget the same class with you. You should tell the man to thank your peers. In fact, how much help you have made and how much effort you have made, others will know it naturally. You will never forget your advantages because you have said so. But when you say this, not only the obedient people will admire your "high spirits and good manners", but also know that the same level of your remarks will also give you a great deal of attention. If you do not do so, you will receive it willingly when others thank you. It will be much worse. And if you do something in order to get rid of it, it will cause others to feel bad about it in front of others. If you know the same class again, you despise and despise you.