Bai Xiaoguang: Standing At The Other Side'S Angle To Communicate

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There are certain principles in life, such as how many kilometers a car needs to be maintained, how much time the motor must run, and the principle of trading is not allowed.

If the leader of a unit or department deals with principles, gives people the rules and deceit with good words, such communication can only bring disaster to enterprises.

A manager, if he can not find the right way of communication, can not go deep into every employee's mind and task, and can not establish an omnibearing responsibility system, so that the creativity of employees can not be effectively realized.

Communication is not Hello, I am good, everyone is good, nor is it a mutual flattery between a fair weather friend.

Being a friend for a long time, being a good friend is not a happy word at a time, but a common understanding of some people's consensus. They share the common understanding of the world and understand their own.

Process, and can enhance happiness for a long time.

That is to say, through communication, we pass on our knowledge to others, pmit our energy to friends, convey our hopes and desires to each other and let the other know that he is good at communicating with himself.

The result of communication can sometimes bring happiness, sometimes it can cause annoyance, disgust and even hatred.

A company once had such people. They were fond of gossip and spread around what Zhang San said. What did Lee four say? What did Wang say again? The result was that the interpersonal relationship was tense. When some employees were whispering, they could feel the happiness of "trench" with others. Unfortunately, it was only temporary. When they talked about the third, the third party knew it, and the happiness became painful, and the good friendship had become the same at the same time. When the third people talked about it,

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Any irresponsible whisper, that is, "ineffective communication", is burying its own future.

The most abundant spirit in the world is in the face of great calamities. It can also dominate its own destiny and play the most vigorous movement. In the face of the most impoverished spirit, in the sunny way, it will also put its fate into the "ineffective communication" in the light of temporary security.

In life, there are such managers, in order to control the so-called situation, deliberately through the so-called communication, stir up contradictions between subordinates, then let everyone report to you, say how someone is, and then he looks for someone to implement, someone says another person how, his purpose is to achieve, but the heart is also dispersed, and nothing to create wealth.

This communication is immoral communication, irrational communication, and finally can only let oneself fall into a passive state.

There is a manager who is too frugal at ordinary times. His superiors advise him: try to avoid employees when buying cheap meals later.

It was originally a well intentioned proposal, but he understood that the senior leader wanted me to stay away from the staff. I stayed with the staff without prestige. This is an example of the misunderstanding of communication.

In fact, in life and work, some things can only be done, and some things can only be said not to be done.

For example, when the old man is seriously ill, communication is very important at this time. You can't honestly say, "what do you want to eat?"

As a result, he could have lived for five years and frightened him to death.

Everyone must understand the meaning of communication, some people can not, but do not reflect on their own, do not sum up their own, do not improve themselves, such a person, as a junior official, will be the correct management of the higher authorities as a "suppression", the same level of help as a "grab power", the lower level of the initiative to freeze as "no good intentions", and finally, all around the enemy.

Some people have been promoted, and in order to show their sincerity to the leaders, they always keep a finger on others, or collect some people's views on units and leaders, and then add reports to the branches and leaves. As a result, they do not unite.

Just imagine, in a hostile atmosphere, we can not expect anyone to play any positive role.

People who are guilty, weak and incompetent are often self righteous, self serving and omnipotent. As a result, he really can't do anything and nothing.

Once such a thing happened, a married woman in a unit did not work actively, sometimes he did not work. When the director of the Department found him, she thought that I was not married. What did he mean by me? He misunderstood the normal communication of others, and thought he was complacent, and complained to his superiors instead of reflecting on his absence from work. Instead, he stressed that she was not married, and that others were looking for her, that is, "no good intentions". After investigation, the superiors found out the truth, and the result was that the Department did not want her, so that she could find her own unit.

Communication advocates truth, specific words, can not be targeted, not blindly, targeted.

For example, a certain matter is what he thinks, is what he thinks, rather than deliberately telling lies to deal with others when circumstances change. If he has promised something, he must fulfill his promise when others ask for it, because commitment is gold, and it is a great deal.

If you do not want to do something, you should be clear about it and get others' understanding and understanding. This is the right way to communicate.