Job Hopping "Inappropriate" Or "Unsuitable"?

People who always jump jobs usually have a reason to be righteous: "this job is not for me."

The reasons include: "too boring, not interested", "no sense of existence and achievement", "ability is not good at" and so on.

However, we often neglect that behind the "inappropriate" is a large part of the problem of "inadaptability", and from "inadaptability" to "adaptation" is the evolutionary process that we must go through in the workplace.

Nothing is natural enough.

The word "fit" is very interesting. The first word is "fitness", which represents active adaptation. The second word is "harmony", representing the degree of matching.

Many people only see "harmony", but do not see that all "harmony" needs the "fit" process.

For example, what kind of job is a newborn infant? The answer is, I don't know.

Because the baby needs to develop his character, interest, ability, values and so on the day after tomorrow. He needs to find career opportunities, try and take risks, summarize and reflect.

When does this development stop? It varies from person to person.

The only thing I know is that it will not be stereotyped in the first three years of a career, and will last for more than 10 years.

For occupations, most of the situations are that we have to go to "fit" to achieve "harmony".

What makes us lose the attitude of development and hope for once and for all? It is pressure, fear of uncertainty, perfectionism, fear of failure and so on.

If you have enough resources and enough resources to be a star in the workplace now, please forget this article.

To "fit" or "adapt" depends fundamentally on the comparison of your power with the social environment and the occupational environment. Is it your strength or the strength of the environment?

If you are short of ability and resources at the beginning of your career, it is not the two generation and the two generation of the non famous universities. It is more important to take the initiative to adapt to the "feel" and "unsuitable" environment than to find the "most suitable" job.

To put it another way, even if there is a "more suitable" job in the future, enterprises will be willing to give to those who are more "adaptable" instead of shrinking and escaping from challenges.

If you are a newcomer in the workplace, you will feel uncomfortable in your job within 3 years. Congratulations, you are growing.

Taylor Ben Shahar, a teacher of Harvard happiness class, divides human growth into three zones. He takes exercise as an example. The amount of exercise in the comfort zone is too small to reach the training target. Stretching area can stretch his muscles and improve their performance. The injured area is overtraining, which can cause the body to be damaged and unable to recover.

He believes that the best growth is not in the comfort zone, nor in the damage zone, but in the stretch area, and in this area there must be a slight discomfort.

To illustrate this point, we further distinguish several nouns.

The so-called "discomfort" refers to the feeling of "uncomfortable", which is often caused by environmental changes, for example, from school to workplace, it is a great change of role and rule.

The so-called "maladjustment" refers to your lack of "coping" ability for "discomfort".

The so-called "adaptability" refers to your ability to respond to "uncomfortable" feelings caused by changing circumstances.

This "adaptive ability" is not just to bend to perfection, but to be flexible and elastic like water.

From this perspective, the more adaptable people are, the more suitable career options they can find.

But a lot of people have gone against it. They hope to find themselves a "suitable" job to adapt themselves to the "comfort zone" and reduce their adaptability.

A better strategy is to enhance their "adaptability" to expand their comfort zone, so that they have more "suitable" options, and then choose the "most suitable".

If you always hide in your comfort zone, you can't grow.

Just as some minor diseases can increase our immunity, people who have been living in sterile laboratories are the most dangerous ones.

From a larger perspective, organisms are evolving in the law of "natural selection and survival of the fittest".

Do you think Darwin's "fittest" is a "suitable" species or a "adaptable" species? I think the latter is more important than the former.

People who only say "fit" or "adapt" often ask for a career suited to him but never think of how they adapt themselves to their career.

They are often responsible.

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People who only say "fit" or "adapt" often do not see fit and match degree, rather than an absolute concept. You can only find the relative fit, but never reach the absolute fit.

People who only say "fit" or "adapt" are often "static" or "fixed thinking" people, but can not see their own characteristics and careers are constantly developing.

They think that as long as they find a perfect object, they can live happily ever after.

They pursue the "match each other", but often let themselves fall into the embarrassment of "high or low."

In their minds, there are always some assumptions.

There must be a profession that matches my characteristics absolutely.

My qualities (interests, abilities, values) will never change and my career will not change.

Finding this occupation means success and happiness, and there is no discomfort.

This career which brings me more success and happiness, I have the ability to enter it now.

Finding the cost of this profession is less than adapting to the present.

The cost.

After careful reflection on these five assumptions, you will find that they are not true.

Especially when your capabilities and resources are not enough, if you insist on finding the "best fit", you will find the following risks:

You find that every occupation you find does not match 100%, so you get entangled again.

Your ability is too weak, coupled with fierce competition, you want to enter the company and career do not want you for the time being.

Even if you enter, you find that there are still many places that you can't adapt to, and you will feel "unsuitable" again.

In order to find this job, you go around for several companies, without accumulating your career.

HR seeing you changing your job frequently, you feel unstable and dare not hire you.

If you can accept the above risks and costs and have your solution, look for the "most suitable" career.

After all, everyone has the right and responsibility to choose his own way.

Finally, there are several suggestions:

First, leave for the pursuit of happiness instead of escaping from pain.

Don't be present.

"Not suitable" to leave, but to find a "more suitable" work to leave, the premise is to "better" work to do a better understanding.

Second, draw up the goal of the stretch zone, not the goal of the anxiety zone.

Adaptation tends to be gradual rather than abrupt.

Many people quit because they are "not suitable" because they set goals too high for themselves and the environment can not be achieved.

For example, promotion in one year, earning millions in two years, etc.

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Third, seek support from mentors and partners.

Many times we are not too stressed, but we support too little. Many times we do not support too much, but we never seek support.

Fourth, use your way to adapt to the environment.

Anxiety is related to our lack of ability, and many of them are not aware of their potential strengths.

For example, if an introvert meets an extrovert leader, he will be evaluated as inactive, lack of communication and so on.

In fact, introverts are careful and have strong verbal communication skills. They need to prepare ahead of time before communicating.

So he can actively communicate with leaders through e-mail, so as to change the opinions of others.