Workplace "NO" Begins With "YES".

Almost all career survival guides tell us that learning to say "yes" is the foundation for a person to stand in his office. Especially for newcomers, obedience and compromise are more likely to enable you to integrate into a team in a short time than doubt and rejection, so as to win opportunities for further display of abilities in the future.

I believe everyone's career begins with "yes", and approval is the first step in the workplace. Because at the beginning, rejection is always considered to be profound and the consequences are often greater losses: loss of trust, no appreciation, no recognition. But everyone's career must have been moving forward in countless refuses, because only when they are not overwhelmed by trivial things can they concentrate on what they are good at and necessary.

To say "no" requires courage and bravery. It also means an active choice, which means you have the ability to see what is most conducive to your development and be qualified to decide what you should do. A good command of rejection will also make the people around you more respectful.

However, in real life, some refusal is always hard to say.

Two years ago, my cousin L resigned from the central enterprises and opened a company with several people to contract some projects.

In the first year, the company got good results, and the working hours were free and the income was much higher than before. But who knows that second years to catch up with the decline in the effectiveness of the industry as a whole, the risk resistance ability of small companies is limited. At the end of the year, we sat together to count the number, and each person divided into 50 thousand yuan to go home for the new year. This is the whole year's total income, which is equivalent to the income level of the small assistant hired by the company. The family has a fixed salary of 4000 yuan per month. Performance pressure 。

That day, L counted out the bill in front of me: the daily expenses of the family, the cost of the children's kindergarten, and the payment of various social insurance. 7788, the basic cost of the family was about 80 thousand yuan a year.

His family suggested that he should find another way out. Small companies can not carry out the perfect management, and the accounts of several projects are mixed up. In my opinion, the low income is not a big problem at the same time, but the key is that we all have homes and rooms, and do not dare to put time to risk here. Rather, it is more realistic to find a formal unit to be a project manager while we are young.

L told me that everyone's opinions were very reasonable, but as long as he spoke of resignation, he was in ten thousand difficulties.

The boss of the company knew him well. When he was most embarrassed at that time, the boss extended his hand to help him. So in L's view, it is ungrateful to leave the company at this time. What he prefers to see is that one day, the company announces disbanded, and everyone goes on a different journey. In such a way, he leaves much less psychological pressure.

But this gentleman can't go on doing it all the time. Sometimes, we are not satisfied with the status quo, or have an instinctive revulsion against someone else's request. Even if the disguise is better, dissatisfaction and resentment will be shown through subtle changes in the mood.

In this case, should we refuse decisively or go against it? Or in another way, from the perspective of career development, say "yes" and "no", how do we choose?

make an initial entry Workplace A young man is like a weak child, without accumulation, inexperience, and lack of connections. He summed up in a sentence that he did not live on his own strength. At this time, the most important thing is to get a sense of security from the environment so that your colleagues, superiors and partners will know you, know you and trust you. Therefore, you must give up some of the benefits to complete the process of integration, so that you can survive.

At this time, "no" directly threatens your living environment.

But children in the workplace always want to grow up. Self capability With the improvement of the sense of security, the accumulation of resources and the improvement of integration ability, all of you will gradually take off your initial cowardice and gradually develop your self-consciousness.

The veteran seniors in the workplace say "obedience to rejection is a natural process". I realized that the situation of L cousin may not have completely come out of the "child" state. His ego is not strong enough to get rid of psychological dependence on authority relationship.

But after all, the workplace is the pursuit of maximizing the interests of the place, rejection and rejection will inevitably happen. Therefore, we must learn to refuse.

Don't worry too much that your refusal will disappoint the other person, because no requirement is justified and must be done by you. What we need to remind is that we should not make excuses for ourselves when we refuse, because this is the workplace, and the workplace is a place of efficiency and certainty.

Orientals are fastidious about face and refusing to be embarrassed. In order to avoid embarrassment, we can make some suggestions after refusing. You can give some brief comments on the solution, you can give some encouragement, or you can provide as much help as you can in other areas. On the one hand, this proposal and attitude are conducive to solving the problem in a most comprehensive way, and on the other hand, it is also an effective way to appease the mood of the rejected.

In short, it is necessary to say "no" in the workplace. It is not necessary to compelled or fear, because everything happens naturally. One thing to keep in mind is that even if the attitude is no longer decisive, the tone should not be too rigid. After all, who knows if someday you will have something else to ask for?