"Old Enemy" Is Hard To Prevent: How To Win The Workplace

What do you do when you see a dead enemy in the past sitting in the reception room of your present employer and filling in the application materials? Shut up and pretend to be nothing, or do you say something bad about him to prevent him from getting the job? Many people in the workplace have such a "old enemy". They are your natural enemies and the doomed enemies. How should we deal with them?

A lot of people in the workplace will feel puzzled: they are clearly at ease every day.

No reason to be cling to one's own, nor have I had too much conflict with others, but unconsciously become a "nuisance" in the eyes of my colleagues. Why is this? Experts believe that many times, the reason why "enemies" are related to their character, for example, those who are more subjective, they look at things only blindly.

Less standing in an objective position to analyze things is easy to arouse the resentment of others.

Besides, personal words and deeds are also important.

"People who speak more directly do not like their colleagues, because they tend to speak unobstructed, regardless of occasions, opportunities, no strategy, blurt out, sometimes malicious, but secretly have actually made enemies.

If words and deeds are properly handled, they will become intimate friends easily, but if they lose their degree, they may become enemies.

He said, "people with bad habits, such as smoking, littering and so on, can easily make enemies if they do not take care of other people's feelings in the working environment."

In addition to these subjective factors, some objective factors are easy to attract.

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Qiu Juntao added that people in special departments and positions, such as HR, quality supervision, finance, auditing, monitoring, and law, are also more likely to offend people if they are mishandled.

Ali, a 35 year old lawyer, moved to the office near Zhujiang New Town early this year.

This is more expensive than the previous rent, but the company's reputation in the industry and the office are relatively new. Everything makes him feel satisfied.

"This is a good location, and soon came several new lawyers, but the most frustrating thing for me was to meet old Chen."

Lao Chen was a former partner of Ali, and he worked together for many days.

However, Lao Chen did not concentrate on his work and did not make a lot of trouble, which caused a lot of trouble for the team.

"Just last year, we helped a client in Dongguan Internet cafe to have a lawsuit.

However, he has some resources in Dongguan. Whenever he talks with the boss of the Internet bar, he will always talk to others and ask the boss if he can pick up some card service and make some investment in ready-made clothes.

As a result, the lawsuit was defeated, and the boss blamed all the causes of failure for being unprofessional. Lao Chen's so-called "cooperation" was no good at all. He also blamed all the blame on the firm.

Of course I was very angry, and then I broke up.

This time, I am very unhappy when I meet old Chen again.

Now they meet every day, and even have some business dealings, but they are upset when they think of past unpleasant experiences.

"I don't want to have any contact and communication with him anymore, but I'm afraid he is talking behind the scenes.

I also have no reason to move the office again for such a person, really helpless. "

He sighed.

The workplace is like a stage of life. When dealing with interpersonal relationships, you will become hostile to others if you are not careful. This hostile state will not only bring you great psychological pressure and mental burden, but also affect your work mood and even reduce your performance.

The more capable people are, the more likely they are to produce "old enemies". Even the sociable people of all sizes are no exception.

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It is not necessarily a bad thing to match the enemy with the enemy. The opponent is not only a mirror, but also can show his shortcomings and shortcomings. He can also be one of the sources of his driving force, warning and stimulating himself constantly. Therefore, it is very important to treat his opponent and enemy correctly.

Qiu Juntao said that there are various kinds of "enemies" in the workplace. Generally speaking, they include the following types:

Mainly from the past work background and other factors, resulting in different views on management mode and management direction, thus becoming "enemies".

They often have negative things such as opposing and disagreeing to work, resulting in more internal communication consumption.

It is mainly due to factors such as ways of doing things, speaking speed, Personality Orientation and other factors, resulting in different cognition of working methods and teamwork and thus becoming "enemies".

They are prone to appear wrong in their work, because they do not like a person, so work is difficult to cooperate with each other.

It is mainly due to factors such as eating habits, entertainment, consumption and other personal interests and other factors that cause everyone to work in a strange way or even become hostile. If they can separate work from life, they will not cause too much impact.

In some enterprises, there may exist different small teams, because there are certain interests antagonism or contradiction between different teams, which will also cause antagonism among team members.

Because of different responsibilities, they become "enemies".

For example, HR fired relevant employees according to the requirements of the company; because of the irregularities of the process, the finance refused to reimburse the employees; there was a contradiction between the sales department and the marketing department.

This kind of person often takes the banner of work, makes difficulties, slander and retaliate for other employees, so as to achieve his personal purpose.

In Qiu Juntao's opinion, first of all, we need to find out what causes the hostile relationship between you and your enemies. If the environment is different, the enemy can also become friends.

Some of the "enemies" may become good partners in the new working environment, because you know that they are human beings and do not need to spend more time trying to figure out each other.

On the other hand, "harmony is precious" is important, but whether we should open our hearts and welcome our old rivals to work together depends on the company's current situation.

Qiu Juntao, for example, in a team that needs rapid development, we only need a kind of voice and culture, people with different management opinions will be the poison of our team; conversely, if our team is in a period of confusion and innovation, this original "enemy" with different opinions may become our breakthrough assistant.

It is worth noting that the following types of "enemies" are unacceptable: those who can not take care of the feelings of the people around them, who only care about their own convenience and have bad habits, speak more directly, do not pay attention to their propriety, and have too much privacy in their hands.

In addition, the "enemy" of the "public enemy" is resolutely not acceptable. Such a person is harmful to himself and to the team.

If you encounter more than one of your career enemies who are particularly hard to accept, Qiu Juntao suggests that we should take a responsible attitude towards ourselves and the company, find relevant departments or leaders, and explain the strengths and weaknesses of the enemy itself and our judgement and attitude towards this person in a practical way.

But it is best not to add to it and make up for it. If the company finds out that the situation is not true after investigation, you will not only affect the entry of the "enemy" in the workplace, instead, you will become passive.

"If they encounter certain" enemies ", they can be friends but not suitable for colleagues. They can directly and privately analyze the company's present situation and the difficulties they may encounter after they come, so that they can retreat from difficulties, which is also a help to their friends.

He said, "of course, if you meet some special enemies who are particularly good at the current company, they may be suitable for the new company to co-operate with themselves." then you can take the initiative to find this enemy and recommend the new company, and recommend it to the company so that you can not only resolve your past hostile status, but also win the company's respect for your high opinion and old enemy.