Teach You How To Cross Social Anxiety.

In today's fast-paced modern life, social interaction is increasing, and the success or failure of social interaction often affects people's study, employment, job advancement, career development, love and marriage, and reputation status.

This leads to anxiety, resulting in mental agitation and agitation.

And life.

In the years of psychological counseling, the author found that 50% of the respondents had different degrees of anxiety.

Negotiation anxiety: Mr. Huang, a young boss from Hongkong, once had good business performance. After he went to the mainland to develop his career, he also married Miss Qu, who has a master's degree in economics.

Because he felt that he knew little about mainland policies and customs, he did not speak well in Putonghua, so he was always afraid to rely on his wife as his agent in business negotiations.

Miss Qu, after all, is young.

Lack of confidence and lack of confidence in the business experience led to dissatisfaction with her husband and accompanied him to psychological counselling.

Colleague anxiety: Miss Lu, who graduated from English major, has a very strong business ability. Wherever she goes, she is appreciated by her superiors.

She worked in a joint-venture company in 6, but she changed 8 companies. Why did she job hopping? Actually, it was neither her business nor her boss.

There was only one reason. She puzzled to the psychiatrist and said, "I don't know how to get along with my colleagues. Why do I always have artificial rumors to smear me? Someone pushed me out, someone told me the black shape to the boss? I didn't do anything wrong, why not tolerate my existence, so I had to flee..."

Media anxiety: Ms. Joe, a member of the ministries and commissions, has received much attention from the government in recent years.

But because of her unspeakable grief, she became more and more repugnant to media interviews.

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After psychological tests, Ms. Qiao was found to have anxiety neurosis.

Dressing anxiety: young and middle-aged women are prone to anxiety related to makeup or clothing.

Ms. Jane said, "when you see someone else will dress up like you do, you feel as if you have lost the battle." Miss Zhong said, "in some solemn occasions, I feel that my dress color is not harmonious, and the style of the clothes is not fashionable enough. Suddenly I feel as if I have been stripped of my clothes."

In addition, there are worries such as relatives and friends, alumni anxiety, table anxiety and so on.

All kinds of anxieties are too numerous to mention. They are eroding people's spirit and body like germs, not only impeding a person's unimpeded access to human relationships, but also directly affecting people's physical and mental health.

In fact, analyzing the causes of anxiety is nothing more than inferiority complex. Self evaluation is too low to neglect its own advantages and uniqueness.

Let us further analysis of anxiety, we will find the following characteristics.

For example, if someone is eager to succeed, if he can not get the so-called success at once, he will lose himself in spirit and defeat himself mentally. This is one of the anxiety traps.

I think my performance is not good enough, and I lose face when others are "down", so I feel guilty, ashamed and ashamed. This is the two of the anxiety trap.

Lack of pluralistic ideas, and think that doing bad things is their own responsibility, and they are too stupid.

But I do not know that the solution to a problem requires many conditions. Sometimes it is "deliberately planting flowers and not flowers", instead of "willfully inserting willow willows". People often can not accept such a reality. They think that the imbalance between effort and reward is a social injustice. This is the three of the anxiety trap.

The absolute evaluation method often leads to always denying oneself, which is four of the anxiety trap.

In our traditional ideas, we always seduce people to pursue perfection, behave, eat, drink and wear.

In fact, it's a beautiful and beautiful trap.

In fact, mankind is the most advanced social animal on the earth. The crowd itself is extremely diverse and diversified. Just like elephants, small free, rhinoceros and giraffe can not compare with each other. Everyone has his own "self image". Everyone's personality, ability and social function are irreplaceable.

Therefore, to exclude the anxiety caused by psychological pressure from society, we must change our ideas and methods.

The following suggestions are to be overcome.

It is extremely effective:

1, do not "watch others live, live to others", ask yourself: what is my goal in life, who am I, am I making progress every day? Learn to know yourself correctly and accept yourself with pleasure.

2, in social interaction, let yourself be calm, sincere, confident and full of life, and fully display your personality charm, and you will succeed.

3, to exercise the affinity in interpersonal interaction, the world has entered the era of cooperation. One's personality charm is in wisdom and in the heart, and learning to "connect people with hundreds" is the requirement of social interaction in the new century.

We should abandon the outdated concept of "birds of a feather flock together" and "a thousand cups of wine, a thousand cups and a few words".

4, live actively and independently, freely and freely, and seek happiness for yourself.

The negative emotions such as anxiety and irritability are useless for solving any problems, and learn to be calm, optimistic, brave and confident, which is a good mental medicine to overcome anxiety.

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