The Art Of Getting Along With Colleagues

According to the data, colleague relationship has become one of the factors that confuse urban people. Most of the modern people do their best in their careers, and sometimes they spend more time with their colleagues every day than their families. How do people work hard in the workplace to have good relations with colleagues? How do you feel about getting along with your colleagues?

In fact, although the relationship between colleagues is difficult, it is not a fortress that can not be conquered. In the office, the following nine measures should be followed by nine taboos.

Nine:

First, take the overall situation as the priority and reduce the number of platforms. If you do not meet your colleagues' shortcomings on weekdays, when you are in contact with the outside units, you can easily criticize colleagues, pick holes, or even malicious attacks, which will affect your colleagues' external image, for a long time, and their own image. Because of the working relationship between colleagues, we must have a collective consciousness, focusing on the overall interests and forming a community of interests. Especially when contacting with the outside unit, we should form the concept of "team image". We should make more efforts to make up the platform and dismantle the platform. We should not harm our collective interests for our own small profits.

Two, treat differences, seek common ground while reserving differences. Due to differences in experience and position, colleagues often have different views on the same issue, causing some controversy. Therefore, when there is a disagreement with colleagues, one is not to argue too much. Objectively, people need a process to accept new ideas. They are often accompanied by "good face" and "good fight and win win" mentality. No one can convince anyone. If we argue too much at this time, we will easily intensify contradictions and influence unity. Two, we should not simply "harmony with others". Even when it comes to principles, they do not insist on or argue with each other, but drift with the tide and deliberately cover up contradictions. In the face of problems, especially when differences occur, we should try to find common ground and strive for common ground while preserving differences.

Three, treat utilitarian, keep normal. Many colleagues in the heart are usually friendly, but when they encounter conflicts of interest, they will be "good". Or speak ill of others behind their back or jealousy. In this way, it is not fair and aboveboard, but also bad for others. Therefore, we must always maintain a sense of normalcy towards promotion and utilitarianism.

Four, keep an appropriate distance from colleagues. In a unit, if a few people associate with each other too often, it is easy to form a small circle on the surface. It is easy for other colleagues to generate suspicion and let people have the idea of whether they are talking about others' right or wrong. Therefore, when communicating with superiors and colleagues, we should keep an appropriate distance and avoid forming a small circle.

Five, when conflicts arise, be tolerant and patient. There will often be some bumps between colleagues. If they are not handled properly in time, they will form a big contradiction. As the saying goes, friends should be unsettled. When you are in conflict with your colleagues, take the initiative and tolerate yourself, find the reasons for yourself, change positions for others, and avoid intensifying contradictions. If a contradiction has been formed, it is really wrong for you to put aside your face and learn to apologize. If one side takes the initiative to break the deadlock, there will be no big gap between them.

Six, the mouth is important and the belly is big. As the saying goes, disease comes from mouth and evil comes from mouth. Therefore, when you go to work, do as many things as you can and speak less. Doing so not only allows you to accumulate more work experience, but also allows busy work to rush to excess time, avoid boredom and gossip about others' right and wrong. Even after work, I never comment on my colleagues, but I am clear about what is right and wrong. Colleagues get along with each other for a long time. It's the wisest choice to be tolerant and tolerant. More introspection, give people happiness, give yourself convenience.

Seven, be kind to others. In interpersonal relationships, the principle of "force and reaction" is applied, that is, how you treat others, and how others treat you. If we treat our colleagues in a sincere and friendly manner in accordance with the principle of "being kind and caring", we will also give our colleagues a positive response. When a colleague of a unit drops his head, he will not see it. Who will choose a way to repay evil?

Eight, be strict with yourself and lenient towards others. The relationship between people is very complex, especially between colleagues, and it is more subtle to deal with the relationship. To be strict with oneself and lenient towards others is the key to good relationship between colleagues. On the one hand, we must be strict with ourselves: Be kind and approachable, give people a smiling face; always reflect on ourselves, remind ourselves that we respect others and push ourselves forward; do not impose on others what we do not want; do things for others and think before we act. On the other hand, we should be lenient with others: we should be tolerant and tolerant when we meet three points. As long as we are not principled, we should not blame others. Even if others have shortcomings, we must tolerate them as much as possible.

Nine, not too weak. Some people have natural affinity and are quite popular. The whole world has different people's hearts, and it is far from enough to deal with people with different personalities. We must also pay attention to strategy. This is also the key and difficulty in dealing with interpersonal relationships.

In a single unit, or in an office, it is very important to do well in the relationship between colleagues. A harmonious relationship and a good mood are not only good for work, but also conducive to physical and mental health. If the relationship is discord or even a little nervous, then it will be tasteless. The reason for the inharmonious relationship between colleagues is not only a major problem but also a direct conflict of interest.
So what words and actions will affect the relationship between colleagues?

Nine avoid:

First, there are good things not to be notified. The first thing you know in the unit is the item, the award, etc., or you have already taken it, sitting there silently, like nothing, and never tell you anything. There are some things that you can take over and never help people. In such a few times, others will naturally have ideas and feel that you are too sociable and lack common sense and teamwork spirit. After they know something first, or if something is taken first, they may not tell you. If this goes on, the relationship will not be harmonious.

Two, knowingly and unknowingly. A colleague is away on business, or temporarily out for a while, when someone comes to him or calls for him. If a colleague leaves, he may not tell you, but you know, you might as well tell them; if you really don't know, you may as well ask others, then tell the other person to show your enthusiasm. Clearly know, and you do not know through direct access, once known, the relationship between them will be affected. No matter what the situation is, you must be sincere and enthusiastic, so even if you do not have a practical effect, outsiders will feel that your colleagues are in good relationship.

Three, do not tell each other. You have to go out for a while or leave for work. Although you are the leader who approves the leave, you'd better speak to your colleagues in the office. Even if you go out for half an hour, say hello to your colleagues. In this way, if leaders or acquaintances come to look for them, they can also let colleagues have a confession. If you don't want to say anything, when you come in and out of mystery, sometimes there is something urgent, people will not be able to say it. Sometimes you will be too lazy to say that you may be influenced by yourself. Mutual notification is both a need for common work and a need for liaison. It shows mutual respect and trust between the two sides.

Four, not to mention private matters. Some private matters can not be said, but some personal matters are not harmful. For example, your boyfriend or girlfriend's work unit, educational background, age and temperament, etc. if you get married and have children, you will have some topics about lovers and children. In the spare time, you can chat by the way, it can enhance understanding and deepen feelings. If these contents are kept secret, they will never speak to others. How can this be considered as a colleague? Without saying anything, it usually shows deep feelings. If you do not speak, you will naturally show the alienation of interpersonal distance. When you talk about other people's affairs, others will tell you that sometimes you can help each other. You say nothing, do not let anyone know, how others trust you. Trust is based on mutual understanding.

Five, there is something I refuse to ask my colleagues for help. It is right not to ask for help easily. Because asking people always brings trouble to others. But everything is dialectical. Sometimes, asking for help can show your trust in others, harmony and feelings. For example, your health is not good, your colleague's lover is a doctor, you don't know, but you can find it through colleagues' introduction, so that you can quickly and quickly check. If you refuse to ask for help, your colleagues will know that you do not trust others. If you don't want to ask others, people will be sorry to ask you. If you are afraid of other people's troubles, people will think you are also very afraid of trouble. Good interpersonal relationship is based on mutual help. Therefore, seeking help from others is generally acceptable. Of course, pay attention to propriety and try not to embarrass others.

Six, refuse colleagues' snacks. Colleagues take fruits, melon seeds, sugar snacks and other snacks to the office, rest time to eat, you do not push, do not feel embarrassed and refuse all. Sometimes, some of my colleagues won a prize and commended on the title. We are glad to ask him to buy something to entertain. This is also very normal. You may actively participate in this. You should not sit around and say nothing, but do not want others to give you, but you refuse it, showing a disdainful or uncommon look. When people are enthusiastic about giving away, you are often cold, but for a long time, people have reason to say that you are tall and arrogant and feel that you are difficult to get along with. 　　

Seven, often and one person "bite ears". There are quite a few people in the office. You should try to maintain a balance for everyone and try to stay in the same state as always. In peacetime, do not always whisper with the same person, do not always go in and out with a person. Otherwise, the two of you may be close, but there may be more alienation. Some people thought you were working on a small group. If you often bite your ears with the same person, if others come in and do not speak, then others will inevitably produce the idea that you are speaking ill of others. 　　

Eight, keen to explore family matters. People who can say they will say that they can't talk about it. Everyone has his own secret. Sometimes, people do not pay attention to the secret of the heart to leak, for this, do not go to inquire, do not want to ask. Some people are keen to inquire about everything. They want to know everything. They want to make sure that they are despised by others. You like to snoop, even if there is no purpose, people will also avoid you three points. In a sense, it is immoral to love to spy on others' private affairs. 　　

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