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Coping With Annoying Colleagues

2008/12/16 16:02:00 41880

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As the saying goes, rice is like a hundred people.

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Workplace

On the one hand, we inevitably encounter uneasy colleagues. Some people like to complain constantly. Some people will lose their temper.

Their behavior not only destroys their mood and state of work, but may even affect the physical and mental health of others and personal life.

No wonder Sutton, a professor of management at Stanford University, treats these nuisance in the book "the rules of asshole".

Workplace

Behavior is called "asshole behavior".

Sutton also pointed out that in the face of these difficult colleagues, the key is to keep calm. As long as we learn to change our behavior appropriately, we can get rid of their influence and improve their quality of life.

遇到情商差的人，要冷靜

Ms. Wang's neighbour colleagues are bad tempered and emotionally controlled. They often get angry because of a little trifle and shout at others, ignoring the feelings of others.

Whenever the colleague lost his temper, Mrs. Wang would feel depressed and feel hurt. He thought he was rushing to himself.

其實，面對這種情商差的“火藥桶”，最好的處理方式就是冷靜、冷靜、再冷靜，因為對方若能處理好自己的情緒，也不會丟出赤裸裸的憤怒和怨氣。此時，我們不妨學(xué)學(xué)西方人，運用“暫時離開”的哲學(xué)，禮貌地說一句：“對不起，我想去趟洗手間，等一下我們再談。”也可以說：“對不起，我現(xiàn)在跟人有約，可否待會再談？”總之，及時離開現(xiàn)場，可以讓你遠離風(fēng)暴、平復(fù)心情。

Although some colleagues are not as horrible as a gunpowder bucket, if you have a colleague who chatter all day in your ear and complain incessantly, your mood will not go anywhere.

Some people call such a colleague "bitter cauliflower".

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U.S.A

The Wall Street Journal reported that those who complain often make colleagues unable to work well.

If you meet those "bitter vegetables" who like to complain or have negative thoughts, you can take a few minutes to listen to their complaints, genuinely sympathize with their situation, then guide them to pay attention to some positive things, or focus on the work: "some things are unreasonable, but what should we do now?"

How can you do it? "

Lead him to think about solutions.

If he continues to complain, he might as well adopt a strategy of "stay at arm's length", and do not respond to their complaints through their seats. As time passes, they will not bother you again if they do not resonate.

遇到興風(fēng)作浪的人，當(dāng)面質(zhì)問

Workplace

The guys who like to talk about gossip and gossip are often hard to guard against.

Although gossip and gossip reflect human nature, they can satisfy the desire to spy on others' privacy and comment on others' short and short desires. But gossip has long been easy to get into a wrong place.

Therefore, it is best to chat with and exchange information with colleagues who love gossip.

First, do not let yourself become a gossip pfer station.

If there are colleagues who distribute your right and wrong, it is best to ask the speaker in person, which can effectively extinguish rumors and slander: "I heard, what do you say I am..."

I wonder if it's a misunderstanding? "

On the one hand, the opportunity to explain to the other side, on the other hand, for their own clarification of the facts.

Sometimes we encounter harsh colleagues or

Boss

At this time, we might as well take a look at it first. What is the motive behind it?

Is he very demanding of himself and his work, or is he trying to suppress others?

遇到要求高的領(lǐng)導(dǎo)，不妨欣然接受對方的批評和建議，視他為鞭策自己成長和進步的“貴人”。如果實在被對方逼得喘不過氣來，也不妨適度表達一下自己的感受，例如：“你的標(biāo)準(zhǔn)真高，我們都達不到。”意思是提醒對方，別總是追求完美。但如果批評者“暗藏殺機”，也別被他打倒了。

Dale Carnegie, a famous psychologist, said: "criticism is often a disguised compliment."

Because you have aroused jealousy and jealousy from others, it is inevitable that this will happen.

However, try not to regard colleagues as competitors or enemies. You know that those who do not have a win-win concept in their brain and want to control everything themselves are unable to survive in the workplace for a long time.

最后，要多增強自己的調(diào)適能力和工作上的自信心，在工作之外找到其他平衡的窗口宣泄情緒，例如選擇固定的健身項目，培養(yǎng)自己的興趣。此外，也可以積極建立工作上的支持系統(tǒng)，找積極樂觀的同事為你打氣。同時，還要注意加強自己的信念，培養(yǎng)對事對人的觀察能力，養(yǎng)成不畏逆境的心態(tài)。

Editor: vivi