Contact And Conversation

We should take a positive attitude towards participating in foreign protocol activities. In the past, some people believed in the policy of "less mouth is silver, and no mouth is gold". They believe that in foreign occasions, only when "don't open your mouth" is a "shut up Taoist", can they not make mistakes. This is a negative and inaction thought. Of course, sometimes, in a certain situation, the use of "Silence" strategy is also OK. However, this can not be attributed to the attitude that should be taken under normal circumstances. In particular, the current international situation is very favorable to China, and the policy of "opening to the outside world" provides us with a wide range of opportunities. On foreign occasions, we should not be rigid and not just Chinese people chatting in groups. Instead, we should make extensive contacts, make more friends, and actively carry out foreign activities in accordance with the principles and policies of China's foreign work. Contact with friends, that is, through direct dating, to meet the people concerned. For example, when new envoys arrive at their posts, they should be called on as usual. Through the visit, you can make friends with the leaders of the host country, the responsible persons of relevant parties, friendly social celebrities and ambassadors of various countries stationed in the area. The visit to the post is a kind of courtesy, and the scope of the visit can be determined according to the local conditions. Through the visit and conversation, we can learn a lot about the situation, and some envoys have to pay a return visit. In this way, mutual relations can be established quickly. When the personnel of each business department arrive, they can also propose to visit the corresponding personnel.

When introducing friends in social occasions, be kind and natural. For example, in family banquets or small receptions, the host generally introduces the first to the later guests. But be careful not to take the female guests to introduce all the guests around. In large-scale events, if an acquaintance is chatting with other guests, you can come forward to say hello, so that friends can introduce you to everyone. In social occasions, as guests invited by the same host, they can introduce themselves to each other actively and politely.

When introducing two people to each other, the general rule is: introduce others to more distinguished people. For example, introduce younger people to the elderly, introduce ordinary visitors to people with higher status, and so on.

In some special cases, the introduction should be careful. For example, you know that they may have known each other in the past, but have not been associated with each other for a long time; or in diplomatic occasions, diplomats from two hostile countries are present at the same time, and they may not want to communicate with each other in public even if they have no personal grudges. At this time, they should avoid introducing each other.

Use concise and polite language to introduce people. For example, the most polite way is to say "may I introduce XX to you?" When you are among people and friends of similar age and status, you can use a simple way of introduction: "XX group, Mr. XX." This is the most convenient way, especially when there are many people. There is also a more casual and friendly way of introduction: "Mr. XX, do you know Mr. X?" There are many other expressions, such as: "group XX, this is Mr. XX"; "Mr. XX, I hope you can meet Mr. XX"; "Mrs. XX, this is my friend, Miss XX", and so on. Sometimes people say, "please
Meet Mr. Li. " But it's not a polite way to introduce. When you are introduced, what you usually do is shake hands, smile and say, "how do you do." A solemn bow may also be given. If you are particularly happy to see someone, you can say, "I'm so glad to see you."

When introducing myself, the more polite wording is: "may I introduce myself? My name is XX (may I introduction myself? My name is...)

As a public official of a country, a group or an enterprise, when talking to the outside world, of course, we should adhere to the principles and not violate our foreign policies. We should also clear up some misunderstandings of the outside world. For example, people often talk about the issue of world population control. Foreigners are very concerned about the population control of China, a country with the largest population. I would like to express my appreciation for China's achievements in this field. However, some people have doubts about China's one-child policy, as well as the specific provisions on late marriage, contraception and abortion; others do not understand some of the penalties in this regard. Under such circumstances, we should proceed from the actual situation of our country, patiently and meticulously and realistically publicize and explain it. We should also have a clear understanding of the current domestic and international basic situation, major international events, and important issues in bilateral or multilateral relations, and adhere to China's principled position.

In social occasions, it is of course an important topic to talk about the political, economic, diplomatic and other aspects of the situation. Especially when major international events occur, they often become a hot topic, sometimes even become a hot topic. At such a time, you can often hear the spread of the latest news, and you can hear the elaboration of various views. People who are interested in it should pay attention to and be good at using this opportunity. Some people are worried that they can't find the right topic in social occasions for a while, which will lead to the awkward situation of silent confrontation. In fact, the topic of social occasions is very extensive. In addition to the political issues mentioned above, global issues of common concern, such as environmental protection, population growth, transportation support, disease prevention and control, youth education, aging issues, sports, movies and television, painting and music, folk customs, scientific and technological development, and the future world can all become interesting topics. Foreigners often talk about Chinese unique things, such as traditional Chinese medicine, Taijiquan, qigong, Peking Opera, Chinese cuisine, etc. It can be seen that the topics that can be talked about are so extensive and diverse that we can draw on local materials according to the environment and place, the occupation, interest, knowledge and level of the interviewees. This can not only avoid "cold", but also enhance understanding and friendship, enrich their knowledge.

We should learn to be good at asking questions and ask for advice with an open mind. This requires that you should respect the other party when asking questions, be natural and appropriate, do not ask embarrassing questions, and do not make people feel that you are deliberately probing into things that others do not want to talk about. If others always avoid your questions, try to change the topic instead of asking them again and again. Questioning can also guide and change the topic.

Wit and humor are very valuable in conversation. Sometimes speaking a few philosophical words, witticisms, or a joke will make the conversation lively and cheerful, and even solve the difficult problems, so that some difficult problems can always be solved. When attending the Moscow Conference, Mao Zedong quoted a popular Chinese story, saying that it was the two clay Bodhisattvas. After breaking and mixing the mud, Mao Zedong rebuilt the two. The result was "you have me, I have you". He also advised Khrushchev to unite and not to engage in chauvinism. He said, "although lotus is good, it needs green leaves to support it"; and "a hero should have one gang, and a fence should have three piles.". His vivid and philosophical metaphors won the admiration of many participants.

In 1692, China shot down a U-2 high-altitude reconnaissance plane. Many foreign journalists wanted to learn about the development of missiles in China, so they asked Foreign Minister Chen Yi how the U-2 plane was shot down? Chen Yi replied wittily, "it's to poke it with a bamboo pole." It caused a lot of laughter, thus avoiding the blunt answer "no comment". Of course, silence is different from satire. We should not ridicule and allude to each other for no reason.

When talking to each other, we should pay attention to the differences between Chinese and foreign habits. For example, foreigners often greet each other with "Hello!" "Good morning!" "Good evening!" wait. Some Chinese people often use "where are you going?" "To what?" It's not necessary to inquire about other people's private affairs in foreign countries. Ask, "have you eaten yet?" Will be misunderstood as not eating, you are ready to treat. When we meet with foreign acquaintances, we say "hello" to each other. As a greeting and greeting, it's also very common. Among the young friends, there was only one saying: "Hi! (HI) "is more casual. It is said that there is no lack of swearing words from previous presidents. Some people call it "national curse". Nowadays, some literary works have dirty words and taboo words. This is not only a kind of vulgar taste, but also a kind of social pollution. Of course, it shouldn't be on social occasions.

Don't sit in front of others when they are talking. If you want to participate in their conversation, you should take the opportunity to join them according to the situation. When there are more than three people on the scene of the conversation, we should take proper care of all the people present. We should not only talk to one or two of them and ignore others. In social occasions, few words, or even no words, can easily lead to misunderstanding. I think you have something unhappy or unsatisfied, or that you are not willing to express what you have seen and are interested in what others have said, etc. Sometimes other people's conversation, words have sound, we should learn to be good at understanding and resourceful. Keep improving your conversation skills. The content and level of the conversation. Therefore, we must continue to study and improve, pay attention to reading and reading newspapers, improve knowledge and cultural quality. Only in this way can we achieve good speech, meaningful words, appropriate wording and vivid language. This requires real effort.

With the progress of society, telephone conversation is becoming more and more common. Even some national leaders have set up hotlines. However, we often encounter some unpleasant things on the phone. Morality is that some telephone operators lack basic etiquette training. They pick up the phone impatiently without saying "Hello! Also do not report the name of his company, then Tang suddenly asked, "who are you?" "Who are you looking for?" Then he replied, "he's not here." Then "pa" to hang up the phone, there is no room for further discussion. Some people don't give their names when they call, as if the other party should know who he is, so they can't feel it; some people call regardless of whether it's the rest time of the other party; especially after the popularity of handheld phones, some people turn on their mobile phones regardless of the occasion, and so on. Politeness education of telephone conversation should be carried out. When making a phone call, 1. Make the other party know who he is as soon as possible, and both parties should give their names; 2. If you need to find someone else, please ask the other party to "wait a moment"; if the person is not in, you should reply "he is not in". If the other party asks for other people or when he can call again, he should reply politely; 3. He should use concise, clear and polite language when calling; 4 Unless you know each other's living habits, don't call people before 8:00 a.m. or after 9:00 p.m., and pay attention to the rest of the other party at noon; 5. Politely say "goodbye" after calling, and don't interrupt the call at will. If the phone fails, try to connect it again; 6. If you are in a meeting or receiving guests, in order to avoid keeping the guests waiting, please explain the situation and ask the caller to call at another time; 7. The mobile phone can only be opened in a suitable place. Mobile phones should not be used in front of hospital beds, theatres, cinemas and other performing places; 8. Mobile phones are prohibited on airplanes. It is not appropriate to use mobile phones on buses and trams; 9. Mobile phones have strong radiation, so when others are listening to the radio and player, keep away from them to avoid interference; 10. When dining in a restaurant, you must leave the table and go to the corner of the restaurant to use the mobile phone; 11. Don't take the mobile phone as a luxury and deliberately show off; 12. Make long-distance calls, especially in areas where the telephone charges are expensive, No