Observe Unusual Movements And Understand People Around You In The Shortest Time.

How do you get to know a person in the first few minutes of a conversation with a stranger? How can you get close to each other? How do you find each other's favorite topics?

It all depends on being careful.

He worked as an FBI officer for 25 years, and is an expert in body language behavior analysis of the espionage intelligence unit. Now he has become a famous poker coach in America after retirement.

The key to winning the game is mastering the 70 - 30 rule. 70% of them come from reading ability, and gambling skills only account for 30%.

At the end of last year, he published a new book on ReadEmandReap. He took the observation ability of the polygraph criminals during his job as a detective, and taught the players how to see through the eyes and body movements to see through each other's minds and give the party a fatal blow at the table.

Observation depends on the day after tomorrow.

First of all, the most important thing is to practice your observation. One of the most effective ways is "recallgame".

You can practise at any time and anywhere.

For example, when you walk into a room, close your eyes and try to recall what you saw before entering the room. The more detailed it is, the better.

For a long time, you can walk to the front door of your friend's house like Navarro. You have already seen the surrounding environment clearly: which brand cars are stopped on the street in front of the house, and there is a man outside the house who weeding grass and two newspapers in front of the other house.

Another way of practice is to go further. When you observe the surrounding environment, ask yourself, what does this mean? For example, weeding people should live in that house, because there is no herbicide maintenance company on the street in front of the door.

Whether the answer is right or not is not the point. What is really important is that you must train yourself and make reasonable decisions from observed clues.

And when you really face each other face to face, you must be alert at any time, and you can't let go of any details.

The first thing Navarro does when he sits on a table is to observe the opponents of his table, including their facial expressions, positions of their hands, sitting posture, dressing up, and what kind of facial expressions or movements they appear when they play cards.

More importantly, during the competition, he will pay special attention to whether his opponent's behavior appears.

In general, when we observe people, we get accustomed to looking at each other's expression at the first glance. But Navarro does the opposite thing. First, he looks at his opponent's feet, and his facial expression can be loaded, but few people know how to disguise his feet.

One clue is the orientation of the feet.

According to many studies of court behavior, if a judge does not like a witness, he will usually move his feet toward the front door before they enter the court.

Similarly, when you talk to someone, if your opponent's feet face a certain direction, instead of facing you, it means he wants to end the conversation.

If the other person suddenly crossect his feet (ankle), it means he is nervous or threatened.

If the other person moves the body backward and then sits up, it is the expression of self-confidence, representing the situation is very beneficial to him.

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Observe unusual movements

Of course, observation is not limited to just a few minutes just met, and the more the middle and the back, the more you can see the real reaction of the other person.

Because unless you receive professional training, you will be unaware of it after a period of time.

Therefore, in the process, you must pay special attention to sudden abnormal behavior.

For example, when a person is nervous or stressed, he often makes some movements involuntarily.

1, touch or massage the neck: there are many nerve endings in our neck. As long as a little massage, it can effectively reduce blood pressure and heart rate, and eliminate tension.

In addition, massage on the forehead or touching the earlobe is also an action that occurs when people are nervous.

If a boy wears a tie or a girl plays with necklace on his neck, it also means the same meaning.

2, breathe deeply or talk more: deep breathing is the easiest way to instantly calm your emotions, so when you see the other person breathing deeply, he knows that he may be depressed.

Or in the process, the other side is not very talkative, but suddenly speak more, also represents his mood began to become unstable.

3. Put your hands on your thighs: when we are nervous, we will also rub our hands on our thighs unconsciously, trying to calm our emotions. So this action is another important clue.

In addition, sometimes when you find the other person moves fast, you decide to be decisive. Usually, the purpose of doing this is to cover up your lack of confidence.

A truly confident person thinks deeply, rather than making decisions without hesitation, and rushing to show his confidence.

When you observe the above behavior, you can decide whether you want to take advantage of victory or not, to force the other side to comply with your request or to relax your speech in order to facilitate the next conversation.

However, in addition to showing the state of the other's body, body movements are also a manifestation of personality.

Takeda Tetsuo, the Japanese management consultant, summed up several common habits, reflecting specific patterns of personality and behavior:

1, like blinking: this kind of mind is narrow-minded and can not be trusted.

When negotiating with someone or asking for help, it is best to make a direct statement.

2, the habit of staring at others: the warning is very strong, not easy to reveal the inner feelings, so face them, avoid excessive enthusiasm or joking speech.

3, like to raise the volume of speech: most of them are egoists and are very confident in themselves. If you think you are not suitable for flattering others, you'd better draw a line with this person.

4, wear informal: also represent the personality easy-going, and face the pressure of human feelings, easy to yield, so when things are discussed with them, it is best to set friendship, far more effective than through official relations.

5. Sit down and sit up: this kind of person is full of ambition and self-confidence, and has the ability to act. He will act immediately when he has made up his mind.

6, touching the chin while speaking, usually with a cautious personality and strong vigilance.

7, hold your hands around your chest: you are also very cautious in your work, strong in action and persistent in your opinions.

Search for other peripheral clues.

However, appearance is only one clue. You can also search for important information about the other from different sources.

Ishii Hiroyuki, the author of cold reading, has provided some interesting techniques to help us to understand each other's personality.

First of all, you can start with handwriting: at the right time, ask the other person to write down the information you want on a blank sheet, such as asking him to write down his contact mode.

If the scribbled handwriting is fast, people will work very fast, but they are usually sloppy, because he thinks that the details will be fine if they are done.

People who are cautious and slow in writing will confirm and proceed carefully at work, but if they are urged to speed up, they will not be able to play their due level.

In addition, mobile phone pendant is also a good clue. Pendant complex people, usually a lot of friends, belong to the type of loneliness and excitement. No mobile phone pendant, even if there are also simple people, do not like a group of people quarrels together, do not pay much attention to the surface of the dating relationship, only with a small number of people who can really care about the long term.