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Grasp The First Four Minutes Of Communication.

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Interpersonal Contact Between Strangers For Four Minutes

Whether people are willing to be friends or when they may become friends, according to Dr. Donald Zonin's point of view in the book "communication".

Contact between strangers

Of

First four minutes

It is essential.

In his book, he said to friends who build new friendships: "when you meet strangers in social situations, you should focus on him for four minutes.

Many people's lives will change accordingly.

You can notice that most people do not concentrate their attention on the people they have just met. He keeps looking around and seems to be looking for more interesting people.

If anyone treats you like this, you will not like him.

When we are introduced to new friends, the author says we should try to be friendly and confident.

"Generally speaking," he said, "people like to love their own people."

Besides, we should not let others think that we are very conceited. It is very important to show interest or sympathy to others.

Know that others also have their own needs, fears and hopes.

By listening to the above advice, you may say, I am not a person who is friendly or confident in nature. Is it not honest?

Dr zoIn believes that as long as he practices several times, he will change his way of socializing.

As long as we want to change our character, we will eventually get used to it. It's like buying a new car. You may not feel familiar at first, but it is always better than the old one.

Is it a dishonest behavior to show friendliness or confidence in a person who is not friendly and self-confident? Dr. zoen said: perhaps, "complete honesty" is often inappropriate for social relationships, especially in the first few minutes of contact, when there are various manifestations, but proper performance is the best way to communicate with strangers.

This is not a time to complain about your health problems or find other people's shortcomings. This is not the time to put your views and impression together.

The same applies to family members or friends, and to husbands and wives, parents and children, problems often occur in the first four minutes after their long periods.

Dr. zoen suggests that we must be careful in these few minutes. If you discuss something unpleasant, we need to solve it later.

The author claims that

Interpersonal relationship

In schools, we should treat them as compulsory courses like reading, writing and mathematics. The success of life is mainly based on the fact that we get along with the people around us, which is at least as important as the knowledge we have.