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How To Exchange Knowledge And Avoid Talking Minefields

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We need to pay attention to how to exchange knowledge and communicate with others.

Others say that they should pay attention to their preferences.

Other party

Identity, purpose of conversation, etc.

But the most important and fundamental thing is to avoid the unpleasant language and behavior.

So what do we need to pay attention to? First, we should avoid minefields for dialogue: bad news (for example: airplane crashes, familiar acquaintances get cancer).

Religion.

Political philosophy.

Your health.

Are you promoted?

Recent expenses.

Others' faults or misfortunes.

We need to know what is forbidden: if the other person is over thirty years old, especially women, do not ask him (or her) age.

Do not ask the weight of a fat or lean person.

If you think your partner is thin, plastic surgery or pregnancy, just say "you look great."

If the other person tells you the reason, you can ask a few questions politely.

Do not ask him why she did not bring family members to the banquet.

Do not ask these questions:

Dismiss

Or layoffs, sexual life, abortion, serious or late disease, divorce.

Don't ask about money: salaries and bonuses; the cost of high-end clothing, housing, cars, the size of mortgage loans, and the cost of holidays.

Again, we need to know what is forbidden: don't be lazy, but don't stand up straight.

Do not ring your chest with your arms. Do not touch your hair and face with your fingers.

Don't talk about long and boring jokes.

Never say vulgar or yellow jokes.

Jokes should be related to the topic of discussion.

Don't act.

This happens when you pay more attention to yourself and try to maintain your impression of others.

Don't speak too fast, and don't put too much information into every clause.

This happens when you repeat those fixed phrases whenever you have the chance.

Don't use ambiguous or outdated words.

Loanwords

Technical terms are interspersed with dialogues.

Don't introduce vague or provocative words.

Don't speak too slowly. This will not only make you think deeply, but will make you feel dull.

If you fail to state your opinions, others will begin to finish your speech, or nod your head to indicate that they have understood.

This happens.

Don't make a fire.

Avoid this: "this will not work."

Or, "you are not right."

Objection is of course, but you should try to say, "look at it from another angle," or "I object, because..."

Don't stare at other people walking around the room while someone is talking to you.