Don'T Be A Poor Etiquette.

You know what kind of people they are: they laugh annoyably, tone aggressively, and have the ability to stop you in the industry meetings and talk about themselves for hours. They are obviously harmless, but their

Here's a friendly suggestion: don't be such a person.

In the process of finding jobs, social interaction is a crucial link, and it may also be the easiest part to make mistakes.

It is much more effective to use energetic interpersonal relationships than blindly sending out resumes on the Internet, but in many people's eyes,

Knowing some etiquette rules can help you get on the table, and perhaps help you to alleviate the fear of people with a wide range of contacts.

Li Li

As we all know, first impressions play a great role. When introducing yourself to others, make sure that your costumes, attitudes and overall image are at their best.

Ivan Smithna, founder of BNI, a California based business network organization, said that when attending a social event, we should pay close attention to the small groups formed by people in the field. You can talk to people who are alone or join two or three small groups of people, as long as their positions leave you room for the IvanMisner to insert into the conversation.

CarolGoman, a nonverbal communication expert and author of TheSilentLanguageofLeaders, says that when you introduce yourself, you need to speak your name clearly, and you need to have eye contact with others when you shake hands with others. Carol,

A weak handshake will make the other person unhappy. So you might as well try to find a friend to practice shaking hands to make sure that when you shake hands with others, it will not cause pain or weakness.

If you introduce yourself on the Internet, remember to follow the rules of social etiquette.

For example, if someone else introduces you to the other person, you need to write the name of the person who has contact with both sides in the e-mail subject line, so as to give the person some degree of recognition.

Goldman said e-mail is a cold medium. If you can use something personal to warm it up, do it.

Don't confuse your presentation with others.

No one will listen to your entire work experience just when you get acquainted.

If someone asks you to tell him something about you, your commentary process should not exceed 30 to 60 seconds from beginning to end.

This is especially true when you interact with people in other industries.

Those who engage in management consulting or marketing work on your special skills and interests in chemical engineering may not be able to understand them at all.

Jody Oglickman, author of GreatontheJob, and founder of GreatontheJob professional Consultation Service Co, said most people recite their resumes in flashbacks.

Don't do this. You should first talk about what you want to do, that is, your goal, and then briefly introduce your experience, and connect the two.

Share related experiences, not recent ones.

Glickman said, what you are doing recently may be irrelevant to what you want to do next.

Don't talk about sad things.

No matter how tough your experience is, you must describe your positive side in the face of new acquaintances.

Glickman said that potential employers or social networking friends do not want to make people feel better to help those depressed.

They want those who show good and energetic attitude, those who are full of enthusiasm and enthusiasm for this job, but not those who are excited about getting the job.

Generally speaking, there is no room for complaining in social networks, no matter how hard it is to complain about unemployment, or how hard work is, or how bad your ex employer is.

Misner said that in this economic situation, when people ask "how is work", don't answer the question seriously.

It's no good to complain about how bad work is and how bad the economy is. People hate working with people who have emotions.

Listen more and speak less.

In business affairs, this old saying is true: nature gives people one mouth and two ears, that is to say, we should listen more and speak less.

Mark Ojeffries, the author of What s Up With Your Handshake, says that like a date, you should spend more time listening to and understanding people in front of you, and spending less time talking about yourself.

When you really get to know this person, you can introduce yourself and tell your story in a way that best suits the specific needs of the other person.

Misner said that most people think that sociable experts are extroverted, but extroverts are always talking.

Talking about yourself is a good way to introduce yourself, but careful listening can help you build a deeper relationship with the other person.

Don't act like a socially retarded child.

The difference between being friendly, pleasing and unpleasant is awkward. You don't want to be in the latter situation.

Glickman said, avoid talking about things that are uncomfortable. For example, please don't tell others that you have been unemployed for six months because of recent brain surgery or because of layoffs.

In other words, people feel that everyone has to sympathize with you. You never want to let this emotion be the foundation of mutual relationship.

You can say that you have taken six months' sick leave or spend your time traveling, which is a good way to keep your conversation pleasant.

You should know some basic social concepts, such as where the eye should look and how close it is to others, Goldman said.

Looking at each other's eyes to the middle of the forehead is professional, while staring at each other's eyes to the mouth area is not.

Misner said, you should also keep the distance of one arm to the person you want to talk to.

Don't linger too long.

It takes a long time to occupy a person and totally ignore them.

Jeffries said, you need to know when the time is almost up. This is a must.

On social occasions, if you put people first, you are the winner, so when you see someone crossing their arms slowly, others see the number of times behind you, or suddenly love the word "anyway", they are sending you no subtle hint to tell you that they want to leave.

Goldman said, we need to prepare several graceful exit methods, such as "I am honored to know you! There are two people over there," I said, "I want to see you." or "who can I introduce you to?" if the other side still does not understand, this spare trick will definitely work. "I want to get another drink."

Deliver your business card instead of your resume.

It's not appropriate to take your resume everywhere. If you are online or offline, you need to get in touch with others and ask them for help.

Many people neglect this professional etiquette. When they send their resume or application, ask someone who has just met to be a referee.

Glickman said, do not seek work from strangers. You can not help someone who has no contact with you, so unprofessional, boring and ineffective.

You should exchange business cards with others.

When you give your business card, you should also ask for your business card politely.

Don't assume that others will take the initiative to ask for business cards.

After a little distance from the other side, take some time to write down some information on the person you saw just now: the personal matter he mentioned, a news you talked about, or a business idea you talked about.

After that, you can send a short message to each other, and you can use these things to arouse the memory of the other party politely.

Follow up and maintain

Perhaps the most basic rule of human interaction is that after planting the seeds of a new social relationship, you must keep up with it and maintain it.

Whether it's a business relationship, an opportunity to find a job or professional contacts, you should contact your partner within 24 hours, and you will be glad to know him.

Glickman said, no one owes you, so you should try to cater for others.

Those who spend time talking to you, helping you build connections and providing guidance are grateful.

I believe I can learn from everyone, maybe they are not able to help you, but they may know someone you want to contact.

It's also important to contact people who have been introduced to you by acquaintances.

Misner said that if someone else gives you a recommendation, you will be impatient to follow up, so those who recommend it will not be happy.

Because if you don't follow up, two things are not good looking: one is you, because you haven't followed up the possible opportunities, and the other is the person who recommended you, because he recommended you as a reliable person to others.