Can "Success Study" Really Lead You To Success?

< p > when you hesitate at both ends of the letter or not, you may as well listen to what the psychologist says.

If you look at the coat that camouflaged by a psychologist, what kind of truth will the soul chicken soup reveal? < /p >

< p > < strong > my success can be duplicated. < /strong > /p >

< p > > a href= "http://www.91se91.com/news/index_c.asp" > Tang Jun < /a > said: "my success can be duplicated!" the words of the working emperor made millions of people hot blooded. The Autobiography of this name has created 5 months' republication 6 times legend.

But after a few years, Tang Jun still had only one. No one came up and said, "I copied Tang Jun's success."

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< p > no matter whether it is success study or chicken soup of the soul, it is very absurd to try to simplify the relationship between cause and effect, ignore all kinds of complicated factors, and think that some reason must lead to some kind of result. This kind of attempt to feed the whole world by a bowl of chicken soup is absurd.

He said: "whether a person can do a thing is related to many factors, such as heaven, earth, people and people, hard work, accumulation of peacetime connections, ways of doing things."

Success is not achieved overnight. Everyone has different paths to success.

Those who feed their success and soul soup all day long may not succeed.

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People who are truly successful in P do not necessarily tell others about their success stories.

This is not for private possession, but there is no secret of success for all people. Many things are sugar, but they will also become arsenic.

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This is also proved by an experiment done by P scholars abroad.

Two well-known Canadian psychologists have used low self-esteem people to ask them to read aloud some self motivating sentences, such as "I will succeed", "I am a big fan", and then measure their emotions.

It turns out that after reading these sentences, they feel worse and even have doubts about their abilities.

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< p > this is because those overly positive statements force people to force themselves to produce positive thoughts, but when people try to avoid negative thoughts and fail, they feel self remorse.

Once again, this sense of self accusation will not only drown out the first positive ideas, but also drive them crazy.

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< p > we can see that the greater effect of success and chicken soup is the destruction of personal beliefs.

He said: when we do not know ourselves, we always ask ourselves for the way we seek, and act and think in accordance with others' way. It is actually a very painful feeling.

In the end, you will find that in the same way, why others can succeed and I can not? This will only lead to a horrible conclusion: I am inferior to others.

No wonder Ma Yun would say, "once my staff has attended a successful course, I can conclude that he has" abandoned ".

Although this is absolute, it is quite agreed.

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< p > success and a href= "http://www.91se91.com/news/index_f.asp" > soul chicken soup < /a > often teach people some universal principles, such as sincerity and kindness.

But there is no inevitable connection between true success and the subjective factors of sincerity and kindness.

Even sincerity and kindness often vary from person to person.

What is sincerity, what is kindness? What is the goodness of some people? It is sacrificing oneself to satisfy others, knowing that you are a liar, and I am still deceived by you. Others are kindhearted but have boundaries. I know you are a liar, and I will reject you.

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< p > successful learning and soul chicken soup often advocate sacrifices based on God's perspective, and believe that this is sincerity and kindness.

It is easy for people to doubt their virtues.

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< p > strong > Why do you like "chicken soup"? < /strong > /p >

< p > the popularity of chicken soup has been quite a few years.

When they were young, they were small stories in readers, youth digest and so on. When they grew up, they turned into nutritious characters on WeChat and micro-blog.

They look beautiful, but they are hard to withstand.

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< p > a story that has been forwarded countless times: a skilled carpenter was arranged by his boss to build the last house before retiring. The carpenter thought that he was going to retire anyway, but he did not think that the boss would give the house to himself.

So after that, he had to live in a shoddy house.

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< p > analysis of this little story that motivates people to "live in the present": a carpenter's sense of value comes from the product's recognition - the house made is comfortable to live in, and a dedicated carpenter can't produce a product that smashed his own brand at the last minute of his career.

This story ignores people's consistency, consistency and demands for themselves.

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< p > the fact that small probability events are universally applicable is a common disease of success study and chicken soup of the soul.

But why can a story full of superstition allow some to believe in superstition, obedience to blind obedience? This is related to social environment: the catastrophe decades ago completely broke the attachment and security relationship between people, and people only allowed one belief.

This kind of trust has been affected by the sense of loneliness and emptiness caused by the lack of faith, and it will not be alleviated because of the abundance of material.

In this impetuous and great sense of insecurity, people need a direction and some guidance, so long as they do it, they can succeed.

The popularity of success and soul soup contrasting the poverty of people's hearts.

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< p > the market for success and soul chicken soup is also related to our usual education.

Chinese education is cramming. All questions have only one standard answer.

It also makes people believe that there is only one path to success.

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< p > but personal reasons can not be ignored.

From a psychologist's eyes, we think that many people have an unfulfilled baby in their hearts. They want to find a person or thing to play the role of parents.

Those who are obsessed with success and chicken soup are actually imagining them as satisfying their parents.

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Infants who are not satisfied with P are generally living in the hearts of those who are badly off in their childhood.

Because they are not satisfied with their childhood, they feel like a baby who needs to be taken care of, and cast everything around them as their parents.

They either do not realize their problems, or lack the courage to destroy their own reconstruction, so they just look out for it.

I hope I can have a pill and I will not worry when I eat.

Having failed to find the real cause of their sufferings, everything was restored to the past, even worse than before.

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"P", "micro-blog" and "a href=" http://pop.sjfzxm.com/popimg/fz/index.aspx "WeChat" /a "on the pmission of this kind of chicken soup people, I encountered, all pull black.

They are people who have no ego. They always want to be more "ideal selves" to gain recognition and presence.

It is no wonder that some netizens who have seen his program think he is very poisonous.

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If P is more toxic, people may ask: is psychology another kind of chicken soup? The answer to this rather offensive question is that the duty of a psychiatrist is to stimulate the thinking of the client, so that people have the courage to see their shadows and accept their imperfections and imperfections.

This is the fundamental difference between psychology and chicken soup.

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< p > < strong > Cinderella, please go to "pumpkin cart" < /strong > /p >

< p > we often hear someone say that a word or a book has changed someone's life.

But it is believed that the cost and gain of a person must be directly proportional to that. It is impossible to buy a book that costs more than ten or twenty yuan, so that it can change life and lead an ideal life.

If life really changes, it is only a help, because this person has the motive to change, and this book appears just now.

In fact, if not, it might be another book.

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Of course, there is truth in < p > chicken soup, but as the famous philosopher of India, Ge Yin card said, the truth that others have realized is only the truth of others, not yours.

The expression is that wisdom is often learned rather than learned.

But many people just seek out, do not try and experience, just like waiting for that prince charming when they are in love. The final result can be imagined.

He said, "Cinderella has to go to a pumpkin cart to meet a prince."

He stressed: "we need to communicate more with people, constantly perceive and reflect on what we are doing, and there is no other way."

"The reason why a man wants to have a hobby is to avoid emptiness. The reason why a man should have a companion is to avoid loneliness."

To achieve these three points is a harmless person to society.

It is suggested that people take back their eyes from success study and chicken soup of the soul, starting from being a "harmless person".

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< p > a lot of people do not totally deny the chicken soup of the soul. After all, life still needs some consolation, needing some touching and encouragement, and a belief that needs persistence.

When you need comfort most in your heart, you can see one or two times of this kind of writing, sometimes you will suddenly see it, and your mood will become better.

But at this time, the chicken soup of the soul only acts as a psychedelic agent.

Like sleeping pills, it can give people a good night's sleep but can't make people sleep all night.

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< p > "why do you want to drink chicken soup when you are in a bad mood?"

It is recommended to replace chicken soup with the following ways: you can spend some time looking for a beautiful place to travel and integrate yourself into the scenery instead of getting on the bus, sleeping and taking photos. You can call your friends to accompany you, go to a dinner party, eat your favorite foods; you can exercise and sweat after the brain produces an endorphin like substance, also known as "happy hormone" or "young hormone", which can make people feel happy and satisfied, and even help people to release stress and unhappiness.

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