Workplace Strategy: How To Chat With Strangers?

1) keep an open mind and recognize the importance of weak ties.

Chinese people are generally introverted and implicit. They often encounter strangers in some business situations. They often do not know whether to speak or not. Even if they are familiar with each other, they often do not know how to start.

In fact, you should realize the importance of weak connections in social relationships.

Mark Granovetter, a professor at Stanford University, studied the work of professionals, technicians and managers who lived in the suburbs of Boston in 70s. He found that 54 of the 100 out of the randomly selected people were found to work through personal relationships through formal channels, such as advertising and resumes. Among them, 55.6% of them used less than two times a week, and 27.8% of them did not see them once a year.

In other words, most of the relationships you really use are not necessarily friends that you are very familiar with.

And all kinds of professional social occasions, both online and offline, are great opportunities to expand social circles, especially weak links.

Think about how many new business opportunities and interesting business interests are in the conversation with the other person. Are you immediately motivated and eager to try?

2) shape personal style and become a "friendly person".

Whether it's to take the initiative or to be passive, to make yourself look close and willing to get married is the key to building trust with strangers.

Studies in social psychology have found that those who smile, enjoy eye contact and are good at integrating body language into the surrounding environment will emit the charm of "friendly people".

Expression, vision, language style, body movements and dressing styles are all factors that make you think about your personal style.

At the same time, respecting equality and being neither humble nor overbearing is particularly important at any time. Some people may even be rude to others because of the same positions or qualifications. They are very dangerous habits.

We should put the other side at the same height and treat them as friends.

Company partners should be the people you have the most chance to contact in the workplace.

Many large companies have internal fitness teams, volunteer teams, and so on. With the common company background and similar hobbies, you will soon become friends.

If a company conducts some department activities or group trips, try not to reject such opportunities.

Everyone is busy with work on weekdays. This group entertainment is a good opportunity for you to connect with your colleagues, and also a wonderful place for you to meet strange colleagues.

In the book "thinking, fast and slow", when you see a lot of signals and there is no malignant event after these signals, you will regard it as a safety signal.

This is called exposure therapy in clinical treatment.

In the case of acaciation, when more and more times occur without the worst possible scenario, it will reduce the assessment of its expected risk and produce cognitive relaxation.

So, if you want to be conversational and confident in your social situations, try hard to get rid of your nervousness and practice more often, and you will soon find yourself able to laugh with strangers.

Chatting is an important part of conversation with others.

Many times, when a person is not good at speaking, most of them do not know how to seize the opportunity of conversation and find the right topic.

In fact, you can start with a greeting, talk about the weather, talk about how to spend the weekend. You can also take the hot news and important industry news as a topic to see if the other person is interested. You can also try to start with actions, such as pressing the elevator floor button, and even smoking a cigarette to break the awkward silence.

At the convenience store downstairs, you can ask, "do you know the product of this brand?"

I think today's dish is too light. "

In the tea room, you can comment at random. "I also like this taste of black tea very much."

Choosing a relaxed and lively topic of rhythm and opening a smile will instantly bring you into the distance.